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Is sleeping with 4 people in a month a bit much?

450 replies

holdtheladdersteady · 06/10/2019 20:45

Am I just an old prude?

Is sleeping with 4 different people in a month a bit...I don’t know...grim?

I just found this out about someone and it makes me feel a bit sick. AIBU?

OP posts:
timshelthechoice · 06/10/2019 22:36

sammy, word of advice: do not try to follow that line of, erm, I suppose I have to use the word thinking here. It's like following my Syrian hamster when he's wide awake and running helter skelter in his cage.

TwoPupsandaHamster · 06/10/2019 22:37

LOL, I shagged 3 men in a week once, but I didn'tsleepwith 1 of them, then I was shagging 3 men on the go

Lovely... 🤷‍♀️

rainingallday · 06/10/2019 22:37

@Ilovemypantry

sammylady37 ...Was this in connection with your line of work by any chance? 🤔

Come on, spit it out. Exactly what is it you're calling sammylady?

Don't be shy. DO tell. Hmm

undertheradar76 · 06/10/2019 22:37

Some of the people on this thread are dirty bastards. Bragging about having two people in one night and four people in a weekend. Learn a little self respect people man or fucking woman or alien it's just dirty and nasty...

Get some therapy, @Wereeaglesdare. Do yourself and everyone around you a favour because you're sounding properly unhinged. Other people's sex lives are none of your business. You sound like some sort of incel serial-killer-in-waiting.

UnoriginalUserName948 · 06/10/2019 22:37

Some of the people on this thread are dirty bastards. Bragging about having two people in one night and four people in a weekend. Learn a little self respect people man or fucking woman or alien it's just dirty and nasty and OP I wouldn't be touching him with a fucking barge pole again. Just cos u can eat the cake do you eat the whole fucking thing all the time. I think not.
I think there's something to be said about getting to know one person at a time I'm not a prude either. Isn't it sad we live in a time where grown ass adults have to ask each other out like primary children for fear there may be something going on behind the scenes. Which could all be excused because hey you didn't check you were exclusive. What a shit time we live in. When did we become so fucking entitled to fuck the neighbourhood and put only ourselves first who cares who we fucked even if you didn't catch their name all that matters is you and your great time never thinking they could have an STD or be someone's spouse. Did u cum then good for fucking you.
Dump his ass OP you just gunna be waiting for the day he lines his next girl up and puts his needs before yours.
I'm not saying live like virgins but when your so proud of yourself because u slept with five people in a week u need to re think some shit.

As a fucking bona fide prude who would never have a one night stand, you sound deranged. I couldn't give a fuck who is sleeping with who, and nor should you, unless they are sleeping with you or your husband/partner.
And if someone is shagging your spouse- thats on them.

Closetbeanmuncher · 06/10/2019 22:38

And that kids was the story of how antibiotic resistant gonorrhea found his place in the world....

Sweet dreams

😬😂

sammylady37 · 06/10/2019 22:38

@timshelthechoice thanks for the tip off!

rainingallday · 06/10/2019 22:38

@undertheradar76

PMSL, you sad everything I wanted to say (but didn't have the nerve to!) Grin

TwoPupsandaHamster · 06/10/2019 22:39

I am.
Very pleased with myself actually. Life is good

That's good.. 😐

Wereeaglesdare · 06/10/2019 22:40

@rainingallday

Am I OK hun, yeh I'm great HUN I have a great sex life with a partner I can talk to about anything, I haven't ever been rejected when it comes to sex but then again i don't make myself readily available to anyone who comes along with a cock and a pretty face. I don't think sharing my body with as many men that I meet in a weekend who takes my fancy is something I could do. Purely because I can. I don't even like sharing a drink with a stranger nevermind my vagina with several in the space of a few days. Just dirty to me like I'd think the same of a man doing that.
Don't confuse me saying fuck as aggression and don't be petty hun it just makes u look like a 14 year old tryna win an argument. I'd say don't get your knickers in a twist but hey fuck knows where they are right? Could be at tom dick or Harry's love

timshelthechoice · 06/10/2019 22:41

I've never had an STI.

rainingallday · 06/10/2019 22:41

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timshelthechoice · 06/10/2019 22:42

I don't have a partner, I have a husband, thanks.

rainingallday · 06/10/2019 22:42

@Wereeaglesdare

Why are you so angry?

