To ask how people 'accidentally' get pregnant?

[Butterflyone12e]

I honestly do wonder how people say they fell pregnant by accident. Of course I can understand the horrific situation if sexual abuse/rape was involved but do people honestly fall accidentally pregnant?

I'm 33 years of age and have never fallen pregnant because I've not wanted to fall pregnant.

I wondered what peoples stories are. I really disagree with terminations (again unless medial or abuse).

Getting pregnant while on the pill or other highly tested birth control is very very very rare. You all need to stop lying to yourselves

Condoms and the Pill have a failure rate of 1-2% a year even with perfect usage. There are about 3.5 million women in the UK using the Pill for contraception. With perfect usage, that is a rate of 35,000 unplanned pregnancies a year. In women who were using contraception diligently and perfectly.

Even the most effective form of female contraception, Mirena, if 1 million women were using it, 2,000 would get pregnant. A year.

If pregnancy would be an utter disaster for you, it is wise to use two forms of contraception or at least one very reliable form which doesn't leave opportunities for user error. But for many people a pregnancy actually wouldn't be a disaster. They don't want to try, but nor do they want to have a crappy or no sex life. I don't want to try for another baby, but I don't not want one enough to make my sex life rubbish.

I knew a woman who I specifically told that she could get pregnant during the week of her period when she didn't take her pill, we honestly must have had a 30 minute conversation about it. 3 months later she told everyone she got accidentally pregnant as she didn't know you could get pregnant the week off your pill during your period. Her partner had decided to leave the country and I always felt bad that he had to stay. I did call her up on it but she said she had forgotten . Another woman I knew who got accidentally pregnant, did it becuase she didn't use contraception as they were drunk and she didn't take the morning after pill as thought she'd be okay.
I know 2 percent of the time contraception doesn't work... it is my biggest fear becuase I am firmly OAD! But everyone I know who got accidentally pregnant did it by not using contraception then calling it an accident.

So? Are you under the impression that your opinion is very important?

It’s as valid as any other opinion. Of course she can’t decide whether other people have an abortion (it’s obviously their choice) but many people find abortion abhorrent and that view is still a valid opinion even if most people on MN seem to take a very different view on abortion.

It's very easy to get pregnant on the pill. I thought mine had a 12 hour window, it didn't. It had a few four window...
And yes, you ovulate for only a couple of days. But if you are horny as hell in those couple of days.....

I don't like your judgement on abortions. Have a baby or not, but don't judge or make silly statements until you've been caught out and you're unsure.

I don't like your judgement on abortions

This is the point my last post was making. OP probably doesn’t doesn’t like your view on abortion either. She stated her view and didn’t try to force it on anyone.

I got pregnant with DS because I was stupid enough to fall for the pressure to use hormonal contraception.

I’ve used a diaphragm since I started having sex at 17, I’m now 34 and I’ve never had a single issue with it.

When I was in my late teens my GP heavily tried to pressure me to use hormonal contraceptives and when I was 20 I finally gave in and agreed to try them for 6 months.
I mostly used them with condoms but they killed my sex drive so we weren’t having as much sex anyway.
After 6 months I went back to the gp to tell him I hated the hormonal contraception and was going to go back to using my diaphragm....that’s when I found out I was pregnant. 😕

You all need to stop lying to yourselves
I’m not lying to myself or anyone else. It happens!!!!

I still cannot work out how despite it being my supposed Infertile time of the month, being on the pill AND taking the morning after pill it happened. But it did. Sometimes I think babies have other ideas

I've fallen accidentally pregnant at least twice. Once was a broken condom, failed coil insertion, MAP (which failed to work properly) & about 8-10 weeks later I miscarried. The second that I'm sure of, I had a coil in at the time. Again, miscarried it several weeks later. Neither were pleasant experiences & I'm not really sure what else I could have done to prevent either from happening.

@CmdrCressidaDuck

I don’t doubt that the figures you’ve quoted are correct but you’re falling into the trap of equating contraception failure rates to pregnancy!

