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Should I have shared my garlic bread?

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RobynsMama · 16/10/2019 18:52

Went to Nando’s with some pals, we all like doing this because we all order what we want separately and there’s no faffing with splitting the bill.

Our orders came, and I ordered garlic bread as my side. I love garlic bread, and I love the bread they put their garlic butter on and it’s my fave thing.

Friends meal arrives, she’s ordered chips and coleslaw as her side, looks forlornly over at my perfect garlic bread and says “I wish I’d ordered the garlic bread now”. Someone else pipes up with “oh you’ll know for next time.” And we all
Laughed.

So I just eat my meal and enjoy my (two slices of) garlic bread. She’s got an absolute face on at the end of the meal and I asked her what was up and she said to me “you could’ve offered me one of your slices of garlic bread instead of gutsing them both”.

I wish I was more mature and I wish that comment hadn’t hurt me but I’m in the middle of a weight loss journey (still treating myself to sinful garlic bread sometimes) I have to say it really shocked me and I’ve been thinking about it ever since (i know iabu because it’s just a comment but still). She made me feel like a right gutsy git.

If it was something like an Indian meal I’d have had no problem sharing bits of everything because that’s the kind of meal it is but with something like Nando’s surely you just pick what you want? Was I right to eat both my pieces of garlic bread or should I have offered to share?

OP posts:
Fookadook · 16/10/2019 20:18

So she thought you should had given her half of your side? Um...no!

She’s a CF.

LagunaBubbles · 16/10/2019 20:20

YABU. It's just a slice of bread, why get so attached to it?
Er how about the fact it was her meal, a meal she had paid for.

Aridane · 16/10/2019 20:22

Gutsing is just mean just mean

I would have said to a friend to order a portion and that while she waited for hers, she could have half of mine. And ditto when hers arrived

OhIKnew · 16/10/2019 20:22

Well i dunno, you sound like a hungry bunch. It wouldn't cost me a thought to offer some to share. It's not like all you had to eat was 2 slices of garlic bread. You had a main too.

CakeAndGin · 16/10/2019 20:27

Did even have to read the thread, the title was enough to make me say no. Then we find out this Nando’s garlic bread?!? The only reason I’m sharing garlic bread is if I also want halloumi fries but feel greedy having two sides/starters...

Come on, we all know the sides at Nando’s. We all know garlic bread is better than the coleslaw (even though I do like the coleslaw). She made a bad decision so now she’s got to deal with it.

EKGEMS · 16/10/2019 20:27

OhIKnew Ever learn to be polite?

UrkStarkadder · 16/10/2019 20:31

I cannot understand why on earth she felt you should give her your food. And actually had a little tanty about it, is she 5? Also cannot understand those voting YABU.
I do not share food; touch my food, feel my fork.

UrkStarkadder · 16/10/2019 20:33

And you weren’t gutsing your food, she’s the greedy one. She had food envy.

Disfordarkchocolate · 16/10/2019 20:39

If she was that bothered she could have nipped to the till and ordered some.

rainingallday · 16/10/2019 20:44

@RobynsMama

Cheeky twunt !!!

(Her obvs!)

Oh how I fucking hate people who do this.

I mean, if I had had it, and there was say, 8 pieces, then I may have offered her one, but you only had two. Then again, if you were out with more than one mate, what were you meant to do? Offer ALL of them some? Very unfair.

When me and DH go for a meal, we will sometimes have a bowl of fries, and a portion of garlic bread (usually 4 slices,) and a portion of onion rings (like 6.) I will usually let him have 2/3 of everything because I prefer to eat a bit less, and he is really chuffed. But he doesn't expect it. The cheeky twunt who had a go at you was expecting it.

I have also been out with him and had something and he regrets not getting it, and I do share. But there is just me and him, and I am happy to do so. Plus, he is happy to share with me. (If he has something that I regret not getting.)

But in your situation, with being with a few people, and only having two pieces of garlic bread, you did absolutely nothing wrong.

I would actually be reluctant to go out with her again to be honest. She sounds like an entitled, childish, spiteful little brat. And as for calling you 'gutsy' (aka greedy.) Cheeky b1tch! Angry

LouiseLouisa87 · 16/10/2019 20:45

What a cow!!! YANBU!!!

LouiseLouisa87 · 16/10/2019 20:46

@OhIKnew is the ‘friend’. Or is bored and trying to deliberately wind people up

GabsAlot · 16/10/2019 20:46

How come i never knew they did garlic bread!

Anyway no youre not bu op-she had her sides and you had yours

And joey doesnt share food

SpotlessMind · 16/10/2019 20:47

I feel like you’re a really nice empathic person who takes criticism personally (e.g. you’ve apologised to someone on this thread for using the word ‘journey’ - fuck that! Use whatever word you want! It’s your life and your experience, don’t apologise?). Your friend is taking advantage of your nice nature by being a CF and, even if she was having a bad day, it’s really no excuse for being vile to your friends - she is the one who should be apologising and checking on you. She is an adult woman who could have gone to the till and ordered her own garlic bread if she was so disappointed with her two side choices (or just sucked it up and made a mental note for next time like any regular person would). Please don’t end up apologising to her for this!

Witchofzog · 16/10/2019 20:47

2 slices is a personal portion, not a sharing portion. Your friend has really shown her true colours over this. What did your other friends say when she said this?

HollowTalk · 16/10/2019 20:48

It's such a disgusting way to describe someone eating.

NoSquirrels · 16/10/2019 20:50

She was really rude to you!

What did you say in reply? I hope you didn’t apologise!

DiseasesOfTheSheep · 16/10/2019 20:51

Wild horses couldn't wrench garlic bread out of my hands. To hell with that - if she wants garlic bread, she can order her bloody own.

NotSorry · 16/10/2019 20:56

I hate sharing my food - I order what I want because that’s what I want to eat. I used to go out with some girls and they would be sharing their dinners 3 ways. I couldn’t stand it and had to say “no, I’m having my own dinner”

She used a horrible word to make you feel bad - don’t feel bad OP

DarlingCoffee · 16/10/2019 21:00

I’ve been known to eat a whole baguette of garlic bread before so two slices is nothing, and she wanted one of them!!? CF!! YANBU.

Tractorgirlz · 16/10/2019 21:01

YANBU at all, she’s a cheeky mare! I do think you’re BU about sharing an Indian though! I do not share food with anyone apart from my toddler and my dog Grin

MitziK · 16/10/2019 21:04

If it was around seven slices of garlic bread, I'd say YABslightlyU (as long as it was giving it over when you're down to one lovely slice and two slightly dried and stone cold pieces). But not for a measly two bits- that's not even a portion in non weight loss circumstances.

coolwalking · 16/10/2019 21:05

All I can hear is Peter Kay saying 'Garlic Bread'

Catsandchardonnay · 16/10/2019 21:07

Today I ordered lasagne that came with garlic bread and salad and I said no garlic bread because I don’t like it. Tell her that! Haha she can’t have my garlic bread!

YANBU OP and I can’t believe 2% think otherwise. Your friend is a rude greedy CF.

Tartsamazeballs · 16/10/2019 21:08

The only appropriate response is to yell "Joey doesn't share food" a la Matt le blanc.

She's a cheeky fucker!