Birthday card

[Heartburn888]

It’s my birthday today ♥️🎉

My partner has kindly bought me a card from him and from his two boys (my step sons) which was lovely and appreciated.

I haven’t got a card from my unborn child - am I just being a birthday drama queen or is my disappointment justified? I have asked him he said the supermarket didn’t have any cards from ‘bump’ but if that was me purchasing the card I’d of just got a happy birthday mummy card. I’m in the latter stages of pregnancy for context.

Aibu to go and buy one myself?

Happy birthday 🎈

I think YANBU to hope for one, And it sounds like your DP did try a little bit by looking at the supermarket. My husband is also the kind that does card shopping at the supermarket 😁 usually the day before my birthday.

There is a lot of negativity here that seems unjustified. My child was my child from the moment I found out I'd conceived them, regardless of status as 'just' foetus. I loved getting cards from the bump, it was special to me.

My 2 year old can't get to a shop to get me a card but I would be sad to not receive one from her. Even if she managed to get to the shop I doubt she'd be able to choose a card herself, or buy it, or sign it without help.

I also think card giving is about who you're giving to, so you don't think about whether you would like a card (from bump etc), you think about whether the person you're giving to would.

oh dear, maybe the hormones have got to you!

I think it's your hormones! Although, I'm just as bad and would have been secretly disappointed too, despite knowing its ridiculous!

Are you for real?

If my husband bought me a card from one of unborn babies I'd have shrivelled up with cringe.
It's like getting a 'mystery' Valentines card from your Mum when you're a teenager.

How... can you expect to receive a card from someone who doesn't even legally exist yet? I mean, obviously he exists... but legally? Until he's born? Nope.

I was two weeks away from having my youngest son, when my birthday rolled around that year and my bump was so huge that he proceeded me everywhere. I ate dinner that evening, sat sideways, essentially, on an uncomfortable restaurant chair, because I knew he'd start kicking if he felt the edge of the table somewhere against his private swimming pool (I'd miscarried his twin at 9 weeks, but my body was equipped for two foetuses, still at that point, so I looked past my due date when I was five months pregnant), and if that happened? My nice birthday dinner, my romantic evening with his Dad, simply wouldn't continue. Because he'd kick so much that my stomach would repel its contents at speed...

Actually, I remember buying a Father’s Day card “from the bump” one year. It actually said that on it. To be clear, DH was already a father by then so it didn’t seem weird. I wouldn’t do it for someone who wasn’t already a parent because it feels like tempting fate and also because when you are those first cards will feel so much more meaningful.

You’re not a mummy yet. You will be soon and it will be a precious feeling but you need to hang in there, the job’s not quite yours.

Out of curiosity, would he stick his hand out through your belly button or your vagina to write it?

Happy birthday though!!

You are barking mad. But happy birthday.

I gave my dh a card from the dogs, cats and bump a few days ago for his birthday

It's very unlike me to do something like that! I'm blaming my pregnancy hormones for doing it so I think you can blame yours for wanting it

Happy birthday!

Sorry, OP but you are being daft. There's no way your unborn baby has thought 'woah! Need to get a card for Mum!' is there?

There's plenty of time for your dc to buy cards after they have actually been born.

Will you be wanting a “thank you for birthing me” card on baby’s arrival too?

Another vote for being a bit daft (I’ll presume you’re joking about buying one yourself ). But you might want to be quite specific about what you expect on Mothers Day as it sounds like you’ll have expectations!

Really really ridiculous.

Just about the most unreasonable I've ever seen on MN!

If you are going to have a baby in six weeks, you might want to grow up a bit.

He could possibly have written on the card “From DH, DSS1, DSS2 and Bump”. I wouldn’t expect a separate card. And I wouldn’t get worked up about the lack of the words “and Bump” written on my card.

Weeeell, mine sent fathers'day and birthday cards in utero and DH liked it! Twee perhaps, but we were so excited about them. I think if you want it, you have to drop massive hints, but YANBU.

I LOVE this! 🤣

So does everyone else in the office 🤣

Happy Birthday OP!!

Surely, he could've just added 'the bump' to who the card was from. Why would you expect a separate card??? Anyway, I kind of think the bump is part of you until it is born.

Anyway, I kind of think the bump is part of you until it is born

I agree with this. It would feel a bit like getting a card from your left elbow

@Heartburn888 oh im having such a shit day and this has cheered me right up, thank you . and happy birthday.

i think you should go and buy yourself a card and a cake from bump, write the card, pop it on the mantlepiece and eat your cake. if you cant be a bit mad when pregnant when can you be

Happy Birthday but yes you're being very unreasonable! Never heard of anyone getting a birthday card from their bump before haha