Each failure still only carries the usual 20% (ish) chance of causing a pregnancy which means with 3.5 million women and 35,000 contraception failures - that’s actually approx 7000 unplanned pregnancies.

The same can be said if your Minerva example. It’s 2000 failures (not pregnancies) from which you could reasonably expect 400 pregnancies.

Data like this is very helpful BUT it’s so important to interpret it properly. I feel very sorry for these 7400 women a year - BUT that simply doesn’t explain the hundreds of thousands of women who claim their pregnancies were accidental.

Anecdotally (and I actually only tried one pharmacy)

But we had a condom incident a few years back, when I went to the chemist with regards the MAP, they said there was no need to prescribe as I was on the mini pill. No idea if that’s standard practice. They asked me about how I took it (perfectly) and said the MAP wasn’t needed.

Had a condom split. took the morning after pill. wasn't sick or anything. she will be 30 this year

Well done you 👏🏻 come along to the winners podium to collect your prize. Oh and have a

www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/article/0b08c69f-fec8-4924-af56-19ada7b14646

This is an article I read yesterday about MAP and why it doesn't always work

What does it matter to you OP (and your mates) about the definition of an accident ?
Accidents take many forms and these have been explained IN LENGTH.

I think you have personal issues re pregnancy that need addressed and should not be taken out on women who get pregnant easily.
Retaining that level of bitterness is not healthy.
Or you’re just a goody fucker (and your mates).

I got pregnant hoovering a mans bedroom btw.

I was tracking my fertility and avoiding pregnancy that way. Got my cycle muddled up after taking norethisterone to delay my period for a holiday. Was a happy accident though as we were thinking about children anyway.

Loosely TTC number 2 now, thought I’d fall pregnant straight away given last time, but hasn’t happened yet.

Condoms and the Pill have a failure rate of 1-2% a year even with perfect usage. There are about 3.5 million women in the UK using the Pill for contraception. With perfect usage, that is a rate of 35,000 unplanned pregnancies a year. In women who were using contraception diligently and perfectly.

This.

Some people need to remember that language is interpreted differently by different people, who's to say just because a woman didn't have a "true" contraceptive failure, that she can't call forgetting a pill, split condom, didn't think she'd need MAP an accident? It is an accident of sorts, the statistics are still very much in favour of not getting pregnant and some people weigh up risk differently.

Also remember, no one owes YOU an explanation as to why they are pregnant, before judging ask yourself why she is labelling it that way but remember it's not our business anyway!!

Well aren't you just fantastic for not falling pregnant accidentally and letting us know all about it! Well done!

I got v confused about the statistics. I think it was 97% sucess with condoms when I was learning in school 25 years ago (gosh Im old.)

I was in a girls school with roughly 100 girls in my year. I wondered if we were all having sex that would mean 3 a year would have an accidental preganncy, so over 20 years 60/100 of is would have had contraceptive failure births?? Or if it didnt really mean that...

I got pregnant while fitted with a mirena coil, only found out when I was in A&E with a miscarriage. It happens.

I don’t doubt that the figures you’ve quoted are correct but you’re falling into the trap of equating contraception failure rates to pregnancy!

That’s not a trap, that’s how contraception failure is measured.

A lot of the time it isn't contraceptive failure. If a woman wants a baby she will get pregnant and blame it on contraceptive failure.

You haven't misinterpreted at all, other than it's highly unlikely that the unplanned pregnancies would:
A. Result in births as there would be associated miscarriages and terminations.
B. Would be equally distributed, so some women would have more than one
C. Be associated at individual level at that risk because not everyone is having sex 3x a week every week. Lesbians aren't going to get pregnant either.

So in conclusion far less than 60% would actually have an unplanned pregnancy but it's hardly uncommon either!

If you disagree with terminations then I have some really good news for you OP. You don’t have to have one. How amazing is that?

I have 2 planned children and 2 accidental children. 🤷🏼‍♀️ Big deal.