To ask if perimenopause is making me hate my husbanc

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kind of light hearted but not

I am 46 and I can barely stand to be in the same room as him. Everything he does irritates the total fuck out of me and I never want to have sex with him again 😬

I have noticed he makes this weird clicking noise when he speaks and it makes me want to throw things 😬

We’ve been together 20 years but if this is perimenopause, I don’t think i can stand it as everything he does annoys me 🙈

Aibu? I feel a bit unhinged

My mum went through this with my dad, and ended up throwing him out of the house. My brother and I were SO confused, as he was a really good husband and father, and we couldn't see/understand any of the tiny things she complained about.

Making him leave made her no happier, so I suggested that perhaps she saw her GP. It took a few years for her to feel fully normal again, and she now realises she made a huge mistake asking my dad to move out - however he now has no desire to move back in, and I can't say I blame him.

All I mean is, see your GP, see if you can get your emotions under control, before you do anything drastic or make any big decisions :).

Going against the grain - I divorced and my menopause was non-existent, after all the perimenopause drama. No HRT needed, just a decree absolute.

And you know what makes me think that might be true for you? The 'never wanting sex again' with him. I had to divorce because I hated the thought of having sex with him.

I've had lots of great sex since. You can too :-D

This thread has had me laughing out loud

I'm definitely post menopause (2 years since last period) and on hrt which has saved my sanity by letting me sleep again. My anxiety levels have dropped to a fairly normal level and I'm only full of rage sometimes now.

Problem is, I feel like the end is in sight for my 20+ year marriage. It's like the scales have fallen from my eyes and all of the things I used to just put up with are not OK. I talked about divorce last year then agreed to 'try again' but I'm really just feeling nothing. Too scared to be on my own, too worried that this is just menopause and it will pass.

Thank heavens for mn, I feel less alone and crazy!

Sadly I have to report that I am 49 and still fucking hate everyone even after 18 months of HRT patches. Which the NHS has just fucking run out of. So unfortunately it might just be that the world is full of annoying arseholes and we all just kind of run out of our socially constructed girly niceness at 47, leaving us correctly furious until we die.

@ChristmasFluff Do you mean you struggled through Peri then the actual Menopause was non existent?

I read it as her saying menopause symptoms were really j just bad marriage symptoms

Reactivating this to support those of you feeling it all a bit too much at this jolly time of the year. Wishing you all well. I've slept on my own for a few weeks and am amazed how it feels to have 7 hours unbroken sleep. It is fucking amazing. I'm still a bitch though.

St Johns wort helps me a little with this. Only a bit though. Struggling this Christmas

Just came across this thread and I laughed so hard @TheGrump and her shooting through the ceiling.

I feel much the same. I live in a country that has a really poor police force and I'm sure I could murder my DH and get away with it.

He makes me mad all the time, huffing and puffing around the house, making a mess, leaving his fucking shoes all over. Following me around, talking shit.

We haven't slept in the same bed for years because he snores and listens to shite on the radio.
He watches more shite on TV then complains when I play on my phone instead!

Well put some decent on then, not some fishing programme, Scrap Heap Challenge or Time Team, or worse old episodes of Dads Army!
Then he will fall asleep watching it! WTAF?

He puts the radio on then pisses off outside and pisses about doing nothing.

I don't care if we never have sex again but I would savage his hot boss.

I am experiencing an awful lot of these things (if man at work makes one more silly fucking noise I swear I will staple his eyelids to his desk) but I am mid 30s. Possible peri?

Dreading the holidays as husband is off until the 3rd Jan. Current annoyances are asking me very simple questions even an idiot knows the answer to, falling asleep in front of the tv and watching sky sports news on a loop. Can I be peri menopausal at 37?