Is sleeping with 4 people in a month a bit much?

[holdtheladdersteady]

Am I just an old prude?

Is sleeping with 4 different people in a month a bit...I don’t know...grim?

I just found this out about someone and it makes me feel a bit sick. AIBU?

Yes, Op, it’s fairly grim, for lots of reasons but mainly because he told you, what a bastard. Your partner has very low standards.

I'm finding it strange that a thread about a BLOKE shagging 4 women in one month has turned into a "discussion" slut shaming women.

@rainingallday

You clearly insecure about some of your choices and need validation from the users On mnet fighting your opinion. This is the only reason you are being so defensive over a different opinion. You have no idea about my sex life all you know is that me personally finds the thought of someone sharing bodily fluids with a few different people over the course of two days gross.but this is my opinion. Why you feel the need to jump on people because of this I do not know. Be secure in your decisions and stop assuming and putting words in people's mouths.

1) the emotional fallout - men treating you like shit afterwards

Oh that old chestnut. I quite often didn't ever see them afterwards. No chance to 'treat me like shit'.

And what do you mean by 'treating you like shit' exactly? If it was a fling I'd not expect a bunch of flowers and an engraved necklace. I mean, I'm not expecting a punch in the face but really, a quick 'ta for the lovely orgasm' would suffice.

@Wereeaglesdare

Are you OK?

You clearly insecure about some of your choices and need validation from the users On mnet fighting your opinion. This is the only reason you are being so defensive over a different opinion.

@Wereeaglesdare you're the one swearing and spitting feathers. Clearly lots of sex with different people makes one more laid back and content.

@Wereeaglesdare

Why you feel the need to jump on people because of this I do not know.

Are you kidding me right now?

You say THIS after the nasty, vitriolic, effing and blinding and slut-shaming and nasty bile YOU have been spouting on here???

Are you having a laugh?

Be secure in your decisions and stop assuming and putting words in people's mouths

She's not. She sounds pretty chilled compared to your rant. Tries to think of funny cocks in mouths comment and can't.

Once again @clickymad just because I say fuck alot does not make me aggressive. After all we are talking about fucking are we not.

crosspost with @clickymad

What an absolute JOKE for @Wereeaglesdare to accuse others of 'having a go' after her batshit hysterical rants spitting feathers and screeching like a banshee earlier in the thread, calling people who shag about a lot, dirty vile disgusting pigs and so on...... PMSL!!!

I didn't find sex vulnerable and still don't. Not everyone assigns deep emotion with it.

Once again @rainingallday putting words in people's mouths is the only way you can hold a debate clearly.

Seriously @Wereeaglesdare get help FFS! You sound batshit

And on that note, I am off to bed. SOME of us have work tomorrow!

@clickymad "the emotional fallout."

Are you really that dismissive of other women's experiences . Sex is risky. You are at your most vulnerable with a man when you have sex with them:

Men can be violent.

I have had one night stand with a man in the past , who punched me. And left me bruised.

That is the emotional fallout that I am talking about.

There are risks involved with sex

When did I slut shame! Give me an example your just idiotic.

Sex is vulnerable and there’s potential fallout.

Well, yes.

But crossing the road makes me vulnerable. And there’s potential fallout- I could get knocked down, end up with life-changing injuries or indeed dead.

Eating food makes me vulnerable. I could end up dead from anaphylaxis.

Falling in love makes me vulnerable.
Going on a date makes me vulnerable.

Signing a loan agreement makes me vulnerable.

Having a child would make me vulnerable.

People do thinks every single day that make them vulnerable and they risk the fallout. Also, what others consider to be a potential fallout may not concern the person at all.

It’s about personal choice and values.

Not all of us see sex as this sacred, almost mystical thing to be done only within the confines of a loving committed relationship.

And telling people to fuck off is your idea of debate there, Were?

Who says women have sex exclusively with men ?

@angell84 you didn't mention violence in your original comment. Talk about backtracking and changing the narrative to suit you.

Whatever, I'm going to bed. We're all horrid sluts if it makes you happy to think that. Happy, content sluts though.

I'm not reading the whole thread because I know Mumsnet will be telling you it's fine and perfectly normal to have sex where ever and when ever and shag as many partners as takes your fancy. In the real world? I'm not so sure. Are people really at it like rabbits? I think not. I don't know anyone in real life who is. It sounds very grim to me.

And having sex is much more enjoyable than crossing the road.

@sammylady37.

I think that I have had more violent sexual experiences in the past , then I have had pleasant sexual experiences .

I have had sex where he guy was cruel and violent
so that is probably why I am thinking like this.

I guess we have all had different experiences of sex.

Maybe if I only had had pleasurable sex - I would be happy to have sex with lots of guys every week.

But to me right now - it seems dangerous.

@clickymad but how do you know what guy you are going to get?

Have you seen all the rape cases on tinder

Have you never had a bad experience?

You know what's grim? Judgemental people.

@angell84 I don't actually know how many men I've had sex with. Probably between 60-80. And NOT ONE BAD experience. Not ONE incident of violence.