Is sleeping with 4 people in a month a bit much?

[holdtheladdersteady]

Am I just an old prude?

Is sleeping with 4 different people in a month a bit...I don’t know...grim?

I just found this out about someone and it makes me feel a bit sick. AIBU?

When you meet someone that you really like, aren't you super excited about them and only thinking of them, wanting to see them etc?!

No, this does not happen for everyone. Not everyone is a Disney princess. Some people are horny.

YABU
Nothing to do with anyone else

sammylady, well, I'll go further, the 3 I shagged were not friends of mine at all before that, they were just men I'd shagged.

I've got friends who've only had sex with one person in their lives, others who are swingers who have not and will never be in monogamous relationships.

It's a strange thing to judge someone about, IMO, except in this case the OP's boyfriend's a cheater.

Don’t see why it’s grim if everyone involved is protecting themselves as much as they can and no ones cheating on anyone.

I’ve done it when I was younger but not sure I would now as I think I’ve got pickier as I’ve got older and I’d struggle to find 4 people in one month I’d fancy enough to want to sleep with.

If someone’s free and it’s consensual and safe I don’t see an issue.

I do think seeing someone and shagging others is a bit grim though. I’ve never got this “being exclusive “ thing. It was a thing some people went on about when I was young as well. If I was seeing someone, I’d just see them and if I didn’t like them
I’d drop them before moving on to the next one. Who could be arsed dating and shagging multiple people at the same time .

When you meet someone that you really like, aren't you super excited about them and only thinking of them, wanting to see them etc?!

Nope. Sometimes I just wanted to see them naked and fuck them.

Goodness knows what you’d think of me then... I slept with 3 different men in 5 days a few weeks ago

You sound pleased with yourself... 👏👏👏 🙄

I wouldn't like to be with someone who had done that BUT that doesn't mean it's not ok for them to do it, personal choice and all that. BUT your partner is a liar and a cheat. And a repetitive cheat, you think he's changed? But his exGF still doesn't know he cheated several times on her, so he's a good liar. Seriously ditch the skank.

Who does things like that?

Well, quite a lot of us apparently. I've slept with three men in three days. Always been gloriously STD free. Some people just like sex and don't assign any particular emotional importance to it.

I find it kind of sleazy and they wouldn't be my kind of person but assuming all are on the same page then it's up to them.

Some of you sound like proper bitter, spiteful and dare I say - jealous - little people.

I'm glad I'm not repressed and have had the luck to have had sex with as many delicious men as I have.

Just cos u can eat the cake do you eat the whole fucking thing all the time

Sometimes, friends, I eat the cake.

*Phew! Some of the women on here.

"I slept with three men on one weekend
"I slept with three men in five days."

Who does things like that?*

Who cares? Adults can sleep with any other adult they damn well please. It's not anybody else business.

@Wereeaglesdare

'grown-ass adults???'

Seriously, how old are you? 13? 14?

It's u, dammit* raining! When we become overwhelmed with self-righteous morality we have to lapse into the ungrammatical.

^Some of the people on this thread are dirty bastards. Bragging about having two people in one night and four people in a weekend.*

I’m just jealous

YABVU. I once had sex with four men in one week, one of whom I stayed with, we’ve now been together for five years. I loved my ‘ wild ‘ days, and wouldn’t change a thing.

@timshelthechoice

Mah bad dude/dudette!

Guess I aint much ov a grown ass adult eh?

Christ, it’s pretty sad and dare I say it, grim, when an adult is judged to be nasty and dirty for having consensual sex with other adults.

Exactly Sammy.

This is 2019, not the pissing middle ages!

@Ilovemypantry
“@sammylady37
Was this in connection with your line of work by any chance”

Not sure I follow, can you elaborate?

sammy, pay no heed, the person can't even string a sentence together.

Wow the day I get so invested and angry about another person's sex life is the day I realise, I need more sex!

If anyone can explain why a single person having sex with who they want and when they want (the other party wanting it too of course) is so wrong I would appreciate it. The answer cant be because its dirty, as people use precautions etc, Or it cant be because sex is special bla bla because some people just enjoy having an orgasm and can look at someone and think "Yeah you're hot"

I'm failing to see how its morally unacceptable, take away the sexist view that women cant have sex for fun and tell me what morals are they breaking?

@TwoPupsandaHamster
“You sound pleased with yourself... 👏👏👏 🙄”

I am.
Very pleased with myself actually. Life is good.

Not sure why that merits a rolleyes but hey, if it makes you feel pleased with yourself, knock yourself out