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AIBU over non-paying colleague? Lunch dramas

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Amelia2000 · 11/10/2019 12:06

I work in an open plan office. Every Friday we order lunch from a local food place. I happen to have a discount credit card for said food outlet, where I receive 30% off. I pay on this credit card and then on the first day of the next month it is paid off via direct debit from my current account. My six other colleagues always pay me in cash on the day (it's usually around/just over £5 each). Sometimes they will bank transfer it to me from their phone if they have forgotten cash. It is a bit of a pain having £30/£40 in cash every week that I then have to put aside rather than spend so that I can put it into the bank to pay off the card every month, but I do it so that we have a nice lunch and that everyone gets to take advantage of the discount. I've ended up getting a little petty cash tin that I keep everyone's money in so that I don't end up frittering it and then having to fork out at the end of the month myself.

There is one person out of the six, let's call her B, that over the last 6 months, always "forgets" her money. It started with me saying "don't worry just bring it in tomorrow" or "I don't have to pay the credit card off until the end of the month so it's OK, just transfer it before then". After saying this, she started not paying me at all until the end of the month, and made a little comment about me taking the money from everyone before I even needed to pay it off. This is true, however everyone else has continued to give me their cash. Like I say above, it's kept in my locked drawer in my desk so it's not like I am spending it! I would be happier if everyone paid me directly into my bank at the end of the month if they wanted to, as it would be easier for me than going into town to go into the bank.

So for the last few months I have had to keep a tally of what B has ordered every week and then let her know that's what she owes when it comes towards the end of the month. This worked for a few months, but the money was always late. She would pay on the 4th or the 5th and I would have to ask every day "ah B, have you got that money for me" and end up subbing her.

So it's now the 11th, it's Friday, she hasn't paid me for last month and so I am £24 out of pocket (The direct debit for the card gets taken out of my current account on the 1st). She obviously hasn't paid me for last week (Friday 4th) either. I have asked every single morning, and reminded her every evening. She just says "I've forgotten sorry, will bring it in tomorrow" and then it never happens. I've asked if she would rather transfer it and she has said no. I've started asking in front of other people (it's an open plan office) in the hope that she would be embarrassed into remembering but it doesn't seem to bother her. It's now got to the point where I am fuming!

We just all started talking about lunch this morning and I have said I no longer want to provide the discount card lunch for everyone as I am not getting the money back in full and on time. One of the other girls has said "who's not paying you?", I looked awkward and said "B, I know you keep forgetting but I am £24 out of pocket, and I can't afford to keep doing it". She basically accused me of bullying her and has run off to the toilets. Two of the other girls followed and said she's in there crying. There is now a horrible atmosphere in the office. She's now back at her desk and ignoring me. The others have said about not having any lunch and how they're going to starve all day. So I've given in and let them use the card. I didn't think B would have the brass neck to order something but she has.

ARGGGGGHHH! Now what?

OP posts:
FannyFifer · 13/10/2019 19:23

Bet no money was received over the weekend.

Whoopstheregomyinsides · 13/10/2019 19:28

You absolutely must say no more. If she's skint then so what? Don't order something you can't pay for

ForalltheSaints · 13/10/2019 19:33

I think you allowed this to go on too long sadly. Agree no more. If someone is unable to manage their money or is trying to get a free lunch it should not become your problem.

SauvignonBlanche · 13/10/2019 19:47

Like most CFs, she’ll have a thick skin.

TommyJoesMummy · 13/10/2019 19:51

Why do you give them your card to make the order?
I’d just ring the order in myself and skip hers off it.
Someone that manages to trough their food with no guilt and reply with a grunt when spoken to is nothing more than a pig.
Good luck getting your money back, at the worst you’ve only lost £35, and no more.
The “as usual” comment would be enough for me to keep her at arm’s length, and just be polite from now.

