Birthday card

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It’s my birthday today ♥️🎉

My partner has kindly bought me a card from him and from his two boys (my step sons) which was lovely and appreciated.

I haven’t got a card from my unborn child - am I just being a birthday drama queen or is my disappointment justified? I have asked him he said the supermarket didn’t have any cards from ‘bump’ but if that was me purchasing the card I’d of just got a happy birthday mummy card. I’m in the latter stages of pregnancy for context.

Aibu to go and buy one myself?

I was term+10 on my birthday. Just got one saying wife. YABU

You're being ridiculous!! Sorry but you are!! Happy birthday!

You'll always get brutal honesty of opinions in AIBU, OP
However, the general consensus is that you're being U.

When I was pregnant I would write cards to other people from me, DH and 'bump', but I would have found it really odd if he'd written a card to me from the unborn child.

Are you for real ? Maybe you want a card from any future "bump" ,Grandchild, cat or bloody budgie

You are going to get strong responses because it is something that is completely out of the normal.

Just because a money hungry card company manufactures cards doesn't mean most people think its a reasonable thing to want, let alone get upset about because your dp (who thinks like the vast majority of people) didn't get you one.

Happy birthday, but yes I agree YABU to have expected it.

I was anxious right up until DS was safely born. Whilst a 'bump' card would have been cute it would have been awful to have been given it for something bad then to have happened. I'm not meaning to be depressing or suggesting anything WILL happen but just my personal view.

i didnt get any cards from my dh nor my 3 adult dc, i had to be happy with seeing them

My dp includes 'bump' at the end of cards from him or my other child. He wouldn't buy a card specifically from bump.
Happy birthday

I gave birth the day before my 29th birthday and my ungrateful newborn didn't get my a present OR a card! :D

Sorry OP you're being ridiculous. Cards from children are so much nicer when they are old enough to make them themselves instead of family money going to a card company anyway.

Happy birthday, have a lovely relaxing day!

Oh and PLEASE don't buy one for yourself. You will hopefully have many years of 'Mummy' cards to come!

i think you can wait til this time next year op!
happy birthday by the way

The lovely thing about events in the year after you’ve had your baby is they’ll include your baby for the first time.

As your birthday card was also from your step sons I’m sure you’ll get a Christmas card from all 4.

Happy birthday

Happy Birthday!! You're being massively unreasonable.

I'm pretty sure you're just kidding, right?

Happy birthday! It would've been lovely if he'd done it but I don't think you should be upset with him. It's your hormones, they do make you think/act crazy.

I was upset when my fiancé didn't get a card that said Mummy on it for my first Mother's Day this year. I just told him in a jokey way so that he knows what I like, sentimental crap like that is important to me.

Sorry that's hilarious! My son was born one month after my birthday. It never occurred to me that I'd get a card from him!

YABU, but I get it...

I was pregnant over mine and DH's birthdays and we both got each other birthday cards from "the bump"

But we are also those people who (before I was pregnant) got each other cards to mum/dad from the cat so...

Either way, don't be sad about it and just enjoy your birthday

Ginger - I totally get that point. Which is why I didn’t expect one on mother day when I was newly pregnant.

I have to disagree, I don’t think it is that out of the ordinary albeit I didn’t realise how many people did think it was out of the ordinary! Doesn’t change my views though

Is it possible you are overestimating the capabilities of your DH? Many don't even seem to be able to make it into a card shop whatever the occasion (the poor helpless things) and would just be happy he did what he did.

I can't think of any men (or women... hence most of the replies on here) that would think that a card from your unborn baby should be an expectation. Sounds completely bizarre to me! Plus haven't we already got too many cards for too many occasions in this country already without adding this too ?

I would consider your bump a baby at this stage too in pregnancy even if it’s not the technical term as such! It would have been a nice keepsake for you If you had the card, I get it! I suppose because it’s not done all that often, your partner wouldn’t have thought to do it either! I think it’s a shame it’s upset you, I wouldn’t be angry at your partner for not thinking of it because that would be unreasonable, but I do understand what you are thinking too! It was a nice thought and you were hoping to get it to keep to remind you of the pregnancy I assume! At least you will have a lifetime of cards from the next birthday on though so try not to let this ruin this one on you, you will have your baby in your arms in no time and that will be nicer than any old card!❤️❤️❤️ Happy birthday!

You have made me laugh on this grey day OP. I have never heard of cards from the as yet unborn.

I think this will be a funny story one day op.

I think being upset over not getting a card from an unborn child to a bit crazy too.

Please don't tell the OP that her baby isn't a baby. Why do people feel the need to push their views onto people so heavily.

It's not a view. It is a foetus till it is born, then it's called a baby.

Anyway, happy birthday OP! And yes you are bonkers. Blame the hormones and have a lovely day!

I’m not sad about it just a tad disappointed I didn’t have one and I certainly wouldn’t go off on one with my other half, infact I haven’t said a word to him about it 😂 just thanked him for the cards and choc from him and the kids and carried on normally! chose your battles and all that..

fucksake