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Is sleeping with 4 people in a month a bit much?

450 replies

holdtheladdersteady · 06/10/2019 20:45

Am I just an old prude?

Is sleeping with 4 different people in a month a bit...I don’t know...grim?

I just found this out about someone and it makes me feel a bit sick. AIBU?

OP posts:
Butchyrestingface · 06/10/2019 23:10

Or is it just women who mustn't be dirty sluts?

By all means call her out, but I think putting (fairly horrible) words in her mouth is a bit much.

angell84 · 06/10/2019 23:10

@trainingallday why are YOU so defensive.

Are you saying that every woman - should think the same?

InsertFunnyUsername · 06/10/2019 23:11

😇 = 👖🔥

UnoriginalUserName948 · 06/10/2019 23:12

angell84 I apologise for implying you said those words- I was clumsily trying to refer to the way society treat women, not you in particular.

angell84 · 06/10/2019 23:12

@butchyrestingface call me out for what?

My opinion that it is a bit weird for women to be having sex with lots of men every week

Is just as valid as the opinion on here that it is totally fine for women to have lots of sex with different men every week.

Of course people are going to have different opinions on here

angell84 · 06/10/2019 23:13

Thank you @UnoriginalUserName948

Butchyrestingface · 06/10/2019 23:13

@butchyrestingface call me out for what?

Lol! I take it back. @UnoriginalUserName948, go for it! Wink

clickymad · 06/10/2019 23:14

Why is it weird? It's fucking brilliant. Grin

angell84 · 06/10/2019 23:14

@butchyrestingface stand up for yourself, instead of telling some one else to talk for you

InsertFunnyUsername · 06/10/2019 23:15

Butchy was sticking up for you angel...

Butchyrestingface · 06/10/2019 23:15

@butchyrestingface stand up for yourself, instead of telling some one else to talk for you

I don't need to stand up for myself. I was standing up for YOU, you clown. And you threw it right it back in my face. 😂

angell84 · 06/10/2019 23:16

Not in the last post @InsertFunnyUsername

"Lol I take it back"

clickymad · 06/10/2019 23:16

I did a couple of threads similar to this last year. The spite and vitriol was astounding.

Some posters were besides themselves and just didn't believe women who had lots of partners weren't damaged women with no self esteem. Although it smacked a LOT of jealously for the most part.

ReanimatedSGB · 06/10/2019 23:17

I've had sex with five people in a single night. I've had sex with three people at the same time.
It's not how many people you have, or have had, sex with that matters. It's whether you have treated them - and they have treated you - with kindness and courtesy.

angell84 · 06/10/2019 23:17

@Butchyrestingface are you serious? You are so weird.

You just said "lol i take it back, go for it".

Butchyrestingface · 06/10/2019 23:18

Not in the last post @InsertFunnyUsername**

Yes, that was AFTER you threw it back in my face.

Honestly, some people are their own worst enemy. But have it your way.

Willyoujustbequiet · 06/10/2019 23:18

Its gross and yeah I would judge. Also even if protection was used there is still a risk of HPV.

InsertFunnyUsername · 06/10/2019 23:19

I must be missing something 🤔

rainingallday · 06/10/2019 23:20

@ReanimatedSGB

I've had sex with five people in a single night. I've had sex with three people at the same time.

OMG @angell84 and @Wereeaglesdare are going to pass out from shock reading that!!! Grin

Wereeaglesdare · 06/10/2019 23:20

Oh fuck off @VanGoghsDog

When did I say I have slept with one other person I was merely retaliating I admit rather childishly to rains idiotic comments about rejection. At the end of the day your all getting on at Angel because she has a different opinion. Another woman has a differing opinion and you set all women back by assuming she thinks it's because a woman has sex.
This isn't a feminist issue a woman has as much right as a man to sex. It just doesn't sit right with some people who would be dating someone who is having regular sex with four other people.

angell84 · 06/10/2019 23:21

@ReanimatedSGB good post. If anyone on here had actually BOTHERED to ask me why I think the way I do - we might have had more of a discussion.

No it was

"She thinks we are dirty sluts!!!"

When I never said that.

Why I would be against sex with multiple men in a week - is the potential fallout.

Sex is vulnerable.

If you have sex with loads of men in one week, you are opening yourself up to-

  1. the emotional fallout - men treating you like shit afterwards
  2. potential sti's

I personally would not put myself at that rish, until I knew men better.

If the worry and fear stops me having sex with multiple men in one week - that is my right , and the same for lots of other women. I do not want to get myself into risky situations.

It is nothing at all to do with "sluts" or "slut shaming"

To me - it is about being safe

angell84 · 06/10/2019 23:22

*risk

angell84 · 06/10/2019 23:23

Thank you @Wereeaglesdare that is a good post.

rainingallday · 06/10/2019 23:23

@Wereeaglesdare

WTF is wrong with you? Confused

Why are you so angry?

InsertFunnyUsername · 06/10/2019 23:25

Tbf angel you never said any of that in the first place. You said something along the lines of "The women on this thread, who does that???" After hearing peoples experiences. You weren't exactly asking for a discussion either.