Sheer top, no bra.

[PrincessPain]

How much would you judge seeing a little more than a hint of a female nipple while out and about? Say shopping in tesco, in the queue at the post office, someone dropping their children off at school?

Well, if you do have many facial piercings and tattoos then people will be looking at you in Tesco anyway, but I think this is probably a wind-up.

I think you need to deal with your self esteem and insecurity issues op and I don't think nipples are the way to go.

Do you take the boys to playgroups? Get talking to some of the Mom's there? When do the boys go to school? Again it's an opportunity to make friends. What makes you blow off the old friends?

One of my friends does burlesque. It's a class full of women, she's not planning on ever doing outside of the class but her confidence has gone way up.

I would also see your GP about how you're feeling.

It's a weird one, I like to be different, think many facial piercings, tattoos, in your face hair, but I don't leave the house very often. I think @PrincessPain you need to accept that your appearance is not the norm. It will alienate some people and potential friends. Yes there are women with loads of tatts and piercings, but for women who don't have these you will appear 'different' and I'd not feel, on face value , you were someone I had anything in common with.

I think you sound incredibly mixed up. Did you have piercings and tatts to blend in with a crowd or to look different? Do you genuinely like them or was it done to make a statement?

Being brutally frank, I'd look at someone like you and feel you from another universe because tatts and piercings are off my radar. I am sure you might be a nice person but I'd never get past your appearance to find out.

You need to accept that many other people are making judgements like this- fair or not, it's how some people think.

I wish I had read the whole thread and I wish you could get some help.

I genuinely wouldn't care. What other people wear doesn't really concern me, and my kids are not going to melt just because they saw a nipple or two.

I'm all about confidence & self expression through what I wear, but that sort of thing seems attention seeking. It says lack of confidence to me.

OP you wear what you want love, it's got nothing to do with anyone who isn't you. All the love for you, I hope you can get the support you need to be your best self (that best self should totally wear whatever the fuck she wants!)

I think you're desperate for attention.

My granny describes me as a fairy.. currently have rainbow sections in my hair as a toned town low maintenance version.. as I’d have a 7month old swinging from dreadlocks and dead arms from installing them. Heavily tattooed, most of my piercings out now as again 7month old would think “great grab bars mum!”. My friends look very normal for the most part.. fortunately they’re not judgemental and know if we shake hands my tattoos will not sneak up their arms .

Still I shall never flash my nips at Tesco.. it just looks trashy and you can bet on the creepy old men or a bf’d toddler drawing attention to it, while the majority would laugh or intentionally look the other way.. maybe the odd woman would be like “psst love zip your coat that tops more sheer than you think” assuming you didn’t notice the beacons.

Tis not the way to make friends, find some groups.. be it more to suit dc.. and just be you.

I’ll add ive looked like an alien since 14.. mums finally accepted it’s not a phase. And I’ve been fortunate that it’s not had too much of an effect on work/people, actually it’s weeded out a few that wouldn’t have worked anyway.

I really don’t understand why women judge each other so much

A woman out and about has breasts. So what?

Why even give it any more than a nano-second’s thought?

Because it's not socially acceptable to walk around like that,the same is its not socially acceptable for men to walk around with sheer pants on and their bollox showing.

And before anyone says it's not the same,it is in this instance.

I think you're desperate for attention.

I think you should RTFT

I know just the the pair of trousers to go with that top, OP

www.thesun.co.uk/fabulous/8979312/prettylittlething-see-through-plastic-outfit-cling-film/amp/

But yes the “Oh I’d hate it if men wolf whistled at me upon seeing my naked breasts” schtick is completely disingenuous. If you want men leering at you, fair enough. Plenty of women do, particularly youngish women who don’t have much self-confidence. But don’t pretend you had no idea that men might react if you walked around with your tits on show.

Just because you are confident about your breasts & nipples doesn't mean other people want to see them.

Some of the best things are hidden. Do I judge people if I see a nipple outline under clothes ? no of course not, those things can't be helped if it's chilly.
But do I want to sit on the train and see someone's outline of their nipple through clothes that are see through ? no I do not x

That’s trashy as fuck in any setting, sorry.

@Sashkin @Gottobefree @DoloresDingo

Might want to RTFT before judging/LOLing.

@slashlover

No I wasn't LOLing or judging. I simple said I personally would not like to see visible OUTlined nipples in public MAN or WOMAN. OP asked for thoughts regarding the matter

Used to attend a doctor's surgery where one of the receptionists always wore see through tops which showed her bra. We unkind young mums spent a lot of time sniggering about this and speculating on why on earth she did this. It was not a good look for her at all.

@Gottobefree Surprisingly the conversation has moved on in 165 posts.

I live near Paisley - and you couldn't wear that look here any time except the few days of summer we get. Most of the year you'd end up with goosebumps that could be seen from a long way off, and nipples like chapel hatpegs!

You go clubbing in a top like that not the school run or the post office.

@slashlover Surprisingly we don't all seem to have time to read 165 posts like you do. Congratulations. My response was to the OP on their question. Have a cracking day

On a serious note, though @PrincessPain - if you have the confidence to wear a sheer top and no bra, then I applaud you - and that confidence will make whatever you wear look amazing on you!

It's easy enough to skim through and read the OPs follow up posts or read the last two pages before posting. Maybe your post is that important though. You have a cracking day too. [patronising flowers]