How often do people call their MIL?

[Geneva1995]

Just wondering how often people speak to their MIL on the phone. I speak to my mum every other day but I don’t feel the need to ring mil half as much and DP seems to think I’m unfair.
She rang last night and I missed her call so she rang DP and asked if she’d done something to upset me. I was in the shower!

We live 300 miles away so we don’t either of our parents often

@nancyjuice7 we're the same

Never in 30 years!

We speak via FaceTime every Saturday morning as she lives 200 miles away. This way she get to see us as well

We speak at least once a week , take it in turns to phone.
My dh would never think to phone his mum and it is always me who answers the call even if we can see who it is . I'm also the one who will speak first and then pass the phone to him. Am I madly keen on her , no , but I feel a little obligation . She will tell me stuff and then repeat the same to him , we have her on speaker phone as well . She is 84 and getting a little forgetful . So often it's a bit groundhog day .

Never. Why would I? She asked once or twice, but tbh, it’s my DH’s mum, not mine.

I think it’s very unfair of your dh t9 make you feel you have to do this, OP, when he wouldn’t dream of calling your mum.

We text probably every few days and I see her maybe 4 days of the week, go shopping every so often just us, video called her when she was on hols so the dc could say hi. Dh has a good relationship with her too and calls her if we've not seen her in a few days.

I'm really surprised at other replies actually, she may not be my mum but she's dcs gran and adores my dc as do they with her.

I call mine fairly regularly and text more frequently.

I have always lived nearer to her so she has been involved in our day to day lives more than my own parents were (they are both dead now).

During the last few years of my abusive marriage it became too hard to see ex's family, but one of the positive things about being divorced from him is that we (me and my 2 sons) have been able to resume our relationship with theI ILs. Ex is estranged from all his family so I am actually closer to his parents than he is. They understand that he was abusive and have been very supportive in the years post-divorce.

Also they are the boys' grandparents and as I don't have my parents I am thankful that they are around.

So, I do make an effort with them (they are divorced).

Never and we get on fine. I think if I rang her she’d assume I was ringing to say DH had been in an accident/had a heart attack!

Regularly. I would say I speak to my MIL most weeks. Probably more than my DH does. She is lovely and we get on well. My in-laws live 200 miles away so don’t see them all that often but keep in touch via calls, FaceTime & WhatsApp.

Never!

How often does your DH call your mum?

Lots, DH calls her too but I like ringing for a chat, this and that. I call her on my day off on a Friday. She'll phone me too to say hi also. I wouldn't have it any other way, she's like a mum to me.

I have called her once in 12 years because I had to. I don’t have anything to discuss with her but she calls...and calls and calls and DH has to speak to her.

Never, but to be fair, we don't speak the same language!! I do text her and someone translates for her, we live many miles apart, different continents. My husband phones his Mil NEVER!

Never but always pleased to see her when she comes and text her if I see something she might like or to wish her luck for something etc

DH agreed to MIL putting me down as an emergency contact for her fall alert alarm (and not him) even though he is much more available in the day than me. I always wondered why my late fils carers had my number . Something about finding someone with ovaries to do all the caring duties. I'm planning on getting my mum in on the joke and putting him down as her emergency contact in due course.

My in laws live nearby and they visit our house most days to walk the dog whilst we are at work so I sometimes call or text if there is something specific like can they wait in for a parcel for me.

Never. I might text on her birthday.

Never. DH texts her every couple of days and phones her weekly. He wouldn’t pick up the phone and phone my mum either so I don’t feel bad.

What, like for a chat? Literally never.

Never.... DP calls her maybe once a month. I see her if she comes round for lunch and that's it. Why would I call her?

I do. We probably only see her twice a year. She is lovely and I enjoy our chats and catching up.

I never call my MIL. She's brilliant and I love her but I'm shit at small talk. I do talk to my mum but she's very chatty so I call and listen to her talk about her day 😁

Only to ring and thank for gift.

Maybe once or twice in 8 years? I do text her a bit and send her lots of pics of the kids.
I really like my MIL! But she's not my DM.

Never really. I used to quite a bit, but never now since she decided to let rip on all my (nonexistent and quite unfair and in her own head!) personal failings as a person and DIL. Since then I have DH’s full consent for not regularly engaging anymore other than functional contact. It’s his responsibility, which he owns, and if she feels aggrieved with the lack of contact or lack of grandchild photos she needs to speak to her son. He’s a very capable man and is fine with that!