Ridiclious · 13/10/2019 20:15

It would be unfair for you and the others in the office to miss out because of B. There's only 1 rule needed. Money in your hand/account before the order is phoned through or no order. No exceptions. Not bullying if everyone is treated the same.

user1498572889 · 13/10/2019 20:53

Any money forthcoming?

BirdyTweet · 13/10/2019 20:54

😮

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 13/10/2019 20:55

Tbh, I'd just tell everyone that no more orders until you get paid what you are owed. B can cry and claim bullying all she likes.

Act like an arse, then you get treated like one.

NearlyGranny · 13/10/2019 20:58

People, we have to wait till the end of the month along with OP, remember? Or the end of next month... Oh, wait, Christmas is coming... The end of Feb, then, when B's finances recover. Or is that too close to Easter?

I'm not holding my breath. I wonder if she'll mysteriously have the 'wrong' account number, like CF Z in the tickets drama in another thread? Perhaps she will offer the debt minus 5p just to teach OP how unreasonable she's being?

giantwatermelon · 13/10/2019 21:08

Is B short for Bitch? WinkWinkWink

Ketomeato · 13/10/2019 21:21

Overinvestezz

ReginaPhalangeee · 13/10/2019 21:23
Wine
justuskul · 13/10/2019 21:26

How'd you work that out? They dont have to buy from her and she isnt making any money or gaining anything from ordering their lunch.

bobsyourauntie · 13/10/2019 21:42

An app’s not missing the point, it’s suggesting an easy way for people to pay OP without OP having a tin of cash.

It’s instant and if OP doesn’t get the notification by 12 that CF has paid then CF doesn’t go on the order. No need for discussion, CF knows the rules. Order without her and make her face up to her actions.

It’s a virtual cash tin and will save OP going to the bank and will keep it separate. I used Revolut in DLP and every transaction pinged before I’d even left the shop it’s that quick.

No more excuses for CF.

strongteawith2sugars · 13/10/2019 21:44

Shamelessly placemarking

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 13/10/2019 21:45

An app’s not missing the point, it’s suggesting an easy way for people to pay OP without OP having a tin of cash.

Sorry, my mistake - yes, that could indeed work well if implemented from now for the actual payers only, and prevent this from happening again, even though it won't solve the current B problem.

milienhaus · 13/10/2019 21:50

Good luck for tomorrow OP!

Seags · 13/10/2019 21:51

Not had the time to read all comments. You could send an email on Monday stating 'I am happy to share my discount but need the money up front. Currently I am owed £34 for lunches and it's not fair for me to be out of pocket. I need this money paid by - (whenever suits you) or I won't be sharing my discount anymore '. Perhaps if the lunch group see just how much B owes you they'll hound her for it. If you don't get your money, leave the card at home. You can't be guilted into using it if you don't have it with you.
Good luck OP!

smilingontheinside · 13/10/2019 21:52

You need colleagues like mine, they give me too much money back if I've paid for something. If I try to give it back they say no it was good of me to pay/get/arrange whatever they are paying me for. I save up the over payments and when enough I treat us to cakes/biscuits to have with our coffee. I have worked with cf though and it would only happen once, no food second time not if I was paying. Hope you get your moneyHmm

bobsyourauntie · 13/10/2019 21:56

No it wouldn’t solve the CF problem.

We need a Mumsnet CF hitman Grin

M

DonningDaFlameProof · 13/10/2019 21:58

Regardless of her money situation, her attitude is appalling

WhatTiggersDoBest · 13/10/2019 22:10

@bobsyourauntie OMG yasss!

INeedAFlerken · 13/10/2019 22:13

She's taking the piss. My guess is no money appeared in your account this weekend... good luck tomorrow morning!

Pinkypurple35 · 13/10/2019 22:25

MN needs to start doing a ‘CF of the week’ award. This CF - B wins last weeks award hands down, both for the original crime and saying she’ll pay at the end of the month ‘as normal’. Cough up lady!

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