I have a house guest who has been in bed since Saturday and her husband doesn’t seem bothered. WWYD?

[hangingabout]

DH’s cousin and his new wife arrived on Saturday from the US. They’re only here until tomorrow. On Saturday afternoon, I had made lunch for about 20 people because other relatives came over to see them, but the wife went to bed after about one hour. All she ate was a tiny piece of roti and she was very quiet. Fair enough, I thought, she’s probably jet-lagged. Anyway, she has not been seen since! I’m not sure what to do now.
Yesterday morning, I made brunch but she didn’t surface. DH said to just leave a tray outside her door and knock. She didn’t answer, but the tray had disappeared later on. Then DH and his cousin were cycling all afternoon, but no sign of her. I asked the cousin if his wife was ok when they got back and he said she was “just lying down” and didn’t need any dinner. Then DH took him to the pub.
Today I was meant to be taking her out but still no sign. DH has gone to work and the cousin has gone to meet some business contacts. I have 3 teen / tweens here. AIBU to just go out and leave her a note?

Agree with a pp upthread. Maybe she thinks she's in a sort of guest house? Were you introduced properly when they arrived?

@hangingabout you're all going out for dinner tonight is that right? Then she'll have to come out of the room. Will you come back and let us all know how dinner goes? Bit obsessed with this thread, it's just so strange

I'd just ignore her completely, she's ignoring you, why should you provide free room service?

Where is she now? We need to know!

How odd! How old is she? Is it possible she has morning sickness but is in the early stages and doesn't want to say?!

My cousin got married, (bride was a little demanding but also very lovely and charming and sociable up until the wedding) she came from quite a wealthy family, (cousin comes from a very normal family but has done extremely well in his career) wedding was amazing etc.

They then went to go and visit his parents who live abroad (beautiful location, very modest home they are lovely kind people) and new wife also refused to leave the room, had a few meals but otherwise was suffering from a headache etc. Needed to rest.

Cousin and his wife never returned to visit after that (even though before wedding he'd been a frequent guest, maybe twice a year) it transpired years later that she felt their lifestyle too basic and below her....and couldn't see the need to be polite or even pretend, she was just biding her time until the trip was over.

She has turned out to be real trouble, but cousin adores her and has willingly given up on his family for her.

I hope your DH acknowledges what a shit weekend you’ve had. He’s totally stitched up your weekend lumbering you with her.

Knock and say you need to change the bed sheets and clean...

@purplepalace

Exactly what I was thinking earlier today.

Nothing complicated....just a case of can't be arsed!

The men in your family sound like arrogant, entitled pricks. Tell them where to go! And stop hanging around waiting for the OK from everyone else before getting on with your own life and day. I was told by an older female relative (and it is true), that if you lie on the floor, everyone will walk over you. So, don't be a 'doormat' any longer for them.

Did you go out for your Thai meal?

This is like a very long, boring, drawn out episode of EastEnders. I am hooked. Can't wait for the Thai meal climax.

Is she catheterized?! How on earth did she survive not weeing for all that time?!

Dont know what you're all hoping will happen TBH. shes clearly just rude and doesnt want to leave her room. Case closed

Or is it Patroclus???
Dum,
Dum,
Dum
dun dun dun dun....

(That's the EastEnders drum beats in case that's not clear..)

could she have drained your data limit by watching Netflix for 72 hours?

Do people still have data limits on home broadband? That's insane! You need to get a new provider!!

The men in your family sound like arrogant, entitled pricks

Room bound guest sounds like an arrogant prick tbh

I think they are leaving tomorrow from what I remember from posts. Happy days, and no repeat invites will be extended I reckon.

The thing that gets me is the absence of social interaction or apologies or whatever from the silent and absent guest. Some people do just not conform at all! Meh.

They should have stayed close by independently.

Sorry I can well imagine this is like a boring Eastenders, but we are now going out and just waiting for her to get ready DH and cousin all chatty as usual. I said to the cousin I was worried as she’s not been out the room all day. He said, “Oh resting was she?” I don’t know what to say, but will update if she does indeed emerge and join us for dinner and if she speaks.

This is so odd.
I think you need to just be blunt and say its offended you. You've been so kind and she's just been rude.

I'll be interested to hear how dinner goes.
Also, does the room have an en suite?!

That is weird, hopefully it's just anxiety or early pregnancy, and nothing worse x

It sounds like she's suffering from anxiety, but I would be concerned too.

By coincidence I'm currently reading a book where this happens, but I've never known it happen in real life before.

How much resting does one person need to do??

Your DH and his cousin are playing you for an absolute mug.

Maybe she will emerge resplendent...