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Sheer top, no bra.

222 replies

PrincessPain · 22/10/2019 07:27

How much would you judge seeing a little more than a hint of a female nipple while out and about? Say shopping in tesco, in the queue at the post office, someone dropping their children off at school?

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PurpleDaisies · 22/10/2019 07:47

How much would you judge seeing a little more than a hint of a female nipple while out and about?

How are you going to only show one?

CuckooCuckooClock · 22/10/2019 07:49

You would be massively judged on the school run round here. There would probably be a message in the parish council newsletter asking ‘people’ to dress appropriately.

Stressedout10 · 22/10/2019 07:50

Yes I would judge you.
Why do you think that anyone wouldn't?
Are you really that desperate for attention?

purplepalace · 22/10/2019 07:50

On the school run? Tesco?.....I'd think you were desperate for attention.

In a club, on a night out.....I wouldn't bat an eyelid, I'd think you go girl'

0lga · 22/10/2019 07:51

I’ve never seen an outfit like that in Tesco. But they are ten a penny in our local Iceland.

Puta · 22/10/2019 07:51

What does this have to do with your 'confidence', OP?

Flashing your tits is the opposite of confident.

DisappointingBanana · 22/10/2019 07:51

Just put a bra/cami on FGS!

And in this weather, a jumper.

FookMeFookYou · 22/10/2019 07:51

I'm all for body confidence but to wear this out would be provocative and you know it. And if I saw someone doing this and had my kids with me I'd be down right furious.

Wear it at home by all means but don't impose yourself on everyone else.

I think you need to ask yourself why you need that kind of attention.

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PrincessPain · 22/10/2019 07:52

Thanks everyone, I've never been clubbing nor fancy the idea of it.
I don't actually do a school run, it was just an every day situation.
It would be a fashion thing for me, I'm taking a few risks and this is one I'd been thinking about.
I just won't do it if everyone's going to think I'm a tit (get it), theres been a lot of talk recently about the female nipple not being a big deal (again, a bit different when maybe Bella Hadid has her on shos on the catwalk) but I'm never really in a situation like modeling, music video, or even clubbing.
I'll keep the nips hidden.
Not too bothered about it being a bit cold, but definitely don't want people feeling uncomfortable.

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Mia184 · 22/10/2019 07:54

This outfit is fine when you‘re surrounded by adults. But in a supermarket or so, it is inappropriate. Children might wonder why you show your nipples. I‘d answer something like „She is advertising her milk bar.“ Better to wear this outfit in clubs and the like.

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PrincessPain · 22/10/2019 07:55

That's the thing, I'd be doing it for me.
I wouldn't want any attention, not positive or negative.
If people were either laughing or wolf whistling I would feel deeply uncomfortable.
I've never been out drinking, or clubbing, or abroad with friends. None of it. So it was just an experimental fashion choice, which seems wouldn't go down well, so it won't be happening.

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OtraCosaMariposa · 22/10/2019 07:56

LOOK AT ME!! LOOOK AT MMEEEEEEEE!!!

Attention seeking in the extreme.

GummyGoddess · 22/10/2019 07:57

To be honest, I would wonder what you were like at home and wouldn't want my child to go to your house, though I'd be fine with yours coming to mine. It is a bizarre top for picking your children up in and you'll likely get spoken to by a member of staff.

Wear it on nights out if you want, just not on every day errands.

Letsnodothisplease · 22/10/2019 07:58

Hmm It's October.

ChardonnaysDistantCousin · 22/10/2019 08:00

Oh well, if Rihanna’s doing on a photo then, yeas, why not.

Ginfordinner · 22/10/2019 08:00

And you even had to ask? Confused

inwood · 22/10/2019 08:00

Why would you be doing it for you, unless you are an exhibitionist. The whole 'look' is a bit shit imo and screams look at me, look at me. It's not fashion.

Biancadelrioisback · 22/10/2019 08:01

I think you would be an idiot to think that you wouldn't get attention (both positive and negative).
Because of the way our society is, people would laugh. People would judge you. People would probably call you names and think you were attention seeking (let's face it, you would be).
You can build your confidence without having your nipples out in the post office.
Be naked in your own home, on a nudist beach, join a nude bike ride, do a naked sea dip, pose for life drawing, all ways to be naked and build your self confidence without forcing it in people's faces which is exactly what you'd be doing.

Abetes · 22/10/2019 08:03

Yes I would judge you. I imagine most people would to be honest.

AloeVeraLynn · 22/10/2019 08:05

I wouldn't heckle or even say anything at all but I would have a brief thought of "wtf" if I saw you doing your daily errands with your nips out. It's just a bit odd. For what it's worth I also don't like male nip. Also it's October. You'll freeze them off.

BigRedBoat · 22/10/2019 08:06

I doubt Rihanna pops into Tesco and if she did I doubt that's what she'd wear.

TheQueef · 22/10/2019 08:06

Nutter.
It's October you need a Big coat on Grin

myself2020 · 22/10/2019 08:07

To be honest i would think you are either slobby or stressed out (so hadn’t noticed), or desperate (“look! any taker? anybody will do!”). none of these are good

Iggly · 22/10/2019 08:07

I would feel sorry for your children as they’d be the one getting the piss ripped for their mum flashing their tits.

It’s not a cultural norm.

Strawberrycreamsundae · 22/10/2019 08:07

It screams exhibitionist, ' Look at me'
Why bother with wearing anything on your top half? Same effect.