Sheer top, no bra.

[PrincessPain]

How much would you judge seeing a little more than a hint of a female nipple while out and about? Say shopping in tesco, in the queue at the post office, someone dropping their children off at school?

@slashlover

Thank you for your kind input on how I can use Mumsnet better.

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You sound incredibly sad and lonely. You need to get off the internet and realise what is on there isn't real life, and go out in real life and make some proper friends. I know it's not that easy and it takes courage to do, especially when you have felt so isolated, but getting your nipples out isn't going to help how you are feeling, and in fact I think it would make your anxiety worse if you went out in public like that. You really do need to separate social media from real life

I think it looks desperate.

I don't see it a lot in real life, which is why I asked.
I see it a lot on Instagram, music videos, facebook, catwalks, and there is a "free the nipple" movement in an attempt to make it more acceptable.

I've read your other posts in addition to this. I'm saying this very gently, I think you need to take a break from social media. I've noticed that a lot of people on IG/YouTube are introvert's with very few friends and some of the comments/posts they make just don't marry up with how people interact in real life.

Do you have any hobbies and interests? Is there a local meetup group that you could join or perhaps you could start a group for your hobby?

Its desperate and attention seeking. I REALLY wouldnt be friends with the likes of you. If you are thinking of going about like this in normal everyday places then you must know its inappropriate yet you are doing it to score attention. It is desperate and trashy.

You are not Rihanna. You'd look ridiculous in Tesco with a nipple on display. Id judge and think it was desperate attention seeking.

"I really wouldn't be friends with the likes of you."

"It is desperate and trashy"

"What the fuck is wrong with you OP?!!"

...

Seriously?

I wouldn't want to be friends with ANY of the posters who seem to feel the need to actively kick someone when they are down.

@PrincessPain I think you should read some of these laughable comments and just go ahead and wear the damn thing in spite - life is too short to worry about bitter angry people on the internet.

@PrincessPain I like it, it's a cool look. How about a brightly coloured bra underneath?

You could wear it to a Zumba class. Check out if your local gym has one and come and dance up a storm in your sparkly top. A great way to make friends is by doing an activity. If you're anywhere near Oxford come to a class with me and I'll wear my orange mesh top which is fab.

@GinDaddy have you actually read the FT? Looks as if not. The OP has a whole load of issues around her self esteem and image and this top is the tip of the iceberg.

I couldn't give a toss tbh. Free the nipple!

@PunkHairToday

I have read the full thread, which is why I mentioned "kicking someone when they are down".

If she still however wants to wear the top, I'm not one to tell women what to wear, and if she enjoys it and it makes her feel good then great

Be a few more blokes doing the shopping if tops like that were being worn in Tesco!

Don't be so fucking disingenuous OP!

"I'd be doing it for me"

Right! Of course...every woman flashes their nipples in Tesco 'just for themselves' 😂🤔🤦‍♀️

Nobody...NOBODY...wants to see your nipples whilst squeezing a loaf of Warburtons!

@LaserShark 100% with you on all of that. I have always been the same.

You would think someone as rich as Rhianna could buy a market-stall top that fits, stand up straight in a photo and lose the slapped-face expression.

she always seems to dress like she's in a burlesque show, but it isn't a good look outside such events.

I see it a lot on Instagram, music videos, facebook, catwalks, and there is a "free the nipple" movement in an attempt to make it more acceptable.

So you don't see it in real life. Maybe stop watching so much Insta and FB and live more!

I've never been out drinking, or clubbing, or abroad with friends. None of it.

Why on earth not? Why not try doing one of those things, OP? You might enjoy it.

@mencken it's a still from a music video

@northernknickers

Why are you shouting?!

OP isn't being disingenuous. Maybe she doesn't dress for other people, she dresses for herself.

Maybe you should keep your eyes and opinions to yourself when "squeezing your Warburtons"

Some years ago I saw a very attractive woman wearing a man's string vest, braless, but with a huge scarf strategically draped and tied at the front so that she was entirely decent. You couldn't tell that from the back though.

It was AMAZING the number of men who magically appeared in front of her, presumably having seen the back view.

You might well get quite a lot of sleazy attention, however innocent your own motivation.

I breastfeed DD in Tesco and of course when there is a nip slip im often titillated by the other shoppers whooping and tucking money into my big knickers or the waist of my maternity leggings that I definitely do not still wear.

I did have a woman in her 60s ask me if I really must “do that so publicly?” Recently so I do think if you don’t like the attention it might bring I wouldn’t bother getting one of these tops. There will always be someone who makes you feel uncomfortable regardless of whether it’s right or wrong.
I do continue to breastfeed in public because it is generally frowned upon to starve ones children but other than breastfeeding I don’t feel comfortable with my boobies out willy nilly myself.

Breastfeeding discreetly in public with the odd accidental slip and wearing this sort of clothing are very different things, Poly

The flip side of all the nipple-phobia on this thread is how you explain silicone nipple covers to your 8 yo DD when she spots them in Boots.

I mean where to start....so DD....you know how I've always told you never to be ashamed of your body, how it keeps you alive and you should respect it etc.....well turns out that doesn't apply to nipples. They are shameful and you should do your best to pretend you don't have them like the 50% of the population you share XX chromosomes with.....

Why?

Erm....

Why don't men have to hide theirs?

Erm....

So OP - please wear whatever the fuck you like...I hope one day my DD will be able to follow in your footsteps.

A simple rule of thumb, if society says it is ok for a man to have his nipples exposed, then you can consider doing the same.

The school run is a shirts on activity for both sexes.

@GinDaddy 😂 seriously? Who is shouting? Not me! Capital letters are a literary device used for MANY reasons! (See what I did there?). In my case, used to emphasise a point! Which is how I used them up thread too.

But you go right ahead and encourage a young (and, from what it seems like here, naive and quite possibly vulnerable in some way) woman to make a fool of herself in public. Walking around in public wearing a shear glamour top of this nature is not going to go well...and you know it! And yes, it is indeed disingenuous to say that you want to flash your nipples at all and sundry, but don't want to do it for any other reason than self-fulfilment!

This isn't a slight wardrobe malfunction, or a tight, non-transparent t-shirt that happens to emphasise the fact that we actually have nipples! It's deliberately displaying the entire breast and nipples in a completely sheer cropped top. In Tesco. Or the post office. Or on the school run ffs!

But I guess you'd enjoy that 🤔