Birthday card

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It’s my birthday today ♥️🎉

My partner has kindly bought me a card from him and from his two boys (my step sons) which was lovely and appreciated.

I haven’t got a card from my unborn child - am I just being a birthday drama queen or is my disappointment justified? I have asked him he said the supermarket didn’t have any cards from ‘bump’ but if that was me purchasing the card I’d of just got a happy birthday mummy card. I’m in the latter stages of pregnancy for context.

Aibu to go and buy one myself?

Blimey. It’s my husband’s birthday today too, bit worried now, I haven’t got him a card from his testicles

What the hell? No you shouldn’t get a card from your unborn child.

infact I haven’t said a word to him about it

I have asked him he said the supermarket didn’t have any cards from ‘bump’

Which is it??

You are being utterly ludicrous

Glad I’ve lightened some of your mornings, must dash now - school run is calling! Have a great Friday peeps! ♥️

I do get where your coming from, my husband got a card from bump and I sent my sister a card from bump when she was pregnant becuase I knew her husband wouldn't and when my birthday came round I didn't get one. I was a little bit sad but didn't say anything as although it is sweet your baby isn't born yet and about 99.9 percent of people wouldn't think to send a card from bump, don't let it ruin your day. I've learnt with my husband if I want something ask e.g. I ask him to get my son to do the card himself as he wouldn't think to have a baby write/ scribble a card!

Watersheep - I asked him if I had a card from bump and he said they didn’t have one in the supermarket. My meaning by not saying a word was meant as in I haven’t gone off on one with him about it

I can't believe you're serious. A card from a foetus!

Um, sorry - yet another vote for 'ridiculous'!

You can blame the hormones though - when my mild-mannered mum was menopausal she absolutely lost her shit at my dad because he didn't think to get a Christmas stocking for the dog. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Thing is though, plenty of people write cards to others FROM their 'bump' so its not completely unreasonable to expect a card TO your bump - however men generally just don't think about these kind of things.

FWIW OP my best friend got me a card on mothers day when I found out I was expecting (I had been TTC for a few years - i didn't ask for it but it made me shed a tear of joy) at the time I was only about 4-6 weeks

I turned 30 when I was 20 weeks pregnant...didn't even occur to me to make my husband buy a card from the bump.

Sorry but YABU

Feels like a Daily Mail post that has been placed a reporter hoping for a cheap crap story to make a crap article from.

My meaning by not saying a word was meant as in I haven’t gone off on one with him about it

Goodness, I hadn't even considered someone might have an argument about something like this.

It's YABU from me too I'm afraid.
Happy Birthday though.

It would not occur to me in a million years to do a card from a foetus! And I'm very late stage myself now. Perhaps you need to have a think about/slightly alter your general expectations now before the baby comes?! Otherwise you may get to be rather high maintenance (or something like that) which your DH probably won't be able to keep up with!!

Doesn’t change my views though

Probably not much point in posting in AIBU then.

Oh God I've heard it all now! Are you suggesting the foetus a) remembered it was your birthday, b) trotted off to the shop to buy a card, c) showed amazing skills at such a young age, being able to write a card ???

Is it possible you are overestimating the capabilities of your DH

Surely overestimating the capabilities of foetus to take itself (presumably without you, OP) to Smiths to buy, unwrap and sign a card??

I don't think it's that out of the ordinary...
Well obviously it is going by 99.9% of the answers!

There wasn't a card in the supermarket because the concept is over the top and unnecessary OP, you won't actually be getting a card from the baby until it's old enough to write, your DP writing of it's existence in a card by bolting the name in isn't really a card from the baby anyway tbh

I assume you really mean you wanted DP to acknowledge the baby as as legitimate as the other children and isn't acknowledging it as a real person the way you are by omitting him/her. It's hormones surely OP. Just forget it and move on, give the baby a chance to be born before you upset yourself at its lack of correspondence.

I got my first mummy card when my 2nd born was able to go and buy me one.

My cat, however, occasionally writes cards to DD, so I'm not sure about this.

Happy Birthday 🥳Congratulations but don’t be silly .... to expect a card from your unborn is a bit ridiculous. I hope your current level of expectation doesn’t persist when baby is born. You’ll be expecting a round of applause from the little one when they pop out of your vag

You are being a drama queen I'm afraid.

But it's your birthday and you're pregnant so it's ok. Happy birthday

Happy birthday, you nutter!!

Thanks for brightening my morning