Husband buying other women drinks on night out?

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NC as I don't want this thread following me around.

I don't know if IABU.

For context: DH and I happily married, no infidelity on either side, 2 pre-school age DC together.

Husband goes out last night and comes home around midnight but coherent and not particularly drunk. I ask him how his night was and what they got up to and in the midst of other stuff that happened during his evening he said he'd bought some girls a drink. I really didn't like this!! He and his colleagues are all married with kids - is this normal or appropriate? Would you be mad if your DH did this?

I should add: I quite frequently get bought drinks by men on nights out with my girlfriends and I always accept, even though I'm a married mum of 2! Goes without saying it never goes any further than a chat a laugh and a drink. Am I being a hypocrite then?

Additional context: The drinks were expensed through the company so he wasn't throwing away family money.

You are being incredibly unreasonable. End of.

I wouldn’t be happy with this but then I also wouldn’t accept drinks from random men on nights out either so you are both being unreasonable.

Are you serious?! Grow up. You cant accept drinks but not allow him to get drinks, drinks that he's not actually paying for.

You're both being unreasonable.

I know this isn't the AIBU but I am shocked that he expensed these drinks through the company. Is that really in line with company expense policy??

Absolute hypocrite. And totally unreasonable

I am shocked that he expensed these drinks through the company

Are you really this naive?

I think if it was his work colleagues fair enough. Some random women then no.
What is a bit odd though is him telling you he bought some women drinks? Why would he say that? Is he trying to make you jealous or something?

@Bucatini he and his two colleagues are the founding directors of the company so doesn't really matter.

I wouldn't have any respect for him at all for doing this. He's trying to impress these girls on a night out (why would he do that?) and it's not even his money. He's taking company money to do it. I see that as stealing. He sounds like an idiot.

I knew someone who did similar (but worse), treating groups of people not related to his business to meals out on business money. He thought it made him look good. He was made redundant soon after and carried a chip on his shoulder about it for years after. People like this tend to be insecure underneath and I just wouldn't want to be around them.

I should add: I quite frequently get bought drinks by men on nights out with my girlfriends and I always accept, even though I'm a married mum of 2! Goes without saying it never goes any further than a chat a laugh and a drink. Am I being a hypocrite then?

Yes you are. