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AIBU over non-paying colleague? Lunch dramas

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Amelia2000 · 11/10/2019 12:06

I work in an open plan office. Every Friday we order lunch from a local food place. I happen to have a discount credit card for said food outlet, where I receive 30% off. I pay on this credit card and then on the first day of the next month it is paid off via direct debit from my current account. My six other colleagues always pay me in cash on the day (it's usually around/just over £5 each). Sometimes they will bank transfer it to me from their phone if they have forgotten cash. It is a bit of a pain having £30/£40 in cash every week that I then have to put aside rather than spend so that I can put it into the bank to pay off the card every month, but I do it so that we have a nice lunch and that everyone gets to take advantage of the discount. I've ended up getting a little petty cash tin that I keep everyone's money in so that I don't end up frittering it and then having to fork out at the end of the month myself.

There is one person out of the six, let's call her B, that over the last 6 months, always "forgets" her money. It started with me saying "don't worry just bring it in tomorrow" or "I don't have to pay the credit card off until the end of the month so it's OK, just transfer it before then". After saying this, she started not paying me at all until the end of the month, and made a little comment about me taking the money from everyone before I even needed to pay it off. This is true, however everyone else has continued to give me their cash. Like I say above, it's kept in my locked drawer in my desk so it's not like I am spending it! I would be happier if everyone paid me directly into my bank at the end of the month if they wanted to, as it would be easier for me than going into town to go into the bank.

So for the last few months I have had to keep a tally of what B has ordered every week and then let her know that's what she owes when it comes towards the end of the month. This worked for a few months, but the money was always late. She would pay on the 4th or the 5th and I would have to ask every day "ah B, have you got that money for me" and end up subbing her.

So it's now the 11th, it's Friday, she hasn't paid me for last month and so I am £24 out of pocket (The direct debit for the card gets taken out of my current account on the 1st). She obviously hasn't paid me for last week (Friday 4th) either. I have asked every single morning, and reminded her every evening. She just says "I've forgotten sorry, will bring it in tomorrow" and then it never happens. I've asked if she would rather transfer it and she has said no. I've started asking in front of other people (it's an open plan office) in the hope that she would be embarrassed into remembering but it doesn't seem to bother her. It's now got to the point where I am fuming!

We just all started talking about lunch this morning and I have said I no longer want to provide the discount card lunch for everyone as I am not getting the money back in full and on time. One of the other girls has said "who's not paying you?", I looked awkward and said "B, I know you keep forgetting but I am £24 out of pocket, and I can't afford to keep doing it". She basically accused me of bullying her and has run off to the toilets. Two of the other girls followed and said she's in there crying. There is now a horrible atmosphere in the office. She's now back at her desk and ignoring me. The others have said about not having any lunch and how they're going to starve all day. So I've given in and let them use the card. I didn't think B would have the brass neck to order something but she has.

ARGGGGGHHH! Now what?

OP posts:
Pixilicious · 12/10/2019 08:55

Looking forward to next friday’s update!

Sheld0r · 12/10/2019 09:08

I can't believe the level this CF has reached!
I doubt she will pay you. She might try to pay in dribs and drabs if she does. Don't let her bully you into carrying on paying for her lunches without the full payment of what she's already had and pre-payment as per the new rules. That comment she made about she'll carry on paying as she wants had me Shock what the actual fuck! She's got a nerve!

Thewindsofchange · 12/10/2019 09:22

Is the discount specifically on the OPs credit card?

This seems like the perfect situation to use MN phrase 'that doesn't work for me'. Followed by 'my discount, my rules,l. Payment upfront or no order'!

Personally I would avoid being too strict on/telling off the others as it sound like they're happy to abide the rules and they haven't been the issue. In my experience some people support the 'wrong side' if they feel they've been aggrieved personally, no matter how small.

Is anyone else itching for it to be next Friday to get an update?! Grin

LannieDuck · 12/10/2019 09:22

How did you leave it on Friday evening?

StillCoughingandLaughing · 12/10/2019 09:31

Is the discount specifically on the OPs credit card?

No - the discount card is separate from the credit card. It’s in the OP’s name; therefore she has to pay for the order.

Crunchymum · 12/10/2019 09:42

As the OP isn't willing to clarify the discount / CC situation, then who knows how it works?

I'm actually quite frustrated that this thread is 24 pages and there has been zero clarification about this magical card???

WhizzingFizzbee · 12/10/2019 09:58

Crunchymum I thought it was quite plain from OP’s first post how the card situation works?

Claphands · 12/10/2019 10:01

I’d stick to what Disneymademedoit suggests, it will teach her a belated lesson, she can’t create a scene as what will she say if any director hears it? Just react in a professional way so you’re not seen as rowing.

Inthenewsagain · 12/10/2019 10:01

crunchymum the card isn't really the issue though is it? It's presumably a local loyalty card with a cafe or deli.

TheAlternativeTentacle · 12/10/2019 10:14

Personally I wouldn't say anything now.

When it comes to Friday, and mention of the Lunch Club and using your card just shrug your shoulders and say 'What you want me to do? Unless all of you want to pay the debt I can't keep on paying for someone else's lunch. So until that is sorted...'

DragonMamma · 12/10/2019 10:39

Fucking hell. What a cheeky twat.

I really get a bee in my bonnet about things like this. I’m the office organiser of events (usually) and have just had to spend 2 weeks chasing people’s Christmas do deposits - after telling them I was paying it from my own account to secure the booking Angry

CurlyWurlyTwirly · 12/10/2019 10:43

I’d let the team know next week, that if the debt isn’t paid, there’ll be no lunch card. They can all chip in a fiver to cover the CF’s debt.

Blueoasis · 12/10/2019 10:43

@Crunchymum can you not read? The op says it in her first post.

I happen to have a discount credit card for said food outlet, where I receive 30% off. I pay on this credit card and then on the first day of the next month it is paid off via direct debit from my current account.

How is that not clear? Are you b? Or do you just not understand 30% off or how credit cards work?

HisBetterHalf · 12/10/2019 10:49

She's a piss taker and if she genuinely cant afford to pay it back then she shouldnt be ordering anything. CF of the highest order. Why should you pay her lunch

Crunchymum · 12/10/2019 10:51

@Blueoasis

I have asked repeatedly what credit card this is and what food outlet the OP gets the 30% discount for. I've never heard of this before (and I've had a fair amount of credit cards over the years)

Please do not be so rude and condescending as a) I can obviously read and b) I understand how bog standard credit cards work.

What I don't understand is this particular card / discount system, and I have asked for clarity from the OP. But thanks for your input.

SongforSal · 12/10/2019 10:56

We have a woman at work just like this. She only transferred to us a few weeks ago, and a few of us are wanting to speak to the manager about it, but honestly don't know how to go about it. At first I felt sorry for her as she is always saying she is skint, however she was telling us this week about a TV she got last weekend for her new house, and she nips out a few times a day for a fag so she can clearly afford to smoke.

She has tagged along to lunch a few times with different people, then claimed to have left her bank card at home. Twice this week she asked when I was going to lunch, both times I told her I don't take lunch, I just eat at my desk. Then yesterday, I opened a sandwich at my desk and she looked at it and said how hungry she was, I thought it an odd comment considering she is getting a bit of a reputation at work around food and being a CF, when I didn't comment she actually made a huffing sound, and heavily plonked herself back in her chair which reminded me of a teenager having a little tantrum. This made me think she wanted to share?

Dont get me wrong, if I thought she couldn't afford to feed herself I would help, but when she is spending a tenner on a packet of fags a day, surely she can afford a loaf of bread and a packet of ham? Also, she asked me where X and Y were in the week, when I said they had gone to the baguette shop, she moaned to me she wanted to tag along but had told X and Y earlier she had forgot her money, and then said they didn't want her company. I had to bite my tongue not to say people were getting sick of her expecting everyone to pay!

Blueoasis · 12/10/2019 11:00

@Crunchymum

What does it matter what credit card it is or what food outlet it is? If you're that nosy, pm the op and ask.considering this thread is 24 pages long, it's unlikely she will notice your specific demand. Plus it's not even relevant.

izzywizzywont · 12/10/2019 11:03

place marking

mamasma · 12/10/2019 11:06

Went through the whole thread and still no idea if she got paid backSad

namechangedforthis1980 · 12/10/2019 11:10

So how did it go @Amelia2000 ?!

ContessaLovesTheSunshine · 12/10/2019 11:10

SongforSal, next time, ask her directly if she was hoping that they would offer to pay for her. You won't be accusing her of anything, it's just a query, so nothing for her to run to HR about. Do it in front of people if possible. Answer her sputtering denial with 'Ah, ok' and nothing else. She will know you know, and anyone else listening will get the idea as well. If she asks indignantly why you'd ask such a thing, answer with 'No reason, just wondering' and refuse to be drawn beyond that.

OooErMissus · 12/10/2019 11:13

@Crunchymum - what on earth does it matter which card it is...? Confused

Blueoasis · 12/10/2019 11:15

@Crunchymum also thinking as well the op probably doesn't want to publically name the credit card or food outlet as it will probably divulge where she lives. Which would be outing for anyone she knows reading this. I definitely wouldn't name it.

Crunchymum · 12/10/2019 11:20

I'd quite like confirmation that this type of credit card actually exists!!!

Does anyone else have one? Anyone else ever heard of such a credit card? Because I'd quite like a credit card that offers 30% off every Deliveroo order or whatever.....

Crunchymum · 12/10/2019 11:22

Yeah because naming Barclaycard and Ubereats (for example!!) Is outing???

I don't imagine that many small / independent outlets have deals with established credit card companies?

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