DH Shaved his head

[PennyHoffsteader]

I hate it. He used a beard trimmer to shave it all off. I can't even look at him. He had such beautiful hair, and now it's gone. I know it's his hair and it's up to him, but AIBU to be so annoyed and upset?

mine completely shaves his head (balding), you would be amazed how many people assume he is racist because of how it looks - some of the comments racist people have said to him as they wrongly assume he is the same is awful

I totally feel you on this. My ex had typical male pattern baldness, but that's the only way I'd ever known him, and he used to have it to about a number 2, plus a beard. For goodness knows what reason, every so often he'd go to a Turkish barber, and just get rid of everything. I don't think it's possible to have a closer shave than he had.

He's relatively pale, and has pale eyebrows and lashes, so when he did that, he just looked ill. It was absolutely horrible. But he wouldn't accept it - even when he got comments from other people saying he looked ill!

I didn't have a say because obviously it was his head, but it was honestly horrific.

My DH shaves his. It looks a lot better than the balding plus reversing hairline plus grey patches than if he doesn't. He's only 35 and had to do it for a few years now.

I don't think he looks like a thug (despite the scars on his face and head as well). Or maybe he does to everyone else...

My DH is bald due to male pattern baldness. I didn't realise I was supposed to be devastated

My son shaves his head and has done for about 20 years. I hate it when it's just been done but don't mind after a week or so.

It's obviously totally his business and it doesn't matter whether I like it or not but if we are going to any sort of big do (family wedding or similar) I have asked him if he can shave it a week before and not straight before. Totally a request and not a demand - and most of the time he's fine with that.

YABVVU - it's his hair. You will get used to it

What do you mean he looks like a thug?

You dont like, that's fine.

My dp did the same. I didnt like it and told him. He prefers me with black hair and told me. My hair is mid brown. No intention if changing it.

Saying you are upset and annoyed is an over reaction in my opinion. Cant imagine a man ever getting away with saying 'my wife cut hee hair short now she looks rough. I am so annoyed at her.'

Was it starting to thin? I can totally understand wanting to shave it off if he was starting to bald. If however he had fabulous hair I too would be bloody gutted.

When my husband grew a horrible worzelish beard I really went off him sexually. Didn’t take long for him to cotton on and shave it off.

Does he like it?
Because that's all that matters.
DH has said once he starts to thin he'll shave all his off. He'll still be my DH, just without hair. Give yourself a couple of weeks you'll soon get used to it.

Would your DH be happy for you to shave your head, OP? If not then you have every right to be annoyed and upset.

It would equally be none of his business if that's what she decided to do - but it's not comparing like with like, as short or no hair is considered the default for men whereas longer/medium-length hair is the 'norm' for women.

A fairer comparison would be to ask, if she usually had shoulder-length hair and came home one evening with a pixie cut, what would his reaction be. Regardless of his reaction and if it meant he found her less attractive because of it, he still wouldn't have any right to get angry or controlly about it.

It's his hair, he can do what he wants with it.

Did he say why he did it OP? Is this a permanent choice or is he just trying something new?

My DH is going bald, so instead of having a bald patch, he decided to shave it. It looks much better than a balding head. It's his head though, his choice.

Would your DH be happy for you to shave your head, OP? If not then you have every right to be annoyed and upset.

You could always deny him your favours until he is fanciable again . . . .

My DH is losing his hair quite young and I know the day will come when he'll just get rid rather than sport mega bald patches. It's his head, his hair and I love him regardless of it. Try to rise above the initial shock of him suddenly having no hair, he's still the same person after all!

Absolutely devastated about hair? Come on, people need to give their head a wobble. One is absolutely devastated when one's child dies not because hubby got a haircut. Pffff.

Is he keeping it real? Call his mom.

Are you a man or woman?

I'm a woman

It will grow back.

My DP works away and shaves it all off before he goes to work, thankfully when he gets back from his hitch it's grown back. But i do not like it at all either. He doesn't suit it shaved imo. But he thinks its easier while he is at work, and it is his head....

Some people suit it and some just don't.

The thing that I just cannot understand is why he packs a big bottle of head and shoulders to take along with him

I am terrible, I know

My 15 year old son has had shoulder blade long hair for a few years. He went to the barbers for a trim and came back with a buzz cut. It took a while to get used to it but now it's just him.
OP give it a few days it might grow on you

Wow some big over reactions. My Dh has lost most of his hair - it was either shave it or have a huge bald patch. He doesn't act like a thug, so I don't think many people think that! It also grows back really quickly!

Saying you are upset and annoyed is an over reaction in my opinion. Cant imagine a man ever getting away with saying 'my wife cut hee hair short now she looks rough. I am so annoyed at her.'

^This