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Birthday card

243 replies

Heartburn888 · 18/10/2019 07:52

It’s my birthday today ♥️🎉

My partner has kindly bought me a card from him and from his two boys (my step sons) which was lovely and appreciated.

I haven’t got a card from my unborn child - am I just being a birthday drama queen or is my disappointment justified? I have asked him he said the supermarket didn’t have any cards from ‘bump’ but if that was me purchasing the card I’d of just got a happy birthday mummy card. I’m in the latter stages of pregnancy for context.

Aibu to go and buy one myself?

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Heartburn888 · 18/10/2019 10:44

@mumsnethq

Delete this thread if it’s within your guidelines. it’s going too far and It’s actually quite upsetting reading the posts that some of your vile users create.

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holidays987 · 18/10/2019 10:44

😂 I don't know if this is all serious or just for a giggle.

AmIThough · 18/10/2019 10:44

My DP told me he didn't get me a Mother's Day card from bump because it'd be horrendous if anything went wrong.
Then he also forgot to get a birthday card from baby when she was 4 months old because 'I'm not used to thinking about other people' 🤣

You're being precious

AmIThough · 18/10/2019 10:44

My DP told me he didn't get me a Mother's Day card from bump because it'd be horrendous if anything went wrong.
Then he also forgot to get a birthday card from baby when she was 4 months old because 'I'm not used to thinking about other people' 🤣

You're being precious

Sweetpotatoaddict · 18/10/2019 10:44

Happy birthday!!

I do remember when pregnant seeing a post from an acquaintance of a photo of a millies cookie wishing them happy birthday from bump! It does happen, it just depends on your OH way of thinking.

I hope you have a nice day, and ignore the snide remarks FlowersCake

MoaningMyrtle96 · 18/10/2019 10:44

Happy birthday to you!

Don't be sad about not having a card from bump. Just a few more weeks to go and you'll have something even better than a card.

Have a lovely day Grin

ThatMuppetShow · 18/10/2019 10:45

I did actually ask my partner to get me a card from bump.

I do agree that you are pregnant with a BABY the minute that line turns blue, and it would be very shocking if a mother would distance herself from s/he by calling them a foetus - unless medical issues where that distance become necessary.

But come on, you asked for a birthday card? This is getting silly.

selavy · 18/10/2019 10:45

Wow, I think I’ve heard it all now. And yes, you are being unreasonable and, quite frankly, completely ridiculous.

ThatMuppetShow · 18/10/2019 10:46

OP, you can't ask for a thread to be removed just because the majority disagrees with you!

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Heartburn888 · 18/10/2019 10:49

It’s not a simple disagreement, have you read some of the comments? Disgusting and vile and that’s the reason I want it removed.

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ThatMuppetShow · 18/10/2019 10:51

You can just ignore the thread, and move on with your life - no need for more drama.

Ponoka7 · 18/10/2019 10:55

@gwackywacky
"This is really off topic but... Surely a foetus is a foetus until it is born and then is a baby?"

From 24 weeks it is considered a baby, with a right to medical intervention and a virth certificate (even if stillborn) and burial. It's really strange that you don't know that. That's medically speaking, before that nost women will consider that they are having a baby.

@ThatMuppetShow, it's been more than that.

OP cretin is a medical condition, in a similar way to Downs Syndrome. Using it as an insult is the same as using, Mong, Retard, Spastic etc.

SunshineAngel · 18/10/2019 11:00

The thing is, it's not really "from" your baby, if your partner buys it.. so what is the point? Similar to how partners buy birthday cards for their partner on behalf of their children for at least the first and possibly second year of their life.

When kids are too young to understand (and definitely before they are even born!) I don't see the point. When they can sign (or scribble) on the card themselves then yes, fine.

Expecting your partner to do this is just one more job for him tbh. Cut him some slack.

FinnBalorsAbs · 18/10/2019 11:01

This has escalated quickly...

RainbowUnicorn1 · 18/10/2019 11:04

Some of the comments on this are unbelievable! OP I don't think yabu, when I was pregnant DH got me a card from bump for my birthday, Christmas and Mother's Day. I would have felt the same if he hadn't, though like you, I wouldn't have said anything about it to him.
Happy Birthday!

Mephisto · 18/10/2019 11:05

Why don’t you just get the card yourself? Then you can post it in FB with a comment saying ‘aww looks what hubs got for bubba xx’.

RainbowBlanket · 18/10/2019 11:06

I think YABU to expect a card, but I don’t think you deserve half the things posters are saying. Just look forward to next year when you get your first mummy card.

whateverhappenstheremore · 18/10/2019 11:08

Just when you think you've heard it all ...

ThatMuppetShow · 18/10/2019 11:09

I am glad my DH didn't throw a tantrum when he didn't get a birthday/xmas/father's day from "the bump" - I didn't even think about it. Must be a shit wife. Oh well.

notso · 18/10/2019 11:09

I agree with this. It would feel a bit like getting a card from your left elbow

Grin
Kaboni19 · 18/10/2019 11:10

You're entitled to feel however you wish and a card on behalf of your unborn baby would've been a nice touch.
I received one for my birthday when I was due 2 weeks later and really appreciated it.
I'd say you're only being unreasonable if you're being funny with your other half over it.
Happy Birthday btw GrinThanksCake

AmIThough · 18/10/2019 11:11

@Heartburn888 calling posters 'vile cretins' won't do you any favours and also goes against the guidelines Grin

Nomorepies · 18/10/2019 11:14

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abouttime2 · 18/10/2019 11:16

1st world problems 😂

Happy birthday- but I would put this one down to hormones !

Nomorepies · 18/10/2019 11:17

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