Do people really make their partners "wash their willy"?

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Years ago I was friends with a girl who casually mentioned in a conversation that when she and her boyfriend are in the throws, and she decides to perform fellatio (great word), she'd make him wash his willy first.

I've now, ten years later, stumbled across a similar comment being made on a TV show I'm watching. This time the guy is required to do so before any sexual encounter.

Maybe I'm just lucky because my husband is a well-kept, clean guy...

AIBU to think that willy washing before sex etc. would take away from the moment?

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Is nobody else concerned about all these people who call it a willy??

Heaving on a cheesy dick is more of a mood killer than a pre bj wash

fwiw, I only called it a willy in the OP because it was a direct quote from both the friend I had and the TV show I was watching.

Shower or no chance 🤢

Sweaty d##k seems to be out of fashion now.
We always have a bath before bed and always a shower after. Although I do like the taste of my man he always seems to smell good but he is a clean freak.

Made me think of this program

GrumpyHoonMain

'Nobody would even question the logic if a man asked a woman to wash her vagina before oral sex. Don’t see why women need to suffer through unwashed dicks if men won’t suffer through the same.'

How can a woman wash her vagina? That's the tunnel leading up to her cervix.
You mean her vulva and external genitals.
Unless you really mean cleaning up inside too?!

I'll happily give a blow job washed or not.

Nobody would even question the logic if a man asked a woman to wash her vagina before oral sex. Don’t see why women need to suffer through unwashed dicks if men won’t suffer through the same.

Has anyone ever been asked to wash their vagina (or vulva) before sex of any kind?

I can honestly say I’ve never been asked and never made a special effort to wash specifically for sex. I have a bath or shower at least once a day and I can’t say I’ve felt unclean or conscious about it at all. Certainly no complaints from sexual partners either.

Sweaty d##k seems to be out of fashion now.

I'm probably going to sound like an arsehole but it's something I've noticed a lot lately and it's curiosity more than anything else but why do users seem to be using asterisks and hashtags instead of letters in sweat words?

Has Mumsnet changed rules so we can't swear anymore? Genuinely not trying to be giant or sound picky, it's just I've noticed a lot of f**k off and I know that people do that on sites where swearing is banned but Mumsnet treat us like adults and allow swearing so not sure why don't use "dick" or "fuck" etc if that's what they mean.

Just wondering that's all.

Lol... www.google.com/amp/s/m.wikihow.com/Clean-Your-Penis%3Famp%3D1

@Deadringer isn't it when you're on your period so you just give a bj? Quicker than a handjob

DH never smells, thank god.

NewYoiker is it? We just have sex when we both fancy it, if it's off the table for any reason we don't. I have never given a service anything, but different strokes for different folks I guess.

You'd be surprised deadringerhow many people think a man should be serviced and use another part of his partners body if her vagina is unavailable because she's unwell, tired, not in mood, just given birth etc etc

I've seen threads on here where a woman, be told she's being unreasonable and men have needs and it's not fair for him to go without just cos she's unwell/on her period/had a baby...

You'll see the suggestion pop up in relationship threads sooner or later. (Majority will say he can sort himself out and have a wank and shouldn't be pestering to be serviced but there's quite a few think otherwise.

Christ, that’s abhorrent

I just came across this again 😂 LOL

I thinking washing privates before getting down to it is the 'norm', not when you're in the throes.

God almighty if you've never suddenly found yourself dealing with little pools of urine behind a foreskin you're much luckier and possibly less slutty than me. It's revolting tbh and a bit of a rinse in some form before coming to bed is hardly oppression.

Before bj yes. Knob cheese is not my favorite flavour.

I peel it like a spud if I’m in any doubt.

I am pristine as I have been hermetically sealed.

Washing is so last Tuesday.

We have a firm nailbrush and a bottle of neat Dettol in the ensuite for all such occasions. DH knows the routine.

I am astonished at the expression 'a bit of a rinse in the sink' that has been used several times. To me that means the cold tap turned on it and it sloshed around a bit- which is hardly what we all now know as a hygienic washing routine.
Should surely at least be anti-bacterial soap and warm water with an all over rub whilst singing 'Happy Birthday' right through twice.

I have to say I always did wash before sex, it seemed the polite thing to do. I was fairly clean anyway, always bathed or showered every day but wouldn't have felt so fresh or confident without washing. I expected my man to be clean too but that was before we started, not during.