What a goady, judgmental post!
Other people are different to you - shocker I know!
I first fell pregnant at 18 on the pill, was taking it same time every day (I’m now diagnosed ocd and was always fastidious about this type of thing even at that age) I hadn’t had an upset stomach, hadn’t taken any meds or anything else that contraindicated. Even in clinical trials everything but abstinence has a failure rate.
“but if you know a condom splits, then surely you'd take the morning after pill?” In addition to the morning after pill not really being something where we can accurately assess its efficacy (a lack of pregnancy isn’t proof it worked because that person may not have become pregnant even without using it) it depends on where you are in your cycle and also on access to morning after pill which in some parts of UK and for certain vulnerable girls and women AND due to Nhs cuts can be a major issue.
“Plus my understanding is ovulation is really only a few days per month” Again, depends on each girl/woman. One of the factors in my fertility is I release 2 eggs each month but not at exactly the same time when not using hormonal contraception. Meaning my fertile period is longer than others (and double opportunity!), also the menstrual cycle isn’t mathematically exact! Some girls/women might have very regular cycles but many don’t and so it can be difficult for them to know when they ovulate.
3 pregnancies here, 1st contraceptive failure ended in mc, 2nd planned but fell pregnant VERY quickly after coming off pill ended in mc/ectopic requiring surgery, 3rd pregnancy planned again fell pregnant very quickly after not only stopping contraception but also another medication which had impeding ovulation as side effect, result dd, but I suspect it was possibly a twin pregnancy with twin lost to early partial mc due to certain symptoms I had.
I’ve friends who’ve fallen pregnant on the coil, implant, after using morning after pill, after they were sterilised, after he was sterilised... it happens, bodies are not machines. Nature isn’t exact.
But also people are human and fallible, nobody is perfect not even you op. So I’ve also been supportive of friends who’ve become pregnant from “moments of madness”, forgetting a pill, not realising the antibiotic they were prescribed was contraindicated etc.
Some had abortions, not an option I personally would choose but I was happy to be supportive of their choice to do so and am pro choice generally. If you don’t agree with abortion? Fine don’t have one but it’s not for you to decide what others do.
Following my 1st pregnancy I opted to “double up” by being on the pill and using condoms but then I’m also from the generation that reached age of consent at height of aids crisis and with the ocd I’m quite paranoid about sexual health side of things too. But that’s me and I wouldn’t necessarily expect others to be the same. Given how easily and quickly I got pregnant as soon as I stopped using contraception I think it was the right decision BUT I also think there’s still an element of luck that I didn’t fall pregnant even using 2 types of contraception as I know people that’s happened to as well.
And quite honestly it’s clear the only reason you regret posting your stance on abortion is because you’ve been criticised for it.
The iud (coil) failure rate may be low - but again that’s perfect use and there are many cases of them being improperly fitted etc, the issue there for you is that it’s not the woman’s fault then for it failing but you would have them continue the pregnancy.
Guess you better hope yours was properly fitted eh.