Sheer top, no bra.

[PrincessPain]

How much would you judge seeing a little more than a hint of a female nipple while out and about? Say shopping in tesco, in the queue at the post office, someone dropping their children off at school?

If you don’t like the idea of being ridiculed, don’t do this.

Should caveat, I meant for clothing choice, not during breastfeeding.

If you turned up at the school playground with your nipples showing then I'd report you to the police for flashing.

If you turned up at a club with your nipples showing then I wouldn't bat an eyelid.

There's a time and a place for everything.

I would judge you. A lot. In an ideal world you should be able to wear whatever you want whenever you want but that’s not the world we live in. I’d think you were very much an attention seeker and were out to shock.

If you're basing your fashion choice on that picture of Rihanna, bear in mind that is a studio shot. Similarly catwalk shows where the model's boob gets an airing.

It's not meant for everyday wear!

Quite honestly op I think you'd be best to focus on some counselling to get to the bottom of and try to resolve your social difficulties.

Perhaps you suffer from something that makes you not 'get' social cues, norms etc. I'm not trying to be derogatory or horrible in any way, but this thread is the result of having to have something very obvious clarified & explained (that sheer clothing over nudity is not appropriate in any setting other than bedroom or certain types of clubs). You could wear it if you wanted but the only real outcome would be negative attention and opinions.

The fact that that needs clarified and that you mention social problems & isolation (many of us have problems with finding and maintaining true friends but yours seems to be quite extreme/consistent) ... Suggests you could do with looking into what the issue is, with the help of someone competent.

Could you perhaps be referred to counselling via gp?

Is it possible that you could get honest, constructive feedback on why previously close friends chose not to maintain the friendship. That's a v tricky one, I know.

sheer clothing over nudity is not appropriate in any setting other than bedroom or certain types of clubs

Should add to that - and obviously music vids and photo shoots by singers who choose to wear super sexy/attention grabbing/ statement naking/fetishy etc clothing, like Rihanna, Lady Gaga etc

Maybe it's me wanting to be part of something that I am not a part of, I.e. getting to dress up for nights out, holidays with friends, music videos, even a nice meal out

Umm... you don't have to show your nipples to do any of those things, OP. And you are probably less likely to ever be invited to do any of those things if you wander around in a see-through top with no bra on. Genuinely astonished that anyone would claim to want to do this but not want to be looked at.

I'm not sure why you need people to see your breasts tbh. By all means wear what you like, including this, but don't pretend you're not doing it for attention.

I'm not sure I need to see people's arms or shoulders - why don't people keep them safely covered up too?

And ankles....I mean the Victorians were basically right - society falls apart once women walk around with their ankles uncovered!

Of God help us.

Style-wise if it's good enough for Audrey Hepburn or Jackie O then it's good enough for me....I can't see them with their tits out in Tesco. Fashion can be dangerous, take care....😉

I think you have to be realistic. Yes, we all should be able to be free to wear whatever we feel like without unwanted attention or unkind judgements but this is simply not the world in which we live. If you are going to wear a top like that on a chilly October day to 'drop the kids off' you must expect people will stare - it's just not a practical outfit for a) the weather or b) the situation. Why not go clubbing? I know you say it's not your scene but how would you know if you've never been? There are lots of different types/music etc and you would probably look great in a club in that outfit. School run/Tescos not so much.

I live in a holiday area and the clothing rules set by our local supermarket are shoes, shirts and shorts, so no bare feet, no vests, swimming trunks or bikini bottoms.

I don't want to see your tits.

If I saw you in Tesco dressed like that I would just think you were a slag

I’d judge you

I’d only wear it for performances.

Not even for clubbing

Evening wear/out clubbing/on a catwalk/ on a beach... I wouldnt bat an eyelid... in fact I think sheer stuff can be very beautiful...
But to Tesco's or the school run? I'd think it was an accident... or that you were just a bit eccentric...
Same as if I saw someone doing the schol run in platformer glittery stilettos or in Tesco in a backless evening dress
I mean I guess theres nothing wrong with nipples anywhere... but it isn't the norm to have your nips out during the school run or at the post office etc... so people would look at you I imagine

"questioning my mental health seems a little extreme."
@PrincessPain I'm sorry if I offended you. I am autistic and answered literally what I would think. I have had mental health problems and known a lot of other people who have, and not knowing what is socially appropriate can often be a manifestation of this. That's all.

I think you should focus on getting more fun and glamour into your life OP. I noticed you said you had never been abroad with friends or out clubbing and that you want to feel a part of other scenes.

Fashion is really a con - as are music videos and insta - there to give you FOMO and take your money as a result.

Why not try to join a new scene, whether it's music, or creating art in some way, or doing a course in fashion or something.

I find being a net producer of culture makes me feel better than being a net consumer of culture.

I think it is horrible seeing all the 'celebs' like that. I don't like any of the male 'celebs' in some of the stuff they wear either.

There is nothing elegant or nice about it.

Why do they all feel the need to display it all?