It's like being besieged by the sexual equivalent of Jehovah's Witnesses, reading this kind of thread. There you are trying to have a serious conversation about how a formerly niche sexual practice became normalized via porn despite being one of the most dangerous things you can do to a partner and suddenly they're banging on the door and insisting that you take a copy of the kink equivalent of The Watchtower. Evangelism - pretty much never welcomed by those on the receiving end no matter what it's about.
The issue here is that this has gone from being something that some people with unusual interests did sometimes to something that many men expect and just assume they can do with no warning or discussion, like it's the equivalent of playing with your partner's nipples or something. It's not. It can kill you. Many, probably most, women don't like or want it. If a few do then great, good for you, but that's not really relevant to the discussion because the whole point is that it's being treated as a standard and non-negotiable part of sex by a lot of men, and that wasn't the case even ten years ago. Something has changed, and it's not surprising that people may want to talk about how and why that's happened.
If any man ever attempted to put his hands around my neck during sex it would be the last time he ever touched me. I suspect that this is a far less unusual position than some would like us to think.