Latersxx · 06/10/2019 22:43

I slept with 3 blokes in a week in my early 20s .. I was single, used condoms ,,. Why the hell not

Slept with 2 at the same time on another occasion, it was a great evening

Was single for most of my 20s, and had a very hedonistic time ..

Been with my husband for 17 years, and I’ve never looked at anyone else

UnoriginalUserName948 · 06/10/2019 22:46

Wereeaglesdare It's fine if you don't want to shag more than one person. I don't either. But I don't need to concern myself with what other people do either. I will defend their rights to do it and not call them dirty or anything else. I will also defend your right to not shag multiple people. Because the wonderful thing is, we have a choice! So many people in this world do not have a choice, either because they are sold into a shitty marriage, trafficked into prostitution or sexually abused, that I can't get myself worked up about what a consenting adult chooses to do with their sex life.

angell84 · 06/10/2019 22:46

@sammylady37 I do think that having sex with three different men in five days...is shocking. But that's just my opinion.

Leflic · 06/10/2019 22:47

God the whole “dirty” thing is tiresome. Where has that come from?

Feeling the urge to have sex is pretty normal. As is feeling let down by someone who doesn’t like you enough to be faithful. Two different things though.

Wereeaglesdare · 06/10/2019 22:48

I sound like a serial killer cos I use fuck alot. Seriously my views differ to yours and that makes me a serial killer. As I said don't confuse me swearing with aggression it's just how I emphasise my points. Im not angry with anyone I just think it's sad people came on this post to brag about their amazing sex life.

timshelthechoice · 06/10/2019 22:48

Slept with 2 at the same time on another occasion, it was a great evening

Now you're just bragging, Later, LOL Grin

I had the chance to do that and said no, regret it now. That would have been hot!

rainingallday · 06/10/2019 22:49

@Wereeaglesdare

Why does it upset you that some people fuck lots of different people?

Are you jealous?

Do you have some underlying issue? Did you used to fuck lots of men at once, and now feel bad about it, (coz you were found out and judged,) so you are projecting your issues???

I just don't get the intense anger and hatred and vitriol in your angry batshit ranty posts.

Have you sought help? Counselling etc???

Maybe see your GP as soon as possible. .

Get well soon. Flowers

Butchyrestingface · 06/10/2019 22:49

Mumsnet is bizarre. I've been reading one thread where some posters don't want to buy a newspaper someone else might have touched. And now this one where people barely seem to wipe one partner's sexual fluid from their genitals before getting gunked with the next lot.

I am by no means endorsing the sentiment expressed here but I did actually LOL at the turn of phrase. 😳😂

@Wereeaglesdare Had someone else pipped you to the post for the username Whereeaglesdare?

CTRL · 06/10/2019 22:51

The number of women his ‘shagged’ isn’t worrying...what’s worrying is wether his still ‘shagging’ them now as he obviously was when you were with him Hmm

CTRL · 06/10/2019 22:52

OP
If you have to come on here for confirmation then quite clearly this is an issue

InsertFunnyUsername · 06/10/2019 22:52

Why is it considered bragging though? When it's only in retaliation to the posters saying how dirty having sex with multiple people is. It would be bragging if it was on a random thread about, I dunno what car to buy and the poster said "I had sex with 5 people and loved every minute of it" But its relevant to the thread and OP asked opinions, obviously people are going to give examples.

I dont consider the posters who are saying they couldn't do it and have only slept with x amount of people as bragging.