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To ask class teacher who went in my childs bag?

376 replies

SamAntHaHa · 09/10/2019 14:09

Something has been taken from my childs bag. It is not valuable and I won't get it back because it's a single use item for personal use.
I don't mind it being used by others but it's unsettling for things to be taken and not be informed by staff or my childs friends if one of them decided they wanted to take it. It feels like something being stolen from their bag since someone went in there without permission and took what they wanted when the bag was in the classroom with everyone elses bags.
AIBU to ask staff who went in my childs bag?
And then to ask the person apologise for taking it from my childs bag without mentioning it since it is stealing?

OP posts:
Juells · 10/10/2019 09:30

A 'wound'. Not a cut. 🙄

MsPavlichenko · 10/10/2019 09:37

MY DD just turned 22.

If there is one thing I remember from her school days is that not to accept every word I heard about what went on as the gospel truth!

WatcherintheRye · 10/10/2019 09:45

Op, do you suspect that one of the teachers/TAs at school needed a dressing for another pupil, couldn't find any in the first aid box, and used one of your dd's dressings which were clearly visible in her bag?
It sounds as though there have been and are currently a few issues which have left you feeling unhappy about the school. Is there a parent liaison officer at school (our Primary had a very good one), or another member of staff to whom you could air your concerns?

twoshedsjackson · 10/10/2019 09:57

I agree with MsPavlichenko - our advice at "Meet the Teachers" evening was always, "If you promise to believe just half of what your child tells you about school, we promise to take what your child tells about home with a similar pinch of salt!"
As far as things going missing from bags is concerned, we sadly had to insist that anything valuable or precious should not be left in there, while trying our best to be vigilant.
It can be difficult sometimes to spot a determined pilferer; I once dealt with a 7-year old who was cute enough to filch a banknote and tuck it under the Story Corner carpet, to be retrieved later when the hue and cry had died down, but on the other hand, it can be easier to declare "Somebody's stolen........." when all that is needed is a thorough tidying of the desk (get someone else to do the hunting around).

LaMarschallin · 10/10/2019 10:16

I haven't read every post on the thread but I have read all your posts, OP.

I'm curious to know why you always describe your offspring as a "child" and all others as "kids". It sounds a bit dismissive to me.

happycamper11 · 10/10/2019 10:28

It is not unreasonable to raise it with the school if things are going missing but again the teacher is unlikely to know who it was, especially if she's currently not been notified it's happening. You need to inform her, not the phone way around.

Please do raise the unsupervised children in the first aid area while you're at it as that's a major concern. It seems your dd must be there a lot though to know this is a regular thing and not a once off. I've 2 dc with a collective 7 years at primary and neither ha r been in the first aid bay once let alone several times to know this happens often.

asnugglysnerd · 10/10/2019 10:28

I was going to add some advice but then I got bored of reading "my child's bag" a million times. Too vague, and annoying.

DontMakeMeShushYou · 10/10/2019 10:29

@SamAntHaHa
Underneath all the cloak and daggar secrecy and hyperbole, I think there are some valid concerns here. You are right to be concerned that things are missing from school bags, right to be concerned about the bullying, and right to be concerned about the general lack of supervision and lack of safeguarding that seems to be going on.

If, … IF, you can articulate your concerns clearly and sensibly, then the school should act on them. But if you approach the school in the way that you have approached this thread, you will get nowhere and you will do your child, and the other children in the school, a disservice. But you need to be factual, reasonable, and clear. No-one, least of all your child's teacher, has the time to play stupid word games with you.

If English isn't your first language, please ask someone to check your email/letter to the school for accurate wording. (I suspect English isn't your first language or you would understand what a 'branch' is and how it might cause serious injury.)

NightOwl27 · 10/10/2019 10:30

I think OP is a troll. Especially with the break money update.

Rachelover60 · 10/10/2019 10:51

SamAntHaHa
Now someone has taken her breaktime money from her bag.
But more importantly why did the pie cross the road?
...................
To prove he wasn't chicken.

Conkerer
Fuck me!
..................

We've only just met!

Bobbyflay · 10/10/2019 11:11

Break money? Do schools have cash payments for pupils anymore? In the past 17 years My children have never had them, and I’ve never known them in any school I’ve worked in.

Pinkflipflop85 · 10/10/2019 11:45

Break money?! Now you've really lost all plausibility.

HoppingPavlova · 10/10/2019 12:38

Please do raise the unsupervised children in the first aid area while you're at it as that's a major concern.

I’d also raise the fact that you are in there unsupervised as a major concern. You seem to think this is a frequent occurrence. So as there is no other school employed adult there you seem to be there by yourself a lot which is odd and worrying. Why are you there so much? How can the school allow parents to go gallavanting around children they are not theirs with no supervision. It’s all extremely odd.

vodkaredbullgirl · 10/10/2019 12:50

Cludo anyone lol

notso · 10/10/2019 12:57

Break money? Do schools have cash payments for pupils anymore?

At my kids school break money is definitely still a thing. Infants can either pay cash or online weekly or termly, Juniors mostly take 20p a day to buy fruit or take fruit from home.

ItsAlwaysSunnyInPhiladelphia · 10/10/2019 15:17

Did we ever find out what it was?!

Ellisandra · 10/10/2019 15:36

We did, but you wouldn’t believe us Grin

It was a plaster.

ItsAlwaysSunnyInPhiladelphia · 10/10/2019 15:44

Damnit I was hoping it was going to be something fun like a wagon wheel!

CurryAndCobra · 10/10/2019 15:44

@ItsAlwaysSunnyInPhiladelphia : A plaster kept in the transparent sidepocket of the child's schoolbag Grin

Rachelover60 · 10/10/2019 16:17

I thought it was probably Durex. Maybe 'plaster' is a euphemism for condom.

vodkaredbullgirl · 10/10/2019 16:59

wtf

zeeboo · 10/10/2019 18:51

I can't believe everyone has missed the cunning little drip of feed that was the school caused THE WOUND on THE CHILD by allowing THE CHILD to climb a tree.

Juells · 10/10/2019 19:12

I'm curious to know why you always describe your offspring as a "child" and all others as "kids". It sounds a bit dismissive to me.

In rural Ireland sometimes, still, a child is a girl. When someone had a baby people would ask "Is it a boy or a child?" Irish people don't normally refer to the crotch as 'where the legs meet' though 😂

MutedUser · 10/10/2019 19:16

Break money in 2019 in a primary school sure thing OP sure thing.

TitianaTitsling · 10/10/2019 20:27

@rachelover60 re the pie.., I was going to say 'to meat a(nd) potato.... Yours is better!

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