To ask how people 'accidentally' get pregnant?

[Butterflyone12e]

I honestly do wonder how people say they fell pregnant by accident. Of course I can understand the horrific situation if sexual abuse/rape was involved but do people honestly fall accidentally pregnant?

I'm 33 years of age and have never fallen pregnant because I've not wanted to fall pregnant.

I wondered what peoples stories are. I really disagree with terminations (again unless medial or abuse).

Some people are more fertile than others. I don't have a great deal of patience with (so far) childless women banging on about how they never needed an abortion because they ''used contraception properly" - the reason they have never been pregnant might well be that they are not very fertile - or the men they had PIV sex with are not very fertile. Most people have no idea about their own fertility until they are trying to start a pregnancy.

I got pregnant by accident. Yes, I was careless but at the time I was 39 and inclined to believe I probably wasn't very fertile, because I had had an awful lot of PIV sex and not all of it had involved obsessive carefulness with contraception... yet I had never needed an abortion.

If you have a bug you can take your pill as usual but vomit or have the shits.

Condoms break

Implants are inserted incorrectly or with wrappers on

The morning after pill doesn't work.

Injections are a bit late because of no appts.

Medication interupts and you don't realise

Your head is massively up your arse

Yes because the world is just black and white

I’ve been pregnant 6 times at least. 2 were planned. The others all using contraception. I work in woman’s health, so I’m not a total dunce when it comes to female anatomy.

It happens.

Lucky you OP.

Lucky me that DP and I had a drunken shag after a particularly brilliant evening and for whatever reason the pill failed to stop me being pregnant. The result is a fucking amazing 14 yr old. So glad.

Everything already discussed, also it’s not really “an accident” and you knowingly have unprotected sex not expecting it will really happen the one and only time! But rather than explaining to nosey gits, you say it wasn’t planned/an accident.

What does it matter to you? Other than to be a goady fucker and to tell us all you’re anti abortion. Well done.

For the re

It is true though, if people don't want to be parents, they could just not have sexual intercourse. What's so crazy about that? Can we not survive without intercourse? Is it a basic need? Until there's full proof contraception, the best way not to end up with an unplanned pregnancy is to refrain. There's lots of other ways to be intimate. I would suggest to anyone that really, really does not want to get pregnant or be a parent and know it would most likely end in abortion, just refrain. For those that would be ok with a pregnancy and being a parent, fill your boots. That does not mean that a woman for example that would be ok with a pregnancy then gets to 6/7 weeks and freaks out and doesn't want the baby continues the pregnancy. Essentially what I'm saying is, people that 100% do not want a child at any given time would be best off considering refraining from intercourse or at the very least, taking birth control and using a condom but it will never happen as our judgement when it comes to 'being in the moment' is akin to that of an animal, minimal thought is given at the time or in the moment

You're basically calling people evil for deciding to abort but yeah... sorry they're being a little rude

For the record the explanation I set out was me and the resultant child is the best thing ever. But if it hadn’t been that way I would have terminated

Told I couldn't have kids at 16 - severely damaged Fallopian tubes from a huge abscess. On the pill anyway (for more control of periods). No sickness, no forgetting the pill. Still got pregnant. Took me almost 3 months to realise as it never even occurred to me that might be why I was having regular naps after work and the smell of mince and tatties started to make me feel sick.
Wondered if the docs had made mistake when I was 16 but I had a C-section and the surgeon said he had no idea how I'd managed to get pregnant (and have a successful pregnancy at that) with so much scarring/damage on both tubes. Apparently the odds it should have been ectopic were astronomical.

Said accident is now a teenager. Definitely an accidental pregnancy. Definitely an accident I've never regretted!

Contraception fails are a load of bollocks let's face it most people fall pregnant because they were too drunk, horny, lazy to reach for the condoms. Getting pregnant while on the pill or other highly tested birth control is very very very rare. You all need to stop lying to yourselves 🙄

I've been on the pill and taken the morning after pill on top and still got pregnant. I also chose to have a termination. Unsure why your opinion on that is at all relevant. You sound extremely uneducated to be honest.

Contraception fails are a load of bollocks let's face it most people fall pregnant because they were too drunk, horny, lazy to reach for the condoms.

So? Even if that was the case what does it matter? Since when do people have to justify how they got pregnant and whether it was accidental, deliberate, negligent, or otherwise? What does it matter to anyone beyond the parents? Maybe people are just trying to protect themselves from goady judgemental fuckers.

Getting pregnant while on the pill or other highly tested birth control is very very very rare. You all need to stop lying to yourselves

If only there was a reason that a parenting website would have a higher concentration than the average website of people who had a contraception failure...

