Is sleeping with 4 people in a month a bit much?

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Am I just an old prude?

Is sleeping with 4 different people in a month a bit...I don’t know...grim?

I just found this out about someone and it makes me feel a bit sick. AIBU?

I mean some were a bit lacking but never anything that's given me pause or reason to think it's too dangerous.

I absolutely know this won't go down well but I think it's vile - to sleep with 4 different men in a month? Beyond disgusting - I absolutely know that men are vile are are just our for a quick fuck - I'm better than that.

@poopooquichoo because you WANT a relationship.

Many women don't. So what 'more' are we worth?

Well I Understand now why on the cleaning threads some women say they change their sheets everyday.

But I do think it is pretty grim more for the fact it was a couple of one night stands. Not so grim if you are single and have a couple on non exclusive fuck buddy arrangements on the go at once but I am not a fan of ons. I think they are dangerous not only for the women but men as well.

Quick fucks are beyond disgusting? I wholeheartedly disagree.

Well I once slept with 3 in a month, they all turned into fuck buddies for a while but that wasn't the intention

Sod it , I'm 41 and don't think I'll bother with a relationship for a very long time if ever . Im not at all worfied ablut emotional fallout

Worried about

I absolutely know that men are vile are are just our for a quick fuck

Idiotic comment.

You're saying all men are vile and just out for a quick fuck? Include your male relatives in that do you?

Women can be out for a quick fuck too you know. It's not vile, if it's what they want to do.

It just doesn't sit right with some people who would be dating someone who is having regular sex with four other people

The OPs partners actions don't sit right with anyone on this thread. The number of people he slept with isn't the issue but being in a relationship while he's doing it is.

I feel sorry for those who clearly think sex is 'dirty' and am surprised to see so many on this thread. Obviously, this is where the anger and the judgement come from so I'd rather feel sad for them than angry at their anger.

Now I'm just hanging around because I'm invested in @wereeaglesdare s answer to the user name question. Kinda feel like maybe it's being ignored

PSA on behalf of the THREAD POLICE

Can we please stop using the word "grim" it is everywhere on this site at the moment and it's getting right up my nose.

Find another word. I implore you. Expand your vocabulary for the lolz.

Unpleasant
Minging
Vile
Not nice
Yuk
Bleurgh
Gipping

Anything but bloody grim.

YABU

Now I'm just hanging around because I'm invested in @wereeaglesdare* s answer to the user name question. Kinda feel like maybe it's being ignored grin

That has been resolved. A judicious advance search reveals that there is, or was, a poster by the name of Whereeaglesdare on this site. Sadly, they have not posted since 2012. I can confirm however, that they appeared to be of impeccable character and did not career all over threads swearing like a fishwife.

Can we please stop using the word "grim" it is everywhere on this site at the moment and it's getting right up my nose.

Sexing 4 people in one month pure gies me the wet boak.

Ah likes it. 👍

@Butchyrestingface

Excellent. That's the way forward!

To answer the title, it depends on the circumstances. In my neighbour's case, she sends her three children outside while she bonks the boyfriend of the week before Mum gets home, then yes it is. (I kid you all not).

In your case OP and reading your updates, I would be more concerned that he kept an x girlfriend going for 2 months while he initially started seeing you. How did he work that, waited until he bedded you before ending it with her? That in my book is 1 person too many...

But some friends have found themselves in similar scenarios through the course of living a single life and I think well as long as everyone was consenting, who cares?

I guess it comes down to what affects you personally. As I mentioned above, I would be peeved he kept another GF on while initially dating you. That's not classy at all.

Just wondering if Wereeaglesdare is altogether not quite right in her mind? Good at swearing though!

She seems very angry. Needs a good seeing to.

clickymad I am glad to hear that you have never had any experience of sexual violence.

The last two one night stands that I have met off Tinder.

One pushed me into doing things that I didn't want to do, and left me crying and scared of him.
The second one hit me.

By all means do whatever you want to do. I just want to show you why I have arrived at my decision that lots of one night stands ARE NOT SAFE. You are getting into a bed with a man that you know nothing about.

Maybe, as Sammy37 explained - she knows all the men - they are frkends - that is a better arrangement.

I'm now trying really hard to think of a word ..but grim is really stupid word

It's all just about sex with this roaming guy, so you either put up with it, or you don't.

Well I've had lots (and lots) that were all safe.

Pretty much every single thing we do carries an element of risk.

Consenting adults = YABU

Were they though?

At least two of them thought they were in an exclusive relationship, by my reading of the OP's posts.

Knowing the truth about the extent of his sex life in that month might have caused them to look at the prospect of sex with him differently.

It is a bit but then I've never had the opportunity .. lol! How do you even get that many?

I haven't rtft. As long as he is using protection and I wasn't one on his list, then I wouldn't care.
I personally wouldn't be bothered with a man like that in my life these days.
I'd rather watch tv or browse MN.

I caught up on the thread.