Am I a CF? To think that she wants to say no but doesn't know how?

[nomeansno1]

I’m starting work soon, and asked a mum friend of mine if she could look after DS3, Monday-Thursday 9-1pm, and take him nursery at 1pm just until Christmas. He’s at nursery from 1-4pm.

In return I will pick her kids up from school everyday, and take them to their activities and drop them home. They go to the same school and do the same activities/clubs as my older two children.
I asked her because she has a DD a year younger than my DS, lives opposite me, and she knows the nursery as her DC use to go there. She’s always said if I needed help, I should just ask. I just want her to help me out in the mornings.

I sent her the message yesterday, she has read it but hasn’t replied. Now I’m thinking maybe I’m coming off as a CF, and she wants to say no, but doesn’t know how. I’d rather her just say no, then completely blank me. It’s awkward, don’t know what to do now

no way!! Baffled that you had the guts to ask.

This is either
a. A piss take
b. A reverse

@SummerHouse thank you 😂👍

Ah have checked
Op bitchplopped and ran
Nice work op all those pages of frothing
Was it a bet? If you get to ten pages your mates will give you a tenner

Whoever has asked this has asked for way too much. I don’t know any friends who offer free childcare!

The best thing to do now would be to say: “Sorry, I realise this is a huge amount to ask for and I apologise for coming across as really cheeky. You can absolutely say no and I won’t be offended! I’m still happy to help with your DCs any time

Let’s hope the friendship remains!

Wtf?! Yes, you are a CF!

I reckon justmakeitbetter is the OP

I think @justmakeitbetter is more of a CF than the OP (or is a sock puppet OP).

Women helping each other out needs to be both ways. Just because the neighbour is at home doesn’t mean she has a duty to ‘help out’.

It’s the 21st century, children are fucking expensive. If you cannot fund them do not have them. What if the neighbour says ‘actually, I’m getting a job - now it’s YOUR turn’ has the op offered childcare (uninsured and unregulated) prior to needing it herself? No. She’s a CF.

I’m also horrified that someone would entrust the care of their child to a virtual, unchecked stranger. Not all paedophiles wear macs and hide on lonely paths, you know.

Disappearing act from the op

Wow.

Wow.

16 hours of childcare a week of a very young child is hard work ... especially when they have one even younger than yours ...and to expect it to be done unpaid on top!

Wow.

Picking their kids up from school/activities in exchange isn't nearly on par. Not even on the same planet.

Please apologise to your friend or make it clear you would be paying her ... and that leads you into tricky territory as she's not family and if she's not a childminder she shouldn't be watching your kids so you can work. not allowed in the UK, I'm afraid.

Dump and run thread. 🙄 all round cf. yes.

You probably can’t afford to pay for that much childcare and she’s in the house all day anyway.

This is either a sock, or you're more cheeky than OP.

What is a CF??

It does sound a bit like taking the piss op. I wouldn't be happy either if I offered somebody help and they treated me like a general dogs body.

Unanimous in you being a CF (and probably a reverse).
Apart from one other CF who thinks if you’re in the house with one toddler anyway just throw another one in! As if! Do you have children?

What is a CF??

a cheeky Fucker.
Basically an unpleasant and untitled twat who is trying to take advantage of anyone and everyone.

Also Op there have been cases where Ofsted have gotten involved where people have been caring for children who are not related to them even if money is involved. It was seen as unregistered childminding.

Thank you muppetshow

Its obviously a wind up, it's got to be!

Ahhh well, i was entertained for the first part of the thread

Sorry that should be even if no money is involved

the sad thing is, even if that's absolutely made up by the OP, that kind of situation is true for some people.

Some women are really treated like shit and expected to take care of kids (I mean cousins and all) because they are home all day...

In my opinion a CF can also mean cunt face

God why would you even ask? Employ a childminder.

In my opinion a CF can also mean cunt face

I am going read some threads in a brand new light!

I bet this is a reverse, going by the OP’s username. I hate reverses - just gets everything frothed up for nothing.

Sorry haven't read all the replies, but just wanted to address a few things first:

1. It's not just school pick ups
2. I'm also picking and dropping her kids off to clubs/activities they do that's about 20 min walk from their home, she doesn't drive neither do I.

Written down and reading it now I know it's a lot, and I genuinely didn't think it through, just thought it's only until Christmas so not that bad