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Original poster

To ask class teacher who went in my childs bag?

376 replies

SamAntHaHa · 09/10/2019 14:09

Something has been taken from my childs bag. It is not valuable and I won't get it back because it's a single use item for personal use.
I don't mind it being used by others but it's unsettling for things to be taken and not be informed by staff or my childs friends if one of them decided they wanted to take it. It feels like something being stolen from their bag since someone went in there without permission and took what they wanted when the bag was in the classroom with everyone elses bags.
AIBU to ask staff who went in my childs bag?
And then to ask the person apologise for taking it from my childs bag without mentioning it since it is stealing?

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MonChatEstMagnifique · 09/10/2019 18:04

I don't think the teacher would have clue who went in your child's bag as the teacher can't see everything.

However, children shouldn't be going in bags belonging to others and the teacher could remind the children of that if you tell her what happened. Some girls start their periods very early and I'm sure they wouldn't want someone going through their bag and finding their sanpro.

ShinyGiratina · 09/10/2019 18:07

Save your ire for the issues that matter, especially if it is a school with issues. Don't waste your credibility.

DS had to do PE in school kit this week, apparently he'd "taken it home". I was pretty sure he hadn't. I asked if I could check the cloakroom because I know how reliable or otherwise DS is over such things... the missing PE kit was on the floor conveniently under his peg. Admittedly, it probably was half drowned in a sea of identically coloured stray cardigans and jumpers by PE time, but even so, if a bag of a full set of clothes can lie undetected, a plaster stands little chance.

It's really not worth getting worked up over a plaster.

🏅to the poster with a close guess of a verucca plaster Grin

SilverySurfer · 09/10/2019 18:22

This thread is fascinating but alas not as fascinating as watching the paint dry on my wall. Hmm

AllDaySnacker · 09/10/2019 18:23

I spent the first 6 pages wishing OP who just say what the item was, then I spent the next 6 pages wishing OP wouldn’t so that I could ask.... ‘Plastic Straw?’

Sadly I missed the boat and I feel like I’ve been cheated out of a guess :(

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SamAntHaHa · 09/10/2019 18:30

@HiHoToffee During the normal school day. It seems to happen lot that kids at first aid get left unattended. When i've been asked to collect my child from first aid i've seen multiple kids there unattended. One of those kids was having trouble with asthma and were borrowing their siblings inhalers since theirs had unfortunately gone missing at school. Disorganised perhaps.

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DrVonPatak · 09/10/2019 18:30

OP, here's a grip, hope you make good use of it. 🔩

I'm over and out.

arethereanyleftatall · 09/10/2019 18:37

I've got three quarters through thread and lost will to live.
Someone needed a plaster. Dd had one. They used it.
Big whoop.
Op, chill out, you'll have a nicer life.

Tiresiasmum · 09/10/2019 18:37

Mention it to your child's teacher and ask what their practice for looking after bags is. They shouldn't be left open for anyone to take things from like that. In my kids' schools they used to lock the doors to the cloakroom during class times so no-one could nip in. It's important for the school to help keep your child's belongings safe. Let them know this has happened.

Knittedfairies · 09/10/2019 18:40

Is it at all possible that your daughter gave someone a plaster?

Dandelion1993 · 09/10/2019 18:41

All this fuss for a bloody plaster.

Move on and get over it.

CurryAndCobra · 09/10/2019 18:44

Un. Real.

TellMeWhoTheVilliansAre · 09/10/2019 19:02

It sounds like you need to remove your child from that school. Feral thieving animals the whole lot of them, including the teachers. Surely there has to be a better school close by?

EdersonsSmileyTattoo · 09/10/2019 19:07

Why are you even giving this headspace?!?

It’s a PLASTER for Gods sake!!!!

OhTheRoses · 09/10/2019 19:11

When ds was 6 he broke his ankle at school at lunchtime. The dinner ladies shoo'd him into school because he didn't cry. At playtime it hurt too much for him to go out. I got a call from the office saying "ho hum, we don't think there's much wrong with him but can you collect".

I took one look at him and knew it was probably broken. He agreed, Mr Tuffy, to get in his baby sisters push hair to get out of school to the car. As soon as we were out he cried and told me I was a brave big boy, I didn't cry in front of the others mummy.

A&E, cast, call to school in the morning. Heard head instigated a full blown i quiry interviewing all concerned.

Back at school next day with chocolates and goodies and cards I felt so sorry for the staff and wanted them to look after him

Common sense op. Do let it prevail.

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SamAntHaHa · 09/10/2019 19:12

@TellMeWhoTheVilliansAre My child doesn't want to be in that school so we are trying to find somewhere to move to.
All the other local schools are full. I frequently consider whether to just home school her.

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wingobingos · 09/10/2019 19:15

Bag rummaging/stolen items aside, the unattended first aid is worrying.

There should be safeguarding measures in place for the first aid areas.

Anything you have witnessed yourself needs mentioning to the school office in a polite way. Also point out that your child's bag may have been rummaged through and ask the teacher to give you some advice or at least look into it.

What year are these kids in?

SchadenfreudePersonified · 09/10/2019 20:04

A plaster?

A PLASTER?!?!?!?!?!

Oh, for fuck's sake! Angry

Dollymixture22 · 09/10/2019 20:08

don’t home school her.

She needs the social interaction that school brings.

perplexedagain · 09/10/2019 20:13

OP with the greatest respect if you are going to kick up a fuss, prioritise the important issues - the bullying, leavings kids unattended in the first aid room - NOT a lost keyring or gauze dressing.

That said I've enjoyed this thread immensely

Kellogscocopops · 09/10/2019 20:15

You are bonkers.

Hope that helps

Do the school allow you to bring plasters? Some children cant have access to them? What would you do if she put that plaster a child with a severe allergy?

Do you also send your child in with an emergency packet of peanuts?

By being ridiculous you have put all of this pressure on your child and upset them.

FaerieKiss · 09/10/2019 20:25

Yes, yes homeschool her, definitely. That way you can exert your obsessive levels of control over every single minute of her day.

Straycatstrut · 09/10/2019 20:28

Great bit of evening wind up OP.

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SamAntHaHa · 09/10/2019 20:40

@Dollymixture22 I know. But leave her in school to be bullied and worse that has already happened. My version of homeschool would be outside and not in my actual home. Out with others etc.
My mate was homeschooled at primary age and he did very well. It was homeschool in a group of kids a couple of miles from where I live now. I don't know why they were homeschooled but he did very well academically and in his career and everything else.

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Lind57 · 09/10/2019 21:18

How do you know about the first aid area being unattended? Did your DD tell you that or is it something you have observed? When you said that 'they said' she got her injury from a tree. Surely your Dd was able to tell you herself how she got injured? It does seem that you have made your mind up that the school is in the wrong. Perhaps homeschooling is the way.

IncrediblySadToo · 09/10/2019 21:23

God no, let the poor wean escape to school each day.

You’re cracked - all this fuss and cloaca & dagger over a dressing FFS

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