To say that if you can’t take a simple pregnancy test without help, you shouldn’t be considering parenthood.

[TottieandMarchpane]

What is it with all the numerous “can you help me with a pregnancy test?” and “line eyes!” threads?

Parenting is much harder than PingOAS and looking for a line. If you can’t manage this, you’ve fallen at the first hurdle.

Man disagrees = they're wrong.

I'm a woman OP am I allowed to disagree with you?

I agree with GinDaddy. Your OP was goady and nasty.

The thing that bothers me about those threads is whether my fellow posters are driving without glasses as well as posting without them. grin

To be fair, getting emotional can float your contact lenses right out of your eye.

Then there’s the business of “first morning urine”. So sometimes you’re barely awake and just groping blearily to the en-suite when you do the whole POAS thing.

Posting without lenses is more of a mystery, admittedly.

@TottieandMarchpane

I never feel like I'm wasting keystrokes if it makes someone who has suffered multiple miscarriages feel better, if they've just read that they're not fit to be a parent because they happened to ask a forum to confirm their pregnancy.

Have a good day

I think your intent was to make people who are quite clearly desperate to be pregnant feel stupid 🤷

Well you’re entirely wrong then

The intent was - is as always evident in these threads - the need to feel superior.

You can always tell by the hyperbole in the first post and claims to be "baffled" (over the most simplistic of concepts).

How else could you possibly read your OP other than sniggering at all the annoying posters who can't read their own pregnancy tests and how they clearly can't handle parenthood?

If you're so convinced you weren't being a nasty cow, why don't you go and post this on the miscarriage forum where these kind of posts are quite regular?

But you won't, because I'm pretty sure you know it would be horrible to do so.

In some ways it is cruel that such early testing is available and it can drive people a bit potty. With both of my pregnancies I had very light lines at first and almost didn’t believe it (I bought a ton of tests and just kept doing them for days). I think the threads on here can just be an extension of that. Some of the responses can give false hope though and I think it is very unfair when people say they can spot a line that is clearly not there.

Op you know those type of threads are not about ability, skills, eyesight etc. They’re about hope and sometimes desperation. Have a heart and show some tolerance.

the need to feel superior

Precisely. Obviously the brilliant OP could never be so ridiculous.

I agree with you OP. The utter stupidity on these threads is appalling - and it’s often the same posters time and time again. So they are clearly not listening to the advice being provided. I can understand and sympathise when the test comes up so faint you can barely see it but in most of the images posted the positive (or negative) result is as clear as dau.

it’s often the same posters time and time again

Maybe stop and ask yourself why it's the same posters again and again.

Today 10:01 Userzzzzz

In some ways it is cruel that such early testing is available and it can drive people a bit potty. With both of my pregnancies I had very light lines at first and almost didn’t believe it (I bought a ton of tests and just kept doing them for days). I think the threads on here can just be an extension of that.*

Yes that’s probably a lot of it @Userzzzzz and, thinking about it, the “cheapies” make it affordable to drive yourself a bit bonkers. Not an option twenty y we as ago.

Some of the responses can give false hope though and I think it is very unfair when people say they can spot a line that is clearly not there.

Yes, very cruel. If I’d thought it through a bit more, I’d have realised that’s the really unhelpful behaviour.

And now I’d better get some work done.

I'm not purporting to read your mind. I'm telling you that you come across as goady

Nope, your exact words were:

you are deliberately goading, despite your forced denials

If you were not purporting to know the contents of the OP mind then you expressed yourself extremely poorly.

I just feel hope and compassion when I was those threads, and love it when they get a positive. The only thing I don’t understand is why some people test before period is due as I didn’t think it showed up that early?

And now I'd better get some work done

Ahhh...... if I was the mansplaining type, I would guess that the thread replies have turned against you and you'd rather not read the criticism.

But that would be mansplaining and purporting to read your thoughts, so I'd better not post such a thing.

I haven’t read the full thread because your initial post made me so angry that I just needed to come on and say what a nasty person you sound.

I’ve seen many of these threads, some with faint lines but people saying “ a line is a line - congratulations you’re pregnant “ only for the OP to come back a few days later to say they have started bleeding, which would mean they had a chemical pregnancy, so on the flip side in some ways it’s not helpful to these women to insist that they are definitely pregnant.

On one of these threads a poster was ripped to bits for saying to the OP ( who had posted a very faint line ) that it should be darker at that stage of her pregnancy and it could be a chemical pregnancy, which sadly it did turn out to be.

Nope, your exact words were:

you are deliberately goading, despite your forced denials

Quite @C8H10N4O2 thank you.

Ahhh...... if I was the mansplaining type, I would guess that the thread replies have turned against you and you'd rather not read the criticism.

If you were the reading comprehension type, you’d see that I’ve been responding to criticism for the entire length of the thread. Three hours. Plenty.

If you were the clock reading type you’d see that breakfast is over and the working day has well and truly started.

I would guess that the thread replies have turned against you and you'd rather not read the criticism

Funny, I was thinking the same

It does give false hope to some though. But it’s a certain type of poster that loves the “am I pregnant?” threads I guess.

I did overstate it a bit.

Overstatement of the year.

Quite funny this thread.
Do as I say but not as I do.