Who is a CF, me or them?

[Bear2014]

I have £70 of theatre and cinema tokens we can't currently use as we are exhausted with young DC. I texted my parents who go to the theatre and cinema all the time to ask if they could use them. They said yes, thanks. I said great, we can use the cash for something else. They then replied that they didn't realise I wanted money for them so thanks but no thanks. WIBU? I'm really doubting myself now but for context they are well off and we have massive outgoings with nursery fees etc

I seem to be out of kilter with the other posters but if I had been in this situation I would have thought ‘But surely Bear2014 would like a trip to the theatre or cinema as a nice change from being at home with young children’. I would have asked why you could not use them and offered to babysit so you could go out. Then if you said no, I would have taken the tickets and found another way to repay you, eg by ordering a supermarket shop with some instant meals for a night in with no cooking or got you a Molly Maid gift voucher or something. They seem really thoughtless to me.

FFS. They're her parents. It's ok to do a nice thing for your parents without expecting them to build a shrine to you and dedicate the rest of their lives to worshipping at it.

Neither - it's a misunderstanding on both sides!

I wouldn’t dream of having asked my mother for money even if I had bought the tickets. The fact that they were gifted to you and you are still expressing bewilderment over your parents reaction is a bit

That said, is there someone else you can gift them to fir Xmas since you don’t want to use them?

Sometimes it’s okay to let people do nice things for you without prostrating yourself completely in return, @nettie434.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll I’m not sure your answer answers my question as it’s from the person who helps out, not the person who expects to be helped by expecting someone to pay full price for something ing that the point is you don’t pay.

True Butchyrestingface. I don't want to be too prostrate but it sounded as if it was about more than the face value of the tickets!

Apologies OP, not reading 6 pages.

If you have vouchers that it doesn't suit you to use for whatever reason ......You do not ask for payment from the person you gift them to.....end of.

It's so crass to suggest this.

Plead a misunderstanding and back quickly away from majorly embarrassing yourself.

You do not request payment for a gift you received though circumstance, and are passing forward.👍💐

I'd feel hurt as a parent.

Apologies OP, not reading 6 pages

Why do people do this? 🤷‍♀

Especially when their following comments involve an exhortation to the OP to do something she's already done.

@billy1966

Apologies, didn't read past the first line of your post because you haven't RTFT.

Why are people STILL telling OP she is BU when she acknowledged it already?!

OP, if your parents know money is tight, then it's sad they didn't offer the money. I wouldn't go all out for them anymore.

They’re not being cf for not wanting to buy your vouchers.

It was a present that cost you nothing. You've decided you couldn't use them, so offered them on. I wouldn't expect to pay for them if a family memeber offered them. If you want money for them sell them on Facebook .

Seems like you may have ballsed up.

yabu

‘Do you want to buy these tickets off us? No problem if not, I will FB them, just wanted to give you first refusal at mates rates 🙂😉’

Should have been your approach

If you had told me you had these theatre tokens you couldn’t use & asked if I wanted them, I would have assumed they were free too. I would have just thought you were trying to offload them so that they didn’t just go to waste.

You should have told them they were for Sale, it’s your fault.

I'm always amazed when folks think they can just have these things for free?

They are worth a lot of money and stipulated or not I would ways ask "how much do you want for them?".

Put them on FB marketplace OP.

It does not matter one bit if they were free or were paid for originally.

Would you like to BUY these from me, means you expect money.

Would you LIKE, or could you USE these, means you give them away. And no, people shouldn't give you a penny in exchange. It's a gift.

And that applies for everything.

I'm always amazed when folks think they can just have these things for free?

They are worth a lot of money and stipulated or not I would ways ask "how much do you want for them?".

I find this attitude very unpleasant, and always obsessing about money is just pathetic. I have friends and family, it's normal to give each other things, it's normal and much more healthy not to have to calculate the cost of every single little penny.
If you want to sell them something, make it clear when you offer. Otherwise, it's a gift.

Sounds exhausting to keep score of everything you might exchange to make sure you are always on top. I would hate to raise my kids like that!

First of all there is no such word as texted. Sorry but it really annoys me. Secondly I would never charge my parents for tickets I didn’t want. Why didn’t you put them on facebay if you wanted money for them.

First of all there is no such word as texted

Oh the irony!! Saying there is "no such word as texted" and then using facebay, which is not a word either!!!