I have 5 children,
I asked to be sterilised as I’m very fertile, yet the consultant told me sterilisation is basically two pegs on Fallopian tubes which can actually come loose or drop off. She said it’s one of the least safe methods and advised me to have a coil instead. So far it’s working...(fingers crossed and legs)
Lots of women have conceived with a coil, in the pill, using condoms, or withdrawal method. The only way to guarantee not getting pregnant is by not having sex at all or having no uterus.
Besides, just because some women fall pregnant accidentally, it’s often not a negative thing. We continue the pregnancy and have a very much loved baby. So it’s irrelevant really.

The reality is that people who are careless with contraception will also claim they got "accidentally" pregnant rather than admit they just weren't being responsible.

Friend tells people she got pregnant on the pill. Full story is she was on the minipill and due to work travel didn't take it every day and the days she took it, not always at the same time. So she didn't get pregnant on the pill because she wasn't properly taking it.

Another friend says she and DP fell pregnant accidentally very early on in the relationship. Then later admitted she wasn't on any contraception and they weren't diligent using condoms. How is that an accident?!

Statistically it is a very small minority of women who fall pregnant with correct contraception use. For those women it's shit luck and I feel sorry for them. For the rest who pretend they accidentally got pregnant when they were having PIV without any protection - congratulations because I guess you wanted a baby.

@missyousomuch
Why would you feel sorry for women who fall pregnant by accident? Plenty of women choose to have the baby and do so with happiness.

Not being dilligent with contraception is still an accident. It’s not an accident when it’s either planned or someone says they are using contraception but they actually are not.

I got pregnant on the copper coil, it was perfectly in place. No contraception is 100% but "accident" can mean a myriad of things.

Why would you feel sorry for women who fall pregnant by accident? Plenty of women choose to have the baby and do so with happiness.

Because they didn't want to get pregnant and took the steps to prevent it as much as possible. Just because they may end up having the baby and happy about it, doesn't mean that that's the outcome they wanted. And you're ignoring the women in those situations who A) get a termination and B) have the baby and don't end up happy about it. There's plenty of reasons to have sympathy for them.

I had the copper coil for 5 years. Suited me perfectly, hadn’t had sex for a year but the one time I do I get pregnant! Gp wasn’t surprised, I bloody was!
Went for a scan at the hospital. The coil was still there but had been shifted slightly to the left and so it was ineffective
Nurse told me she had seen 10 births where the coil was attached to the babies umbilical cord

I have never heard of someone falling pregnant if they were using two forms of contraception simultaneously. Which is what you do if you do t want to be pregnant. It’s not rocket science.

It is true though, if people don't want to be parents, they could just not have sexual intercourse. What's so crazy about that? Can we not survive without intercourse? Is it a basic need? Until there's full proof contraception, the best way not to end up with an unplanned pregnancy is to refrain. There's lots of other ways to be intimate. I would suggest to anyone that really, really does not want to get pregnant or be a parent and know it would most likely end in abortion, just refrain. For those that would be ok with a pregnancy and being a parent, fill your boots. That does not mean that a woman for example that would be ok with a pregnancy then gets to 6/7 weeks and freaks out and doesn't want the baby continues the pregnancy. Essentially what I'm saying is, people that 100% do not want a child at any given time would be best off considering refraining from intercourse or at the very least, taking birth control and using a condom but it will never happen as our judgement when it comes to 'being in the moment' is akin to that of an animal, minimal thought is given at the time or in the moment

Oh your a crazed forced birther who uses all the fundy christian rhetoric
Ewwww
How about, you worry about your sex life and everyone else will take care of theirs.

Yeah I had your attitude about this (minus the abortion beliefs - I do believe women have the right to do whatever they want with their own bodies).
I got accidentally pregnant at 35 - I'm allergic to the pill/injection/implant etc and was advised to have neither of the coils for other medical reasons. And I NEVER got pregnant accidentally by being careful - until we went on a two week holiday and we had a contraceptive malfunction on the first day. Where we were left us no way of dealing with this. If I'd been at home I'd have taken the morning after pill (which I'm not supposed to take for the same reason I'm not allowed the normal pill).

I still don't have a lot of sympathy for 'accidental' pregnancies as I don't think it's wise to use only one type of contraception. But it's clear that accidents can and do happen.

I'll just leave this here... there is also another one where the baby came out holding the IUD 🤣...

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Most popular month for birthdays is September....9 months after the Christmas party season. Now do you get it OP?