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AIBU?

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Should I have shared my garlic bread?

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RobynsMama · 16/10/2019 18:52

Went to Nando’s with some pals, we all like doing this because we all order what we want separately and there’s no faffing with splitting the bill.

Our orders came, and I ordered garlic bread as my side. I love garlic bread, and I love the bread they put their garlic butter on and it’s my fave thing.

Friends meal arrives, she’s ordered chips and coleslaw as her side, looks forlornly over at my perfect garlic bread and says “I wish I’d ordered the garlic bread now”. Someone else pipes up with “oh you’ll know for next time.” And we all
Laughed.

So I just eat my meal and enjoy my (two slices of) garlic bread. She’s got an absolute face on at the end of the meal and I asked her what was up and she said to me “you could’ve offered me one of your slices of garlic bread instead of gutsing them both”.

I wish I was more mature and I wish that comment hadn’t hurt me but I’m in the middle of a weight loss journey (still treating myself to sinful garlic bread sometimes) I have to say it really shocked me and I’ve been thinking about it ever since (i know iabu because it’s just a comment but still). She made me feel like a right gutsy git.

If it was something like an Indian meal I’d have had no problem sharing bits of everything because that’s the kind of meal it is but with something like Nando’s surely you just pick what you want? Was I right to eat both my pieces of garlic bread or should I have offered to share?

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Ninkaninus · 16/10/2019 19:02

Wtf no. You do not need to offer and she’s ridiculous for expecting it of you.

Seriously entitled, and rude on top of it!

LagunaBubbles · 16/10/2019 19:03

Of course you don't need to share your meal, she's a grown adult and could have ordered garlic bread for herself. However I really don't like the word she used, there's nothing wrong with eating your meal, even losing wright you can have whst you like as long as overall you count syn's, points or whatever.

redcupbluecup · 16/10/2019 19:03

I love garlic bread. I wont share mine with my kids so a friend would have no chance. She's a strange fucker for having a face over garlic bread. Yanbu.

Heaviestdirtyestsoul · 16/10/2019 19:03

YABU for just having two slices of garlic bread from nando's! Seriously though, it's not worth your headspace, dont let a stupid petty comment ruin your treat, you earned that- if she wanted garlic bread the cheeky mare should have got her own.

butterybiscuitbasic · 16/10/2019 19:04

100% that’s a record I think! I mean if you’d had a whole pizza bread or something - but seriously a slice when you only have two... pisstaker!

Zebraaa · 16/10/2019 19:05

And she would have been really greedy to eat her chicken, 2 sides AND someone else’s garlic bread!

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RobynsMama · 16/10/2019 19:05

I think the way she said it is what’s hurt me. Was such a horrible word. But I’m glad to know I was not being unreasonable to eat both slices!

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Junkmail · 16/10/2019 19:06

Damn how weird. Maybe she was having a really bad day and expressing it oddly. I wouldn’t take this on OP. I’m presuming she’s grown and was capable of going back to the counter and ordering her own garlic bread if she liked the look of yours? Your not obligated to share so it’s really not your problem.

BarbedBloom · 16/10/2019 19:07

I don't share food so I wouldn't have. She could have ordered some easily and it probably would have come before she finished the meal

Sparklesocks · 16/10/2019 19:07

Err no! Just because you’re mates doesn’t mean she’s entitled to your food. As others said she could’ve got her own, and giving her an entire slice would’ve been 50% of it!! She’s hugely BU, and has a weird like child like entitlement.

StepCatsmother · 16/10/2019 19:08

I never see Nando's sides as proper sides as they are selected as part of the meal!
Totally fine to eat your garlic bread :)

ErrolTheDragon · 16/10/2019 19:08

Of course YANBU to eat your dinner you'd paid for.
She was a CF, and very rude too.

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 16/10/2019 19:09

I'd have eaten both slices. If she wanted garlic bread, I'd have ordered more. She made a mistake and sulked over it, it's happened to us all.

Sparklfairy · 16/10/2019 19:09

It's the way that you go there specifically for the ease of paying for yourself, rather than faff with splitting the bill at the end. Out of all the restaurants, this is the one where you have clearly bought your own food only. The use of gutsing was definitely used to shame you for being 'greedy' (of course missing the irony of her meal having two sides and she still wanted half of yours!)

'Get your own' is all I would have said.

timshelthechoice · 16/10/2019 19:09

I cannot abide people who do this. Fuck off and get your own! Controlling, manipulative behaviour. Then she used a nasty term to fat shame you. What a bitch! She could have ordered her own, just too cheap and cheeky to do so. That would be last time I ate out with her again.

Hiphopopotamus · 16/10/2019 19:10

It’s one of the joys of my life that Nando’s garlic bread is vegan. It’s so good - the only reason YAB a bit U is because now you’ve made me want some!!

OrchidInTheSun · 16/10/2019 19:11

If she'd wanted some she should have bought some. You don't have to share.

JenniferM1989 · 16/10/2019 19:12

I've heard about too many CFs lately stealing food, not paying for their own lunch and now someone that thinks they're entitled to someone else's food.... a lot of MNers need to get new pals and work mates!

CarolineForbes · 16/10/2019 19:14

She’s rude. If I order food it’s because I want it so why would I give it away!?
She’s entitled to think she’s owed your food and even worse for such a low blow comment to be a dick to you. I’d honestly want to have it out with her! She should have ordered her own if she was that fussed.

pictish · 16/10/2019 19:14

What did you say by way of reply?

dontgobaconmyheart · 16/10/2019 19:16

Why couldn't she just have gone and ordered some more though - it would have taken minutes, it's only a bit of bread fgs! I'd have suggested this and then given her one of my pieces while we waited for the next plate to arrive. Not BU though OP, maybe she was having a bad day or something. Not worth falling over.

happinessischocolate · 16/10/2019 19:17

I understand how your friend feels

Every time we go to Nandos my dd orders garlic bread and it's only when it turns up that I remember how scrummy it is and I then have to ignore her while she eats it and no she doesn't offer me any

Yanbu nandos garlic bread is worth falling out over

Loveislandaddict · 16/10/2019 19:19

If there was several bits of garlic bread, then it’s nice to share. Two bits, No!

velocitykate · 16/10/2019 19:22

So she ordered two sides while you only ordered one, but you were the one "Gutsing"???

Right. She sounds like a spoilt brat who lashes out when she doesn't get her own way

CigarsofthePharoahs · 16/10/2019 19:22

You are under no obligation to share your food!
I'd have been very tempted to look her in the eye and say "Robynsmama doesn't share food!"
The use of the word gutsing was just mean. Was she making a dig about your weight loss journey?

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