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Birthday card

243 replies

Heartburn888 · 18/10/2019 07:52

It’s my birthday today ♥️🎉

My partner has kindly bought me a card from him and from his two boys (my step sons) which was lovely and appreciated.

I haven’t got a card from my unborn child - am I just being a birthday drama queen or is my disappointment justified? I have asked him he said the supermarket didn’t have any cards from ‘bump’ but if that was me purchasing the card I’d of just got a happy birthday mummy card. I’m in the latter stages of pregnancy for context.

Aibu to go and buy one myself?

OP posts:
AhNowTed · 18/10/2019 11:17

I've heard it all now!

yellowallpaper · 18/10/2019 11:17

If your DP is a normal human being like most of us here, then he wouldn't have heard of this nonsense.

Having a nightmare of a slippery, slimey foetus slopping out of the uterus and heading to the nearest card shop.

Whatwaswrongwiththatusername · 18/10/2019 11:18

Here we go. Sorted! 😆 Print it off and shove it on the mantle piece, job's a goodun!

Birthday card
Sooverthemill · 18/10/2019 11:20

Wtf? I can hardly believe an adult woman would expect her partner to write a card pretending it is from her unborn child.

Ringdonna · 18/10/2019 11:20

FFS Hmm

RuggerHug · 18/10/2019 11:21

You need to calm down. Step away from the thread and card shops if you must but you can't have this deleted because it didn't go your way. Leave it up as advice in case anyone else has a wobble and thinks the same thing, they can know they're BU without having to ask.

PrincessHoneysuckle · 18/10/2019 11:22

Sorry but what?

NoSauce · 18/10/2019 11:23

This is a joke right?

ThatMuppetShow · 18/10/2019 11:40

It's not a view. It is a foetus till it is born, then it's called a baby.

bollocks to that. Never had a medical professional addressing the content of my bump as "your foetus" either. When problems, a more diplomatic "your pregnancy" might have been used, but everyone talks about your BABY. Because it's one.

Original poster
Heartburn888 · 18/10/2019 11:42

haha but it’s not a case of people not agreeing with me and throwing my toys out of the pram. I’ll say it again. Have you read the comments on here? I can take some shit from people and I do have a thick skin however comments on here are not justified and are uncalled for but that’s just me throwing my toys out because I don’t like being given abuse 🙄 Pretty sure if someone had posted to say they were on the receiving end of verbal abuse from a partner or friends over a small issue like the one I have posted then you’d be saying LTB it’s abuse or similar! But since it’s online and you don’t actually know me personally, then it’s okay 🤦🏼‍♀️ Last post from me now. Hope you lot manage to find something else to entertain you which doesn’t cause upset to others. 👋

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escapade1234 · 18/10/2019 11:49

There are some real nasty saddos on here OP. Ignore it and hide the thread. You’ve had a bit of an overreaction to something because you’re feeling hormonal and delicate right now. You haven’t committed a crime. Lots of people clearly do buy “from the bump” cards or manufacturers wouldn’t make them.

I’m really saddened to see so many pile on to mock and ridicule a pregnant woman for simply feeling sensitive about something a bit daft. People have a lot of bitterness inside them and, unfortunately, an anonymous forum is a easy place for them to release the valve.

Log off and forget it all OP.

Junkmail · 18/10/2019 11:51

You can take it up with your newborn in 6 weeks—see what he/she has to say for themselves! Very selfish imo—it’s not as if he/she is busy just hanging out in the womb all day.

(You’re being a little dramatic OP)

MoaningMyrtle96 · 18/10/2019 11:53

@Heartburn888 some of the comments are unbelievable. Please come off here and enjoy your birthday!

BoggiesBonnieBelle · 18/10/2019 11:57

Happy Birthday!

Hormones do weird things to pregnant women. Half the posters being nasty will have had some equally daft thought when pregnant and hormonal. If you'd posted "I'm due to give birth soon and today I cried for two hours solid over a missing cat poster AIBU" everybody would have reassured you that YANBU.

Just go to the baby names section and see the posts which say "We've been planning to call our baby Olivia Rose, but now that I'm about to give birth, I think I prefer Persephone Seraphina Hyacinth. Is Persephone Seraphina Hyacinth a good name?"

Weird thoughts in the latter stages of pregnancy are NORMAL!

Have a lovely birthday!

Mephisto · 18/10/2019 11:57

Vile cretins.

That’s really nasty, OP.

ThatMuppetShow · 18/10/2019 12:02

But since it’s online and you don’t actually know me personally, then it’s okay

more likely, if you ask people in real life they will stay diplomatic and humour you, but won't think any differently and might even laugh at you behind your back...

So now you know.

SleepingStandingUp · 18/10/2019 12:03

@Heartburn888 I'm with you. Lots of card shops sell cards from "bump", DH managed to find one for me with first born and I'll get him one off bump this time.

slashlover · 18/10/2019 12:04

Did you get a father's day card for your partner from the bump? Also, when is your partners birthday, did he get one from bump?

Sceptre86 · 18/10/2019 12:05

Put it down to hormones and look forward to your first mummy card. Good luck for the rest of your pregnancy x

SpudleyLass · 18/10/2019 12:06

Yeah you're being unreasonable. At a stretch, he could have maybe included ''bump'' in the card from him and stepsons.

For what its worth, it was my birthday yesterday and I received a grand total of 3 cards.

Not even one of those were from my spouse. There is a few people on my shit list this year, so I do understand the disappointment.

MayTheLordOpen · 18/10/2019 12:06

Maybe baby just couldn't get to the shops Grin

gwackywacky · 18/10/2019 12:11

@Ponoka7 I didn't know that there a specific, scientific, medical point where the child became a baby as opposed to a foetus, I just assumed a foetus would refer to a child still being carried inside the womb, and it terminologically became a baby once it had been born because it can now exist outside the womb.

I'm not too sure why you think I should know that. I dont have kids and I don't plan on having any kids. Unless you think all women should know about babies?

Lunafortheloveogod · 18/10/2019 12:12

Calm the beans woman.. he’ll probably forget to get you a Christmas card from your newborn if he’s like mine Grin. Ds born a week before Mother’s Day... I still haven’t got my Mother’s Day. And he was a legally registered human by then.

The justification ranged from “I hadn’t any time.”. got his mum a spa voucher.. “he (ds) can’t get to the shops yet lol”. Made sure I got him a nice cute Father’s Day gift not just a mug n anyone who asked what I got was told “not a thing”.

Mole hills to mountains.

Giraffe888 · 18/10/2019 12:18

It seems I’m in the minority but I agree with you! 😳 cards mean a lot to me and my DH knows that. My DS is 3 months and it’s my birthday on Sunday and DH knows to get me a card from him. He got me a ‘bump’ Xmas card and mother’s day card too

Happy birthday!

Batcrazy101 · 18/10/2019 12:21

OP I would be more annoyed that this is how you are spending your birthday... arguing with people on MN!

Aibu to go and buy one myself?

Yes, yes that would be unreasonable.