Do people really make their partners "wash their willy"?

[Blurby]

Years ago I was friends with a girl who casually mentioned in a conversation that when she and her boyfriend are in the throws, and she decides to perform fellatio (great word), she'd make him wash his willy first.

I've now, ten years later, stumbled across a similar comment being made on a TV show I'm watching. This time the guy is required to do so before any sexual encounter.

Maybe I'm just lucky because my husband is a well-kept, clean guy...

AIBU to think that willy washing before sex etc. would take away from the moment?

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Honestly I really dislike it when women talk about liking circumcised men because circumcised men are cleaner and last longer.

You know that's how cultures that practice FGM talk about women who've been cut, don't you? That mothers tell their sons to marry a 'clean girl'?

A boy's body does not exist for the convenience of his future sexual partners. I had my son circumcised and it is my very greatest regret.

Never has crossed my mind to ask him. Sounds like a mood killer to me.

Permanent, that's a deliberately inflammatory (and stupid) remark. Circumcising a penis is not the same as cutting off the labia and clitoris. You must know that.

Loving how OP thinks she has the world's cleanest bloke

@Bezalelle

You may not like it, but Permanent does have a point. The act isn't the same, no, but the line of thinking- that the natural body is somehow 'unclean' and needs modification- is similar.

No, but a standard level of good hygiene is what I would expect in a partner. My H is circumcised and ive never ever got a whiff of anything unpleasant- I would imagine being circ prevents that. If an uncircumcised guy didnt clean properly that would make me retch. I think the bottom line is- if you expect someone to go down on you spontaneously, the least you can do is keep it clean down there. Its just good manners!

as he's going up for the night I will say 'sink dangle' and he knows what's coming

For this reason I love that my partner is circumcised. Not sure I would give one to an uncircumcised chap. He's always very clean.

He was circumcised for medical reasons. Massive bellend both actually and figuratively.

@Bezalelle

Circumcising a penis is not the same as cutting off the labia and clitoris.

Absolutely, it has been far more normalised in western society.

It does cause loss of sensation, but that has been billed as a benefit apparently.

@Hopoindown31 the two are not comparable.

I always have a quick wash if i'm anticipating some fun times, discharge is a thing, especially during ovulation.

About male circumcision, I think you'll find that in the cultures where it is expected that male children be circumcised, there is little to no issue with the practice of circumcision. This is from both women and men. There are many differences between the cultures of the world, and it's very ignorant to assume that yours is the one that's got it all right, just because you don't agree with the practices of others.

I've heard that said too but you don't hear Jewish, Muslim or most African men complaining - or their wives.

If it’s done at birth, pretty much universally, they wouldn’t know any different, would they?

The experience of those circumcised in adulthood, who can compare sex before and after, surely gives more insight?

Emmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm before sex? Nope. In it goes. Before a Blow Job (have no idea why I used caps there so I just left it) you better believe I want it rinsed.

Been in Work all day doing manual labour.
Sweaty lunchbox.
Drank 14 cups of tea
Pissy japs eye.
Last nights curry.
Might have had an aul bowel movement
Arsehole very near said penis and although he would have wiped his arse throughly , to me, I will not stick my nose or my gob within 6 inches of said Cadbury's canal without a shower. Or let me put it this way, if you shat on your arm, would you just wipe it with a piece of toilet paper and get on with your day...NO you would wash it..

So to wrap things up...

If you want a blow, wash below.
If you want a ride, come inside.

Ya get me?

About male circumcision, I think you'll find that in the cultures where it is expected that male children be circumcised, there is little to no issue with the practice of circumcision.

What are you defining as an 'issue with it'?

Google 'mass circumcision' and you'll find many societies have 'little to no issue' with forcing pre-pubescent boys to lie down exposed on tables so that their penises can be cut and the foreskin ripped away, without anaesthesia, as they try not to show the pain. And those boys will grow up to have the same done to their sons, because it's the done thing. Just because something is cultural doesn't mean it should automatically be respected. I presume you also support the practice of confining menstruating girls and women to isolated huts? After all, who is to say that we're the ones who've got it right?

LettertoHermoine

You've summed it up beautifully.

@BecauseReasons I think you're misunderstanding what 'little to no issue' means. If the boys are in pain while the circumcision is happening, they likely have an issue with it. That's not what i'm talking about at all. (Although, they may still want the procedure knowing it causes pain). The huts you've mentioned are also falling out of favour with cultures because people have an issue with it and decided to take action

Have you ever spoken to a male from these cultures about their views on circumcision and the reasoning behind it? Or are you making an assumption based on what you think should be done? Also, circumcision is usually done on infant boys because of less pain and greater healing and it's also known to help medically in reducing the transmission of some infectious diseases eg HIV.

Circumcised men ate much cleaner and less likely to need a was first.

SomethingOnce Sun 08-Mar-20 19:56:04
I've heard that said too but you don't hear Jewish, Muslim or most African men complaining - or their wives.

If it’s done at birth, pretty much universally, they wouldn’t know any different, would they?

The experience of those circumcised in adulthood, who can compare sex before and after, surely gives more insight?
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Possibly but are generally known to enjoy good sex lives.

I do happen to know someone who was circumcised as an adult, he must have been nearly thirty. He was married and had a tight foreskin. After circumcision he was fine, everything was much better so he said (I didn't hear all details).

The only time I did anything like this was after he was caught out having an affair
I made him go to our GP and get tested for venereal disease and bring my the proof as a letter from the doctor
It embarrassed him but sadly didn't stop him from doing it again.
I divorced him.

Also, circumcision is usually done on infant boys because of less pain and greater healing and it's also known to help medically in reducing the transmission of some infectious diseases eg HIV.

Less pain according to whom? They're less able to demonstrate the pain and may, in shock, not even cry, but as far as I'm aware there's no research to show that babies don't feel as much pain. In fact, some studies have suggested that babies feel pain more acutely than adults and older children do.

Have you ever spoken to a male from these cultures about their views on circumcision and the reasoning behind it? Or are you making an assumption based on what you think should be done?

Did I say anything about the reasons behind circumcision in such cultures? At all? Besides, as I've said, in Somalia the majority of women who have undergone FGM still support the practice, so getting the OK from those who've undergone a procedure is hardly the gold standard in ensuring it's not harmful.

i just wanted to leave this fact here:

bathroom sinks are built at a height to best facilitate penile scrubbing.

yep. sinks are designed for cockwashing. obviously best if said sink is then rinsed thoroughly before any tooth brushing, but by then i think everyone would probably have gone off the boil.

Have you ever spoken to a male from these cultures about their views on circumcision and the reasoning behind it? Or are you making an assumption based on what you think should be done?

And thinking about it, yes, actually. The ex boyfriend who I mentioned upthread who was staunchly anti-circumsision and wished it hadn't been done to him was Nigerian.