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Should I have shared my garlic bread?

345 replies

RobynsMama · 16/10/2019 18:52

Went to Nando’s with some pals, we all like doing this because we all order what we want separately and there’s no faffing with splitting the bill.

Our orders came, and I ordered garlic bread as my side. I love garlic bread, and I love the bread they put their garlic butter on and it’s my fave thing.

Friends meal arrives, she’s ordered chips and coleslaw as her side, looks forlornly over at my perfect garlic bread and says “I wish I’d ordered the garlic bread now”. Someone else pipes up with “oh you’ll know for next time.” And we all
Laughed.

So I just eat my meal and enjoy my (two slices of) garlic bread. She’s got an absolute face on at the end of the meal and I asked her what was up and she said to me “you could’ve offered me one of your slices of garlic bread instead of gutsing them both”.

I wish I was more mature and I wish that comment hadn’t hurt me but I’m in the middle of a weight loss journey (still treating myself to sinful garlic bread sometimes) I have to say it really shocked me and I’ve been thinking about it ever since (i know iabu because it’s just a comment but still). She made me feel like a right gutsy git.

If it was something like an Indian meal I’d have had no problem sharing bits of everything because that’s the kind of meal it is but with something like Nando’s surely you just pick what you want? Was I right to eat both my pieces of garlic bread or should I have offered to share?

OP posts:
RobynsMama · 16/10/2019 19:35

YABU to refer to a weight loss jourmey

I probably am there tbf. But it’s been a long hard struggle.

OP posts:
73Sunglasslover · 16/10/2019 19:35

Nando's don't mind you adding to your order after they've bought your food. This is what your friend should have done. I hope you get an apology from her soon.

RobynsMama · 16/10/2019 19:38

@ the posters who’ve suggested she might have been having a bad day. Thank you for pointing this out and I’m going to check on her because it was a bit out of character. It just hurt me so much at the time that I haven’t been in contact today. Nice to have a bit of perspective on the situation.

Also, sorry if anyone is craving garlic bread now 🙈 I could really go for some too!

OP posts:
Likethebattle · 16/10/2019 19:42

She’s a cheeky fucker,how dare she decide how much of your meal you eat!

MuchBetterNow · 16/10/2019 19:42

The only way people like her get to upset and control you is if you allow them to. The easiest way to stop them is by being totally unaffected by their pathetic nonsense and laugh off their shite.

Candymay · 16/10/2019 19:43

Sounds like an advert for Nando’s! If someone said that to me then I’d be very upset. It’s rude and childish. I would have to say something and I’d try not to eat out with her again.

IWillLockYouIn · 16/10/2019 19:44

What a smeg 🤣

YABU to refer to a weight lossjourmey

Ignoring the point and being patronising at the same time. Nice work 👏🏿

Snowpatrolling · 16/10/2019 19:44

Nope! Not a cats hell in chance should you have shared!
My friends know I don’t share my food end of! She could have ordered her own.

Bezalelle · 16/10/2019 19:49

Cheeky mare should have ordered her own!

"Gutsing" is a horrible word.

ScrommidgeClaryAndSpunt · 16/10/2019 19:50

Given that you pay as you order in there, what on earth was stopping her going up and ordering some for herself? If our local Nando's is anything to go by it would have taken less than 10 minutes to appear.

MaybeitsMaybelline · 16/10/2019 19:50

you could have offered me one of your pieces of garlic bread

You could have ordered your own, cheeky fucker

OkayGo · 16/10/2019 19:50

Hahahahaha hahahahaha nobody would be taking the bread off me that's for sure.

EstebanTheMagnificent · 16/10/2019 19:52

YANBU not to share.

YABU to think of any food as ‘sinful’.

lastqueenofscotland · 16/10/2019 19:54

You would be incredibly unreasonable to share garlic bread.

OhIKnew · 16/10/2019 19:55

I dislike greed. Never learn to share?

Ninkaninus · 16/10/2019 19:56

I agree! It’s spectacularly greedy of the cheeky fucker to want her own sides plus half of OP’s.

timshelthechoice · 16/10/2019 20:00

I dislike greed. Never learn to share?

Pretty greedy to order two sides for yourself and then expect 1/2 of someone else's on top of that. Hmm

Since you dislike greed and are so sharing with other people's property, can you share some money with me? I could use some cash. PM me. Any little helps and greed is such an awful trait.

MajesticWhine · 16/10/2019 20:04

YANBU. Hope she sees the thread and is thoroughly ashamed at how out of order she was.

LaLoba · 16/10/2019 20:06

Bollocks to sharing garlic bread! I’d probably go feral if anyone tried getting between me and garlic bread. Like you, it’s a treat for me that I wouldn’t usually have, so hell no I wouldn’t share.
The gutsed comment was at best very thoughtless given that you’ve been working on losing weight. You’ll know best whether she could be having a bad time or meant to be nasty.

Ninkaninus · 16/10/2019 20:07

And actually my agreement on that was half sarcastic. I don’t actually see anything wrong with being supposedly greedy when it’s with your own stuff! I love food and I’ll eat as much as I like. But it’s mine and I’ll share it if I want to, not because someone else demands it.

Cherrysoup · 16/10/2019 20:08

She must know you’ve been on a mission to lose weight, so using ‘gutsing’ is deliberately rude/spiteful. She wanted her 2 sides and some of yours and says YOU’RE gutsing?? The bloody irony!

hazelrose · 16/10/2019 20:11

I don’t even share my garlic bread with my hubby! Grin

Morgomargot · 16/10/2019 20:12

YANBU! She should've got off her arse and placed an extra order for garlic bread if it was that important. She was being very rude and unfair.

DisneyMadeMeDoIt · 16/10/2019 20:13

I don’t like garlic bread (I know - I’m weird)
But even I wouldn’t have shared with that CF! YANBU!

ucfo · 16/10/2019 20:17

CF. Should have ordered her own.
Why should you give her one of your two slices?
She was greedy as she had two sides and then wanted yours as well.
She was being nasty saying "gutsing".