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AIBU?

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Original poster

To ask class teacher who went in my childs bag?

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SamAntHaHa · 09/10/2019 14:09

Something has been taken from my childs bag. It is not valuable and I won't get it back because it's a single use item for personal use.
I don't mind it being used by others but it's unsettling for things to be taken and not be informed by staff or my childs friends if one of them decided they wanted to take it. It feels like something being stolen from their bag since someone went in there without permission and took what they wanted when the bag was in the classroom with everyone elses bags.
AIBU to ask staff who went in my childs bag?
And then to ask the person apologise for taking it from my childs bag without mentioning it since it is stealing?

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PablosHoney · 09/10/2019 17:21

Wtaf

MutedUser · 09/10/2019 17:22

@SamAntHaHa your school runs out of first aid? I can’t believe that no school would do that. If they did they shouldn’t be open and I wouldn’t be sending my child there. You sound precious and like you love to over exaggerate every little detail. That must be exhausting to live like you do.

OrchidInTheSun · 09/10/2019 17:23

But it wasn't in your daughter's bag. It was in a transparent pocket on the outside. Maybe a kid was curious. Maybe they needed a plaster.

It was a plaster and you want the teacher to carry out an investigation. Bloody he'll.

Have you thought about taking up a hobby?

mankyfourthtoe · 09/10/2019 17:24

Ok so a posh plaster.
Then yes ywbu to ask the teacher about it.

Some children want what others have, don't take anything expensive out if you don't have eyes on it.

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SamAntHaHa · 09/10/2019 17:24

@NightOwl27 When my child comes home from school she tells me without any prompting if anything that has bothered her during the day. She loves to talk a lot. She had on ocasion burst into tears as soon as we get through the door from holding in things bothering her. I did attempt to address the bullying with that teacher too but was told "kids have been telling tales". So i am there for my child to tell me as much as she wants so she can vent since the teacher didn't want to know. And there was something mentioned about the school not dealing with bullying adequately but i can't recall who told me that so i will have to be vague and say it was a mum or was it ofsted.

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LagunaBubbles · 09/10/2019 17:24

Someone report me or something. Being vague is a crime

But why be so vague and secretive about what it was though?

MutedUser · 09/10/2019 17:25

Is this going to be one of those threads 400 people tell the OP they are being unreasonable and they still insist they are are not.

howard97A · 09/10/2019 17:32

Child had a wound

OP obviously wants us to guess what kind of wound, so I'll start with 'vampire bite'

Tana433 · 09/10/2019 17:33

Well theres 20mins of my life i wont get back. Christ OP, i wish the biggest problem in my life was whether a gauze (or whatever!) pad was missing from my daughters bag! FFS.

itbemay · 09/10/2019 17:33

Why do these things have to be presumed stolen? you do realise bags are thrown all over the place, things get lost and damaged. I think you are overreacting and need to chill out a bit, your poor child, just notice things have gone, don't mention it and move on! not high value and easily replaced....

Dollymixture22 · 09/10/2019 17:33

You have gotten very worked up about a small low cost item that most people wouldn’t notice.

You are creating anxiety and drama unnecessarily. Your behaviour is not reasonable and you need to be careful you don’t create unhealthy behaviour in your daughter.

Counselling can help keep things in perspective,

HugoSpritz · 09/10/2019 17:34

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Redglitter · 09/10/2019 17:35

Dear Lord all this drama angst and cloak and dagger over a bloody plaster 🙄

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SamAntHaHa · 09/10/2019 17:37

@howard97A sorry i was too vague about the wound.
It was a wound from a tree - thats what they told me. I don't really get it either how a branch can wound so badly. It happened at school and it looked disgusting. Surely that opens it up to more questions though. How do we stop this so people don't waste time reading this? Are their warnings we can use? Stop reading this people. Nothing to see here...does that help others not waste time when they have better things to be doing.

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HiHoToffee · 09/10/2019 17:39

At least it was a neat thief, zipping the pocket back up. I guess your DD wouldn't have noticed if it weren't for you counting the plasters.

If it happens again, mention it to the teacher, otherwise just forget about it. Or maybe drop off a box of plasters at the office for their first aid kit.

Nodnol · 09/10/2019 17:42

So a kid has an injury. Sees your daughter has dressing/plaster quite clearly accessible so uses one. Probably because the school had run out (as you said). Your problem isn’t a kid “stealing”. It’s the school not being prepared.

Or something. I was really hoping it was meth.

Wolfiefan · 09/10/2019 17:45

If your child is bullied? Report it and if it isn’t dealt with then follow the proper procedure.
You have NO proof that the previous item didn’t fall off the bag and she didn’t drop the dressing. You sound paranoid and unhinged. The first aiders at school might have stolen it as they had run out.
Take this chance to give your head a wobble. Or the secondary years will be hard. Bloody hard.

SpiderCharlotte · 09/10/2019 17:45

Hang on, hang on ... you're on about a plaster missing from your child's bag. A plaster.

Why are you even thinking about this??

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SamAntHaHa · 09/10/2019 17:46

@HiHoToffee That's the thing about them running out of first aid items - they leave children unattanded with the first aid stuff. My child saw a kid take the antibac spray and mess about spraying it on another kids head since they were left alone for so long and thats what some kids do. I assume thats how they keep running out if they leave it unattended. I'm gonna put a big box of them in the bag since clearly the kids are in need and the school just isn't providing enough for their needs.

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viques · 09/10/2019 17:47

A plaster. What a disappointment. Mind you, it could have been worse, when I was knee high I saw a packet of my mums ST in the bathroom cupboard and asked what they were for. She must have mentioned bleeding because I remember that the next time I fell over and grazed my knee I recalled the soft fluffy pads that would stem the blood --gushing- seeping slowly down my leg. So I helped myself, found it a bit tricky to tie on so held it on and went to show my mum, who was having a coffee with her friends in the sitting room........

BuildBuildings · 09/10/2019 17:47

But if a kid stole one the teacher wouldn't know?

OhTheRoses · 09/10/2019 17:51

Do you think your dd might have used extra or given one away and has told you a tiny porky because you are so obsessed they have to be accounted for. I'm not a swearer but op, FFS. My dd would have been given the whole box and I'd gave gad another box at home.

It is a gnat on the arse of life. Stop scratching it.

Lind57 · 09/10/2019 17:53

This post makes me very, very happy to have left teaching behind. My detective skills and psychic abilities were called on far too often to solve cases of missing toys and 'stolen' unnamed cardigans, when the only clue was "It's M&S, aged 7-8". It was exhausting. A missing plaster would have tipped me right over the edge.

HiHoToffee · 09/10/2019 17:54

Now those are issues that you have to bring up with school, children left unattended with first aid kits etc

Is this during a normal school day or a trip, it all sounds very disorganised.

SpiderCharlotte · 09/10/2019 17:57

It is a gnat on the arse of life. Stop scratching it.

So true.

OP, can you genuinely not see how ridiculous your original post is? I mean, really not see it when you read it back?

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