Who is a CF, me or them?

[Bear2014]

I have £70 of theatre and cinema tokens we can't currently use as we are exhausted with young DC. I texted my parents who go to the theatre and cinema all the time to ask if they could use them. They said yes, thanks. I said great, we can use the cash for something else. They then replied that they didn't realise I wanted money for them so thanks but no thanks. WIBU? I'm really doubting myself now but for context they are well off and we have massive outgoings with nursery fees etc

your cheeky - i would assume they are free. I wouldnt ever charge my parents either!!

First of all there is no such word as texted

I agree, but sadly that's the word that been adopted almost universally. I'll never use it though.

Who charges their parents for something like this? Think of all that they have given you in bringing you up. Did they ask you to pay for school trips etc.?

Sorry, but I am on their side. Be magnanimous and give them the tokens.

If I Wanted the extra cash I would have sold them on eBay or gumtree or whatever and I find it so cringe to expect money from parents friends or anyone you care about. I would feel the pinch in my Finances But I would be happy that they had a good time and they’d actuallly be doing you the favour because you don’t want to go! If you stuck for cash just ask mummy daddy to borrow Like I would rather than flog of Some inconvenient show they had no interest in seeing trust me I had to sit through wicked freezing cold knackered last winter “helping a mate with a spare ticket”😒 On a Tuesday school night not getting home until 12am 😫

Omg exactly it’s so weird !

I would say do you want money for them

If I’d got them for free I would never expect my parents to give me money for them..no matter how broke I was I would happily give them.

@threatmatrix

First of all there is no such word as texted. Sorry

Texted is correct though.

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/dictionary.cambridge.org/amp/english/texted

Saying ‘I text her’ is moronic.

With you 100% Chloe.

‘Texted’ might not have been a word traditionally, but ‘text’ was traditionally a noun. Now that it’s commonly used as a verb, ‘texted’ has developed as a past tense version.

Apologies OP, not reading 6 pages.

You’re FAR too important to read the thread, but decided your opinion was so vital that you just had to make the thread even longer?

Beyond rude of you OP. Just do the decent thing and gift the vouchers to your parents.

Yes, like no one has heard the phase “texting whilst driving”. Language evolves, especially as technology develops...

@StillCoughingandLaughing totally agree!

I wouldn’t ever dream of taking money from my parents in this situation.

I would never ask my parents or any family member for that, for the money. Maybe try to sell them at work or on Facebook to someone you're not so close to so not awkward

Think you're a bit old to get your parents to buy your vouchers off you now OP 😂

Facebay is a selling group on Facebook. Get on there and sell the tickets you got for free instead of giving them to your parents who brought you up. That’s not really irony is it 🙄

Get them to babysit instead so you can make use of them yourself

I would have offered to pay .. and I wouldn’t make a big deal of you asking... or suggesting it ... some overly melodramatic comments on here.. and it doesn’t matter that they were a gift ...with the cash you could treat yourself to something else when you feel up to it...

Take the hit and let them enjoy it if you cant

If you got them for free but are potless...explain that to parents..they know what having kids does to your life and finances.
If you got them as a gift for free and your parents do a lot for you with the children...give them to them as a thankyou.

If you want to do something else with them and you paid for them ( and not give them to parents) sell them, or contact the theatre or voucher company and swop them for refund or tickets for daytime family matinee show. Panto would be ideal !

I wouldn't expect money off my parents for them and we are very low income as I'm on maternity leave. I would just assume you were gifting as its between family.

Someone offered me a bag of baby clothes when I was pregnant, I didn't really need them but felt awkward saying no because in all honesty, we have very different styles for our children. She then said great, is £40 okay? Then had to awkwardly make excuses. No ones a CF, it's just an awkward miscommunication! Can see why they thought they were free and can see why you'd want money for them

I totally understand how you would be disappointed OP.
As a close family, we do this sort of thing all the time. My brother won £40 Tesco’s Vouchers, he doesn’t shop there, I do all the time so did him a favour and bought them off him for £40. He was happy and so was I that I’d been able to help him out, it was no big deal to me because I would have been shopping there anyway.
My FIL buys me NEXT clothing vouchers every Christmas and B-day, I never ever shop there, my mother does and she always buys them off me for full price. She’s happy to help, I’m happy that I can shop elsewhere.
Have we lost the knack of doing somebody a favour ??? Your parents will be spending money going to the theatre, why on earth would they choose not to pay you instead of the theatre direct ??? Has the world gone mad.
Spread a little kindness everyone, OP hasn’t the time or energy for the theatre, let her enjoy another little treat.

She then said great, is £40 okay? Then had to awkwardly make excuses.

she was rude, I hate people like that.

All she had to do was offer to SELL them to you, so you can immediately decide. Not try to pretend it's free, then you have to back down - or not! - and feel obliged to pay for the tat.