AIBU to be pissed off with this gift

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DH has been away for the best part of a week. Technically a work trip, but was being hosted on a jolly.

On the way out he messaged from the airport to ask if I wanted anything from duty free. I said no thanks, then followed up with another message asking him not to buy anything as we have just bought a house and are a bit broke at the moment.

He’s just returned, and got the kids to throw a bag at me - my present of some perfume from duty free. I have one favorite perfume that I’ve worn for years, I don’t want to change this. I still have an unopened perfume that he gave me a year ago, now I have two.

He went to a really interesting country that I’ve not been to, and would have loved something from there. Not a flashy afterthought from the airport on the way back. It’s like he didn’t put any effort at all into finding something I might like, but threw money at something at the very end. I honestly would rather have had nothing.

So AIBU for really not wanting this gift? U is for ungrateful.

Yeah YABU. If you were annoyed he got you a gift and wasted money when you explicitly told him not to I would say reasonable. But you’re not. You told him not to get you anything and now you’re whining he got you the wrong thing.

I get how this made you feel, I hate not being listened to. He compounded that with an expensive gift that you won’t use. I don’t think you want suggestions on what to do with it, just an understanding that he was being a bit of a twat and you have a right to feel pissed off. Here have a bunch of imaginary 💐

I agree with Quietintheranks - he has ignored you so no wonder you are annoyed. You are best off finding a way to put it to one side ... unless it is less of a one-off and more of a pattern of behaviour.

In my experience little disses like this are easy to brush off if the overall picture is that he listens and shows affection in other ways. However little disses like this can also feel so much worse when they are part of a bigger picture.

"I agree with Quietintheranks - he has ignored you so no wonder you are annoyed."

To be fair, it seems op wanted to be ignored. It's just that she wanted a souvenir from the country he visited rather than perfume.

YABU, I wish my husband would buy me perfume. At least he bought you something, mine never gets me anything.

So because you're prepared to put up with getting nothing, everyone should?

@MrsTerryPratchett you read my mind...