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Who is a CF, me or them?

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Bear2014 · 26/10/2019 17:15

I have £70 of theatre and cinema tokens we can't currently use as we are exhausted with young DC. I texted my parents who go to the theatre and cinema all the time to ask if they could use them. They said yes, thanks. I said great, we can use the cash for something else. They then replied that they didn't realise I wanted money for them so thanks but no thanks. WIBU? I'm really doubting myself now but for context they are well off and we have massive outgoings with nursery fees etc Confused

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Jupiters · 26/10/2019 17:17

Is theatre/cinema something they go to generally? This might help narrow down who is the CF...

DDIJ · 26/10/2019 17:17

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milienhaus · 26/10/2019 17:17

I think you probably can’t ask for £70 for them but something like £50 would be very reasonable and a good deal on both sides.

Jupiters · 26/10/2019 17:18

God, note sure how I missed that in the original!

I'd say a bit cheeky both ways. Cheeky of them to assume it's free. Bit cheeky of you to offer without mentioning payment.

ThanosSavedMe · 26/10/2019 17:18

Did you read the post Jupiter’s or just the thread title?

ButDoYouAvocado · 26/10/2019 17:18

If you offered them to me I'd say thanks and buy you a bottle of Prosecco. I wouldn't expect to pay for them unless you said 'would you like to buy these vouchers from me'

Bodear · 26/10/2019 17:18

I don’t think they’re bu.
It would be nice if they saw this as a way to help you out but they’re not obliged to buy the vouchers from you/ help you.
I get that it’s disappointing though.

Unshriven · 26/10/2019 17:18

You must have made it sound as though you were offering them as a gift.

Did you explicitly say you were selling them? I mean, your parents can presumably buy cinema tickets whenever they want, without having to spend £70 at a time.

ThanosSavedMe · 26/10/2019 17:18

Cross post

Confrontayshunme · 26/10/2019 17:19

If you didn't make it clear when you offered that you wanted money for them, then neither of you are. It is just a misunderstanding. Don't give them the tokens. Offer to friends or on FB marketplace.

LordNibbler · 26/10/2019 17:19

If you ask them if they can use them, and don't mention payment then it's you who is at fault here. If you'd said we have £70 of vouchers, would you be interested in buying them then that would have been clearer.

TheJoxter · 26/10/2019 17:19

Just sounds like a misunderstanding to me, I don’t think either of you are being CF

user1471533725 · 26/10/2019 17:19

I agree it depends on the original conversation. I think if you let someone know that you have vouchers you can't use and ask if they want them then there is an implication that they're free. If you state you're trying to sell vouchers for £x and ask them if they're interested it's a bit different.

Sounds more like a miscommunication than any CFery

GreenTulips · 26/10/2019 17:20

Did they buy the vouchers in the first place?

NoHummus · 26/10/2019 17:20

I would just give the vouchers to my parents in this situation. It would be nice to get money for them but I don't think you can expect it if you made the initial offer.

Digitalash · 26/10/2019 17:20

Depends if you bought the vouchers or not, I wouldn't expect family to pay me for something I got for free and wasn't going to use. If you didn't pay for the vouchers then I think YABU

pigsDOfly · 26/10/2019 17:20

OP has already said they go to these things regularly Jupiters.

If someone offered me cinema/theatre tickets that they couldn't use I would assume I would have to pay for them, especially of that sort of value.

CalmFizz · 26/10/2019 17:20

Did you ask them to buy them from you, or did you offer them the vouchers?

PralineCookies · 26/10/2019 17:21

The way you worded it suggested that you were offering them for free. I think that you're the cheeky one here. According to your post here you made it sound as though you were offering them to them as a gift of sorts, then asked for money. You should have made it clear from the start.

FredaFox · 26/10/2019 17:21

I think more cheeky of you, you didn’t ask them if they wanted to buy them off you
You’ve probably given the impression they are going to waste if noone uses them

Clear communication is always key when money is concerned

Passthecherrycoke · 26/10/2019 17:22

Tbh I don’t think it was clear from what you’ve said that you expected them to be paid for. There isn’t really any advantage for them is there?

I don’t think anyone is a cheeky fucker really, just a misunderstanding

RB68 · 26/10/2019 17:22

just sell them elsewhere. Its cheeky of them to accept and then say no when asked for a contribution especially if they go all the time - that's ridiculously self centered in my view

EyeDrops · 26/10/2019 17:22

I can see both angles to be honest. If you're expecting them to pay £70, what value do they get from the theatre tokens if they could just spend that money on going anyway? Unless I'm misunderstanding something? I also think it depends on your wording - "could you use these?" does sound more like a gift to be honest.

Samsamsuperman · 26/10/2019 17:22

I would have assumed they were free too - you were being cheeky.

pigsDOfly · 26/10/2019 17:23

Oh I assumed you paid for them OP. If you didn't them I think you are being the CF.

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