DH Shaved his head

[PennyHoffsteader]

I hate it. He used a beard trimmer to shave it all off. I can't even look at him. He had such beautiful hair, and now it's gone. I know it's his hair and it's up to him, but AIBU to be so annoyed and upset?

Yabu, it's his hair 🤷‍♀️

Bad time to fo it.

Won't he be chilly?

He'll need a hat.

Get a grip, it's his hair, his choice. Imagine of this was reversed - my wife's cut her hair, and now I can't look at her, I'm so upset and angry --- every response would say ltb...

He looks like a thug tho 🙈🙈🙈

My DH does this from time to time.
I hate it, and it makes him look thuggish tbh. He shaved it again yesterday, his mom gets married next week, so he'll be looking thuggish in the photos for years to come.

I know it isn't remotely the end of the world but I'd be absolutely devastated. YANBU

Yes! As you say, it's his hair. Reverse the situation before you show anger and you'll realise why this is a bad idea. Let him know you loved it before, of course, but don't make him feel bad about how he looks now. Nobody would appreciate that. My DP has sudden changes in hair and it takes me a while to get used to it. The brief look of horror on my face is a joke between us, in fact, but only because I know he enjoys the joke.

YANBU to feel upset. It's your feelings. And that's a pretty big change if it's unexpected.

YWBU to start yelling about it.

And I agree, a shaved head on a man often gives the impression of "thug".

I'd be very upset too. Shaved is very unsexy to me same as stubble is.

Unfortunately as its his hair you are being a little unreasonable, however, you can tell him you don't like it, my dp did this when I had a fringe cut in... Then my mum, dad and brother joined in, if ds could have talked he probably would have too

But back to your dp, as he will be cold at the wedding please please please get him one of these!!!!

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Well it certainly is very drastic.

Try and be kind but YANBU to say I really prefer your head with hair on it!

But it is his choice. You also have the choice to not like it.

As others have said, it's his body. However, YANBU to not like it.

How about telling him that how he wears/doesn't wear his hair is up to him but that shaved heads is not a look you find attractive and is quite a turn off for you.

It’ll grow back, if he wants it to.

YANBU

I would be absolutely gutted if my husband shaved his head. It isn't a look I like and I love his hair.

It might be 'only hair' but hair can make a huge difference to how someone looks.

Would your DH be happy for you to shave your head, OP? If not then you have every right to be annoyed and upset.

Yes, it's your partner's hair and they can do what they like with it but we are, in part, attracted to our partner's physical attributes. How would he feel if you decided he was no longer attractive to you sexually because of shaving his head?

I haven't shouted at all. We're not a shouty couple. We're generally a happy go lucky best friends type of couple. But I can't understand why. Plus he used a beard trimmer, not regular clippers. So it's super super short. Like tennis ball head short...

My DP attacks his head with clippers every once in a while - hair is either an over grown mess with straggly beard or there's an awful uneven close crop. He can easily afford a proper haircut but thinks it's great that he can do as good a job himself 😒

Interestingly, I lost my hair through chemo a couple of years ago and managed to look much nicer than him with a shaved head!

DH shaved his head a few years ago and I HATED it. Really hated it. I dislike shaved heads on anyone so I was gutted when he did it. Thankfully he didn’t like it either and grew it again

To be fair, I once cut my long hair into a short bob and he hated that too.

Of course it’s his hair, his body and he can make his own decisions but YANBU to dislike it and have an opinion.

Shaved is very unsexy

It absolutely isn't. It's sexy as hell on men and women. I shave mine on number zero clippers. It's amazing

Would you be happy if he reacted this way to you getting your hair cut?

Nice legs

Are you a man or woman?

Is he going bald/thinning on top? My DH has a lovely head of hair when he was young but when he realised he was losing it he didn’t want to end up looking like wosshisname with the combover..

I wouldn't like it either, but then he wouldn't like me to have a drastic hair change either. I wouldn't let that stop me, neither should he.

Tell him how much you liked his hair before and maybe he'll grow it back.

Shaved heads can look amazing on the right person. I have a friend who shaves her head but she has a nicely shaped head, enormous bright blue eyes and dark eyebrows and delicate features with a great jawline. She's very cara delavigne.

I also know a few men with shaved heads who pull it off well.

But for the vast majority it looks awful.

Yanbu to be upset, though it is his hair and he can do what he likes with it. I'd be devastated if my dp did this, just as he'd be gutted if I did it (my hair is my best feature and he really likes it, so I'd never shave it off, because it would upset him and I think willingly and knowingly doing something that would upset the person you are meant to love is a pretty awful thing to do.)

Did he have nits?

I wouldn't be pleased either, hate shaved heads. It is his hair, true, but being attracted to someone includes a lot of things, hair is one of them. If you no longer fancy him it matters.