To ask how people 'accidentally' get pregnant?

[Butterflyone12e]

I honestly do wonder how people say they fell pregnant by accident. Of course I can understand the horrific situation if sexual abuse/rape was involved but do people honestly fall accidentally pregnant?

I'm 33 years of age and have never fallen pregnant because I've not wanted to fall pregnant.

I wondered what peoples stories are. I really disagree with terminations (again unless medial or abuse).

I think it's more about those who lie about using contraception when they haven't been, especially with the pill rather than genuine cases. Conveniently stops working as soon as they want a baby.

Also antibiotics don't actually stop the pill from working. It's only if you have the side effect of sickness & diarrhoea it prevents absorption so other precautions really need to be used.

I don’t doubt that the figures you’ve quoted are correct but you’re falling into the trap of equating contraception failure rates to pregnancy!

...what? That is quite literally how contraception failure is defined and measured. Thats what it is. Pregnancy. That is explicitly laid out in every official table of contraception effectiveness - that 98% effectiveness with perfect use means 2% of users get pregnant. A year.

Yes, the majority of fertilised eggs don't implant and are lost, but how do you think studies would even have known that had happened to measure it as a "failure"? Do you think a test group of women have cameras up their bits around the clock? Nobody cares if sperm meets egg as long as the resulting embryo can't implant.

If you disagree with terminations then I have some really good news for you OP. You don’t have to have one. How amazing is that?

What a stupid comment and I bet you felt really pleased with yourself for it
OP disagrees with abortions and that’s her valid opinion.

Pill failure here. Luckily children were on the cards at some point in the future anyway but we wanted to get married first.

Also FTR, my figure of 3.5m women on the Pill in the UK is from 2010, when figures appear to have last been officially collected. But with typical use of the Pill, that could be the better part of 100,000 pregnancies a year in women who were using the Pill reasonably well to perfectly. And another 100,000 in women who were relying on condoms.

I got pregnant with my twin girls whilst on the pill. HTH

Pill failure for me too, wasn't ill, hadn't forgotten to take one.
Luckily, it wasn't too bad a time for me to get pregnant and DH and I got married when I was about 6 months pregnant.

I’m very fertile. First was planned- didn’t take long to get pregnant. Second was not planned. I was on the pill- I hadn’t been sick or anything...

For some reason it didn’t work and I found out I was pregnant- I was nearly 3 months pregnant when I found out.

I’ve since changed pills and I’m hoping this one works 100%!!!

Tbh OP when people say 'I got pregnant on the pill' I think 99% of the time that's code for 'I thought if I took it now and then when I remembered and that would be ok' and a lot of the time I think it's on purpose.

I don't agree with you on the terminations bit - it's a woman's choice whatever the circumstance - but yes I call bullshit on most accidental pregnancies.

Nope. Took it properly. Same time every day, no antibiotics, no tummy issues.

And I call others can't possibly know about other women's pregnancies and yes it's very possible to become pregnant on the pill the evidence is now 21 and not bullshit but studying at Exeter

I'm just very fertile, used condoms and had a coil and still got pregnant.
A friend was like you and very smug I don't want to get pregnant so I don't...she had just gone through her third round of ivf trying to get pregnant so it seems it's not the case.

‘But we had a condom incident a few years back, when I went to the chemist with regards the MAP, they said there was no need to prescribe as I was on the mini pill. No idea if that’s standard practice. They asked me about how I took it (perfectly) and said the MAP wasn’t needed.’

It is standard practice to inform a patient that they do not need to take it in circumstances where the contraception has been used correctly. However I have never stopped a woman from taking it if she requests to do so.

I had a pregnancy with which I can honestly say I do not know how I got pregnant. No unprotected sex, no drinking to the extend I'd forget unprotected sex, no contraceptive mishaps. It was a total shock and very unplanned.

I'm still baffled to this day. If someone told me it was a turkey baster jog a la Sunset Beach it'd ease my confusion.

I had never had a pregnancy scare until I was 32 and on the mini pill. I took a long haul flight across several time zones and miscalculated when I needed to take my pill. I got pregnant. It ended up as a miscarriage, so I’m sure you’d approve OP.

