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Birthday card

243 replies

Heartburn888 · 18/10/2019 07:52

It’s my birthday today ♥️🎉

My partner has kindly bought me a card from him and from his two boys (my step sons) which was lovely and appreciated.

I haven’t got a card from my unborn child - am I just being a birthday drama queen or is my disappointment justified? I have asked him he said the supermarket didn’t have any cards from ‘bump’ but if that was me purchasing the card I’d of just got a happy birthday mummy card. I’m in the latter stages of pregnancy for context.

Aibu to go and buy one myself?

OP posts:
BlueMoon1103 · 18/10/2019 08:58

It wouldn’t have been my cup of tea but it would be a lovely thought for someone who did like that sort of thing, I don’t think you’re being totally unreasonable but it might not have occurred to your DP. Happy Birthday!

Mephisto · 18/10/2019 08:58

It’s too early in the muring for this goady shit. Run along now OP.

NewName73 · 18/10/2019 09:00

Attention seeking, much?

Biscuit
usernamerisnotavailable · 18/10/2019 09:02

I really have read it all now. You are being ridiculous.

Derbee · 18/10/2019 09:02

I think the only thing crazier than wanting a card from an unborn baby would be going out and buying/writing one yourself from said unborn baby. This is actually making me laugh as I type this 😂😂

Osirus · 18/10/2019 09:02

Yes, you’re being weird. You knew you would get a fairly heated response, if you are in any way familiar with AIBU.

Are you the same poster with the sister who goes on holiday around her due date? You have the same entitled (sorry!) attitude and the posting style is identical.

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Ihateedmundelephant · 18/10/2019 09:05

This is literally the most insane thing I’ve ever read 😂😂😂 you’re upset that your husband didn’t buy you a birthday card from your unborn child (who definitely doesn’t wish you a happy birthday, on account of being an unborn child)?! Also, you can buy birthday cards from ‘bump’ 🤮 that’s so naff it genuinely makes me feel a bit nauseous. But each to their own!

RuggerHug · 18/10/2019 09:05

YABU.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 18/10/2019 09:07

I don't think it would ever have occurred to me to expect a card from a bump - and I was heavily pregnant for 2 birthdays.

However I always had a card from our dog and cat (RIP both🙁) and they weren't renowned for their shopping or handwriting skills. They always sent one to dh and dds, too.

Maybe we should count ourselves lucky to get cards at all. Yesterday I spoke to a Swedish friend who's moved back after decades in the UK. It was her birthday, and she said how lovely it was to get cards from friends in the UK. She said Swedes just don't bother any more - you get a text or an email, and it's just not the same.

DriftingLeaves · 18/10/2019 09:08

Good grief. Mad as a box of frogs.

He isn't a baby yet.

Dinosauraddict · 18/10/2019 09:09

I hadn't thought about this, but my birthday is 4 weeks before my due date. I think this could be a really great convo to have with DH tonight: 'hubby, there was a woman on AIBU earlier, and her baby bump didn't even buy her a birthday card. Can you believe her husband not sorting that for her?! I hope I don't spend my birthday so sad that baby has forgotten my first ever birthday that he's in my world...' My DH would probably still forget. He's not a card person. The bump has already bought daddy a Christmas present though! Grin

diddl · 18/10/2019 09:10

Well he probably is a baby by now, but is Op a "mummy" yet?

EdersonsSmileyTattoo · 18/10/2019 09:12

Bonkers, ridiculous, drama queen, etc.......Biscuit

Oysterbabe · 18/10/2019 09:13

I'm team nutter I'm afraid.

GlitterSparkle85 · 18/10/2019 09:13

Why not appreciate the cards that you HAVE got?

ittakes2 · 18/10/2019 09:14

Happy Birthday - sorry but yes very much a drama queen! I was also heavily pregnant for my birthday - card from bump did not cross my mind!! I think you might have issue with your step children because you specifically mentioned you got a card from hubby and them but not your child together rather than just saying hubby did not get a card for bump.

frost8bite · 18/10/2019 09:14

you have made my morning hahaha
Happy birthday!

FuriousVexation · 18/10/2019 09:15

This can't be real.

Were you expecting your DH to stick his hand up you with card and pen so your foetus could write "happy birthday not-yet-my-mum"?

ThatMuppetShow · 18/10/2019 09:16

I haven’t got a card from my unborn child

I am puzzled.

but I already find the idea of a birthday card from an adult who lives with you and is physically here very odd, so I accept it might just be me.

ThatMuppetShow · 18/10/2019 09:17

You can send birthday cards from the dog or the cat, but I always thought it was being sarcastic? Maybe people really are serious?

user1480880826 · 18/10/2019 09:18

You are being ridiculous. Next you’ll be wanted a card from your next door neighbours cat.

Happy birthday!

SlothMama · 18/10/2019 09:19

Happy Birthday OP!

Chivers53 · 18/10/2019 09:21

My birthday was 2 months after DS was born, and I was a bit gutted to not get a card to keep. Saying that I got nothing from my partner either, so I guess it was no surprise

Whattodoabout · 18/10/2019 09:22

Blame the hormones Grin. Cards from foetuses aren’t the norm.