To ask class teacher who went in my childs bag?

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Something has been taken from my childs bag. It is not valuable and I won't get it back because it's a single use item for personal use.
I don't mind it being used by others but it's unsettling for things to be taken and not be informed by staff or my childs friends if one of them decided they wanted to take it. It feels like something being stolen from their bag since someone went in there without permission and took what they wanted when the bag was in the classroom with everyone elses bags.
AIBU to ask staff who went in my childs bag?
And then to ask the person apologise for taking it from my childs bag without mentioning it since it is stealing?

If it's sanpro I would think poor kid that they felt so desperate/embarrassed that they couldn't ask.

OP just tell us what the item is and the age of the child

Well, there’s a huge difference between a friend taking a tissue from another friend’s bag in an emergency and someone taking things to bully someone,

It’s all very vague and weird though. How can we know what the teacher will say/do about this?

From your update I’m even more confused. The school should absolutely have been interested in your dd being beaten up. This thing? No idea. You need to say what it is.

I know how many are in my childs bag for their personal use. And it's not at all possible that you could have made a mistake?

A few years ago things were stolen from my childs bag and her teacher couldn't give a toss. The same teacher also didn't give a toss when a gang of boys were beating up my child and kicking her where her legs meet. Dreadful, but what has this got to do with your current issue? Why did you mention this here?

Shamelessly place marking to see if find out what the item in question is.... come on OP

So vague and so annoying. How can we possibly comment on such a vague post

I'm going to guess they're y5/6 and it's sanitary products.

'where her legs meet'

Honestly, OP, you count the things that are in your child's schoolbag, and won't use the word 'crotch' or 'privates' on a women's message board.

Gold bar
Mars bar
Epi pen
Plaster

All will receive wildly differing responses.
So until clarified yabu.

I think it would be ok to let them know that something has gone missing but insane to ask the teacher who took it. How on earth are they supposed to know? They are teaching the kids not policing their school bags.

If it’s San Pro I would say nothing, a young girl would have to be pretty desperate to punch that from someone else’s bag.

My DC were constantly complaining that someone at home or school had nicked this or pinched the other. In nearly all cases they had lost but couldn’t be bothered to look for it properly and it turned up eventually. Could this be the case here? You do seem to be micromanaging things for your child so perhaps they are embarrassed or ashamed to tell you they lost or wasted the item in question.

What is the thing? Why are you hiding what it is?

YABU if you think the teacher has a clue who goes into whose bag. She's busy teaching,

How would the staff know who went into your child's bag?

Have you missed some information that the bags are monitored by staff?

The teacher will likely give a reminder about asking permission before borrowing/using from a friends bag.

If it is something like sanpro there is a good chance your child’s friend will know about it being there if they’ve talked about that kind of thing and if they have started unexpectedly may have gone to the nearest place without having to embarrass themselves.

If it’s something else then it depends on the context and what the item is.

I don’t know why you’re not disclosing what the item is? If it’s a sanpro, just say.

From the vague detail you have given; single use product, your child is female, believing someone else might have been in need etc, it sounds as if the missing item is a sanitary product? IF that is the case, you are being utterly ridiculous and down right childish.

For God's sake. I hate posts like these.

Is this mystery item to be used when doing her mystery hobby? Did person A take person's B's item and person C saw it but didn't inform person D, who is somehow also person A?

Nobody is going to figure out who you are if you say that it was a tampon.

For goodness sake - can you not just say what the thing is?

The answers depend a little on what the thing is.
If it's a sanitary towel or tampon, then yeah, it's stealing and it's a pain but I would tend to think someone really needed it and no I wouldn't bother the school about it.

What did your child say about it? Did your child know it was missing? Maybe she gave it to someone else who needed it and didn't want to say.

Why be so cryptic?
Do you want relevant replies or just a big thread of what is it?

Ooh, time travelling devise? Only to be used once per dimension?

This is all very strange indeed.

But no one has informed me.

Why would they and how could they if they don't know the mysterious item was taken?
Or are you implying a member of staff knew your daughter had it and took one to give to someone else who needed one.
There is no way they would do this. They have sanitary towels at schools for cases like this.

If the teacher saw another child with the mystery item, would it be obvious who it belonged to?

YABU for being so irritatingly vague

The age of your child and the item actually do matter, because 4 year olds taking another child’s epipen is a very different situation from a 13 year old taking a sanitary towel out of her friends bag in an emergency is very different to a child taking another child’s lunch to bully them.

If it’s a sanpro, just say.

"It's an item that people of female persuasion sometimes put it between their legs, but throw it away later. Beyond that, I'm not willing to say."