To ask how people 'accidentally' get pregnant?

[Butterflyone12e]

I honestly do wonder how people say they fell pregnant by accident. Of course I can understand the horrific situation if sexual abuse/rape was involved but do people honestly fall accidentally pregnant?

I'm 33 years of age and have never fallen pregnant because I've not wanted to fall pregnant.

I wondered what peoples stories are. I really disagree with terminations (again unless medial or abuse).

I and genuinely confused about how people get accidentally pregnant

Even with perfect use, no method of contraception is 100% successful.

Was careless 2-3 times so my own stupid fault and I ended the pregnancy very quickly. I regret being stupid. One friend got pregnant on the coil but the rest of the accidental pregnancies I know of have all been carelessness, some kept, some not.

I got pregnant by accident. 19 years old, on the pill, no messing around with it.

I missed 2 periods went to my GP and arranged an abortion. Because I did not want a child, didn't have the wherewithal to bring one up even if I had wanted one.

How can you judge me? How?

The morning after pill works by delaying ovulation. If the condom splits but you’re already ovulating then you could still get pregnant.

‘ There's no gloating on anything here, I was genuinely wondering what peoples stories were. I had realised contraception could fail so often. Plus my understanding is ovulation is really only a few days per month so again it just seems unlucky if you were to have failed contraception whilst ovulating.’

This is the thing- we never really ‘know’ when we’re ovulating unless it’s medically induced- even temp charting is off.

Sperm can survive for 5 days and the egg we release can survive for 24 so 🤷‍♀️ It gives a lot of time in between.

I got pregnant 4 times, in my 30's when contraception failed. I didn't know it had failed until I did the pregnancy test.

How do all the incredibly fertile people know they are incredibly fertile and not just normal, if all it takes is one sperm and no contraception is 100%?

Or do we need to spell it out in larger letters so you can read it from your moral high ground?

I am so pilfering this phrase ...and yes , this is all I'm taking from this thread .

Have you never had a sex ed lesson or read the packaging on or leaflets about contraception? How is it possible to get to your age and not understand how unplanned pregnancies happen?

Well you see one day I was running along the hall after dp had mopped.. silly mistake shouldn’t run indoors... and I slipped fell and landed right on his dick!... that much more interesting for you? Totally fabricated but maybe more what you’d hoped for?

Ds1 same pill for years.. endo and pcos on top of that so deemed unlikely to fall pregnant easily anyway.. taken religiously at the same time and not missed or anything exciting. Thought I had a chest infection coming, had steriods, still unwell developed symptoms like a previous stomach ulcer.. nope that was hg setting in. Family shocked as there’s multiple ivf babies in the family and the rest were iui or several years of trying.

Dc2 (in the oven) had sex once.. once... while combi feeding and pumping. Didn’t suppress that egg apparently.

Either I’d advise no one makes direct eye contact with dp once he takes his glasses off or I’m the only really fertile woman in 3 generations.

Got pregnant twice whilst on the pill. Hadn't missed any. Total accidents.

Because I had fertility treatment to have my son, was told my PCOS was so bad I'd never have a child without fertility treatment, changed medication for a chronic medical condition and accidentally fell pregnant.

The medication was causing my PCOS but the doctors didn't connect them.

How irresponsible am I?

@Butterflyone12e I'm 33 and it took us well over 12yrs to fall pregnant when we wanted to. Maybe you're actually infertile like I was👏

7 pregnancies. 4 babies. Only 5 planned.

1 of them Conceived while I was on the pill. As far as I know I took it correctly.

Other one was an drunken night of celebrations. We used a condom but obviously not correctly. That pregnancy ended in a termination which I do not regret one little bit.

I get pregnant very, very easily. All of my planned pregnancies happened in the first month of trying. Husband is on the waiting list for a vasectomy now.

Because I thought it would be fine not to use a condom that one time.

@Butterflyone12e I'm 33 and it took us well over 12yrs to fall pregnant when we wanted to. Maybe you're actually infertile like I was 🤷‍♀️

Because they mean they weren’t making a concerted effort to conceive.

It was a “happy accident” often means they just decided to see what happened. So no contraception but equally no calendars/thermometers/clinics.

Then also contraception failure, told they were infertile, thought they were too old.

I got very drunk with my then dp and puked up my pill from a hideous hangover. Dd is sitting next to me watching Shrek.

I’ve also been 17 and completely and utterly stupid with contraception and had an abortion. Such is my right as a woman.

If you don’t like abortions, don’t have them. People makes mistakes, accidental or not. That’s just part of human nature. No one is perfect.

1. On the pill. Was sick, so used condom, condom split. Miscarried.
2. Planned pregnancy. Positive pregnancy test 17 days after we started "trying."
3. Planned pregnancy. Took 5 weeks to conceive this time (was still breastfeeding DC1)
4. Had intended to start trying for DC3 after we had been on holiday, but had a split condom six weeks before our "starting to try" date. Swithered about the MAP, but decided to risk it as we did want another child, just didn't want morning sickness on holiday.
5. No idea. Not aware of contraceptive failure. Miscarried.
6. Planned pregnancy. Started trying, then stopped 2 weeks later because MIL was diagnosed with serious illness. Had fallen pregnant in that 2 week window, but miscarried.

So 2 planned pregnancies where I was pregnant almost immediately, one where it took 5 weeks, possibly because I was breastfeeding, 3 pregnancies as the result of single contraceptive failures.

I think I'm just very fertile, although sadly also prone to miscarriage.

Fell pregnant after using a condom. No MAP as there was no split or obvious problem.

Then fell pregnant on the coil. Went for a termination for that one, asked not to see the scan screen, woman in the clinic decided to be a bitch and showed it (she lost her job for her actions) and asked if I was really sure

I'm not sure why your views on terminations were relevant to your original question .....

You do sound incredibly smug.

I got pregnant on the pill. I took it at the same time every day, I hadn't been ill. As many others have said, contraception isn't 100%.

At the start of mine and my DH relationship, I was 18, we were using condoms and the only one that actually broke was 1 after it turned out I was already pregnant. I terminated that pregnancy for several reasons one of which was my parents made me.
I now have 2 kids and fell pregnant with both the first month of trying.

@Butterflyone12e Well in my case i accidently fell on a penis.Ooops.🤷‍♀️

Charmatt

The same GP a who prescribed me incorrectly told me I didn’t need contraception because I was infertile. No wonder people get pregnant accidentally if the medical advice they’re given is duff!