To think she will regret this?

[IceAndASlice123]

Friend of the family, 20 years old, boyfriend of 6 months proposed to her last night. Aibu to think it will end in tears or am I just cynical?

Who knows - I wouldn’t be thrilled if it were my daughter, but then again I was with my partner for 13 years before we got married and we divorced 12 years later - so there’s no guarantee really

Sending wishes that all will be well - personally thought, I would wait another year to make sure all is still going good in 18mths time

Be as cynical as you like but keep it to yourself, the only acceptable words you can say out loud are "how lovely" and "congratulations" - even if you don't mean them.

She's an adult, it's her choice, and an engagement ring is not a wedding ring. There is a lot that can happen between now and then. If you say anything negative and it falls apart then it'll be because people weren't supportive and it dragged them down so you'll be on the shit list. If they do stay together and everything works out then it'll be one in the eye for everyone who doubted them and you'll be on the shit list there too.

Who knows?
To be honest I know couples who met I their teens and have spent their lives together.
I know others who married after long, established relationships who split after a few years.
Wish them well, nothing comes with a guarantee.

YANBU. Hopefully they'll have a very long engagement! Things/people change so much so quickly at that age.

Meh, wedding will be at least a year or two away.

I got engaged after 3 months on my 21st birthday. Still together now (I'm old!!)

I am really shocked. Everyone on Facebook is overjoyed and saying how great it is but I can't help but think it will fall apart. I will definitely not say anything negative to her. Fingers crossed they are lucky and it works out.

That could have been me. I was 20 and I’d been with him for 8 months at the time. I then compounded the error by actually marrying him 9 months after that.

20 years (and two weeks!) later we seem to be still together although I am Very Annoyed Indeed as he forgot to put washing up liquid on the Tesco order. (As did I but it is definitely All His Fault.) I suspect that if I’d done the whole “meet in mid twenties, date for 2 years, move in together, live together for a year then get engaged then a big wedding two years after that” thing then I would have much cleaner plates.

Of course everyone on FB is overjoyed. So you expect everyone to be telling her it's a terrible idea?

We got engaged after 3 or 4 months and were married exactly a year and a day after our first date. Still going well nearly ten years later. Sometimes you just know... Other times you think you just know and you're wrong. You can't really know til you try 😁😂

Probably

It took my OH a massive 4 months to propose. Been married 13 years now. Like someone else said, keep your doubts to yourself.

Hmm, it is a bit quick. But some people just know. We got married at 21 but had been together 5 years with a baby and flat already. (Still happy together).

I know the opinions will be the same off Facebook as well. Think people have got caught up in the romance of it all rather than seeing the reality. Just hope she knows what she is doing...

met in sept, started going out in dec engaged at easter, married in summer.
still together 20 years later.
BUT we were older, which I think makes a difference.

About 3 years ago I was in work and a very lovely elderly gent was buying a bunch of roses. In general conversation I remarked they were nice and his exact words were. Its out wedding anniversary. We met on VE day married exactly 1 year later and every year I buy her roses. She is in a nursing home now and doesn't know me but she is still my wife and its still our anniversary.
So yes it can work out.

There's always the exceptions just be happy for them. DSis married a week after her 19th Birthday. I remember neighbours asking DM when the baby was due! They've now been happily married 35 years. The baby has yet to put in an appearance.

My ex proposed for the first time on date 3. I was 15 he was 16. We did marry 6 years later but split after 9 further years.

One brother met his wife when he was 15 and she was 16. She was 70 last week and they are the best matched couple I know.

Both times 'they said it wouldn't last'

Sometime it does, sometimes it doesn't

With any luck they won't actually go through with a wedding

I imagine that quite a high percentage of engagements at such a young age never result in a wedding

My husband proposed after 6 weeks! We had a VERY long engagement

Oh why shoot them down. Married at 19 here, very happy!

It’s fast, they’re young, but it happens. Just say how wonderful congratulations, that’s all, why does it matter what you think? Whether it lasts or doesn’t last, so what? People do crazy shit all the time, questionable life choices are everywhere among both the young and the old.

DH proposed after 3 months and we married six months later. I was 23 and we very recently celebrated our Silver wedding anniversary.

I am not shooting them down at all.
Just very shocked and hope she won't live to regret it.