To not do this

[WhatTheFluck]

Asked after school nanny today to do a later shift tomorrow, so will finish at 10pm.
Aibu not to do an evening meal for her? She isn't coming straight from another job

Honestly the questions some people ask on here, makes me wonder how they get through a whole day outside of the house.

Just stick a bit of pasta or something on for the woman.

Bloody hell, even when I used to babysit while I was at uni I was always left things like cheese and biscuits and crisps to snack on when the children were in bed. That was usually 7ish to midnight-ish. One family used to leave me wine as well, although I didn’t ever drink it unless it was a glass with the parents when they got in and I was waiting on a cab. YAbU.

Surely if you can afford to employ a nanny, you can afford to feed her an evening meal when she's working an extra 4 hours for you.

Yeah, you're being unreasonable.

What's the deal with your kids food? Will you be expecting her to feed your kids while she's doing you the favour of staying later than usual or will they have eaten before she gets there at 3pm and not have anything else until the next morning?

Yes, leave a bowl of gruel and a dry crust to keep up her strength on her walk back to the workhouse

If she's working 3-10 presumably she's cooking for the kdis and thus will be eating with them? Does she normally cook for them? Is there proper food in for them ie not chicken nuggets?

Bonkers question!

Errrrm

Honestly the questions some people ask on here, makes me wonder how they get through a whole day outside of the house.

Just chalk it up to MN the internet was a mistake and then chuckle at the faux outcry as to why Daily mail/mirror trawl this forum and not point out that everyone noticing it reads the rag tops.

There is a reason why mumsnet has become a certain meme across the internet and thats discounting the peak mumsnet twitter feed.

If you'd like her to do 3pm - 10pm again, you're best to be generous. I would simply ask her what her dinner plan is and offer to supply a pizza or something, if appropriate.

Oh dear God of course you offer her dinner 🤦

At least the OP has the decency not to return to the thread to defend the asking of the ridiculous question!

It's not a ridiculous question.
Of course I expect her to eat but wasn't sure if that was my responsibility. I am kind of new to employing nannies

You sound rather mean OP

TBH it’s just quite mean if you dont

What kind of a question is that?
You expect her to work 7hrs straight, feed your kids and watch them eat while she gets nowt?
She should actually have a 20 min break in there too btw.
How tight is that? Bet it's the last favour she does for you.

Of course I expect her to eat but wasn't sure if that was my responsibility. I am kind of new to employing nannies

You’re not new to being human, though?

Person in your house at common mealtime. Offer them food.

They are then free to refuse (“Don’t worry, I’ll bring my own”) but you have been polite and fulfilled social norm.

Nothing to do with nanny/responsibility/employer-employee.

I hope she finds someone else to work for who doesn't expect her to work seven hours without food and she dumps your sorry arse.

Mingy, mean and tight don't begin to cover it.

What will she be feeding the children?

Yes you’re right op. Don’t provide food for her, just make sure the staff restaurant will be open

Cripes OP, why would you even need to ask this? Leave her some food, and if she happens not to eat it just put it back in the fridge.

I’d do it just out of kindness if she was looking after my dc. Get some snacks bits in, a nice salad and a cake say she can help herself

You’re not new to being human, though?

It's not a ridiculous question.

You aren’t going to keep your nanny very long if you think this.