Through work, family, friends etc, I know a good few hundred women of child bearing age. Statistically, a handful of them will have had accidental pregnancies. Out of the hundreds of women I know in passing, through work etc, it's a small number. But if I said "I know 5 women who fell pregnant accidentally" without qualifying it, it so would sound like a lot. Thousands of people each year experience accidental pregnancies and they're likely to be on parenting boards talking about it. Confirmation bias in action.

Sweeping, sniffy, disbelieving attitudes make you sound uneducated and unkind.

Squeekums, sorry but I don't think you can actually read because you didn't seem to read what I said! Didn't I say even if before the pregnancy happens a woman seems fine with being a mother then she changes her mind, that shouldn't be an issue? So you can shove your 'forced birther' crap up your ass quite frankly.

I'm not even religious either. I just think prevention is better than cure. It's not ridiculous to suggest that people that don't want kids refrain from intercourse or double up. Am I suggesting they go without food, shelter, water? No, intercourse only. It's not a basic human need is it? Wouldn't anyone rather prevent a pregnancy than have an abortion? If there's a way to prevent it, take it. If you're ok and like the idea of having a baby, you don't need to be so careful. No contraception is 100% at the moment, there's always a risk. If you're utterly against the idea of becoming pregnant or you're a man and don't want to be a parent, refrain! Use lots of other ways for intimacy/pleasure. It just amazes me that you get men who a lot of the time don't even use anything then they come out with 'I don't want to be a father right now'... well, why were you dabbling in a risky business then mate?!

You are lucky. The only way to ensure you never get pregnant is to not have sex.

When you do decide you want children chances are you wont conceive that easily

I'll just post this again

researchers at the University of Colorado School of Medicine discovered that about 5 percent of women possess a genetic mutation that makes them produce an extra hormone-dismantling enzyme. This enzyme eats away at the ovulation-suppressing effects of hormonal birth control, lowering its effectiveness. They also found two much more common genes that had smaller but still noticeable effects.

The biggest takeaway is that we’ve assumed for so long that if a woman taking birth control gets pregnant, then she must have done something wrong,” says Aaron Lazorwitz, an ob-gyn and lead author on the study. “Instead, maybe we need to pay more attention as physicians to other things that might be going on, like genetics, so we can give better, more individualized treatment to women instead of just blindly adhering to the motto that if you just throw some hormones at it, that usually fixes the problem.”

The studies and this research is still in it's infancy, but there can definitely be a correlation between genetic makeup and contraception failure, rather than user error.

But go ahead and sneer at women for lying or being too dumb to use contraception properly.

Actually sex is a basic human need. See Maslow. Sex, shelter food and warmth are basic human needs in the hierarchy of needs to be met for self actualization.

Currently 12 weeks with an accidental pregnancy. We had been trying for over a year. Started arguing lots, I changed jobs and we were due to move to decided to stop trying until things were more settled.
We had a condom split. No I didn't get MAP as after 13 months of regular unprotected sex with no pregnancy it felt redundant.
We are not unhappy with the pregnancy...it could have been better timed but that's life.

And for what's it worth, this is my 5th pregnancy (only 1 child so far) and 2nd accidental pregnancy. First was a pill failure while on honeymoon after sickness.

I was on the pill since age 16 until we decided to have a baby when I was 28, 9 months of no contraception before I became pregnant (I started to think we would have problems conceiving). Since then I have been pregnant 4 times all planned all at first month of trying.

DH has now had a vasectomy and I’m on the mini Pill, belt and braces!

I was on the pill for 10 years and didn’t get pregnant, then when I came off to TTC and everything was perfectly timed it took nearly 2 years to conceive. At the time I was very bitter, questioning how people could get pregnant accidentally when I couldn’t do it on purpose. And then I’d find forum posts where people were getting pregnant a day after their period whilst on the pill and using a condom!

I realise though it was my own insecurities and fears about not being able to conceive. Some people are more fertile than others. Contraception does fail occasionally.

I'm 33 years of age and have never fallen pregnant because I've not wanted to fall pregnant.

Or maybe it's because you're not very fertile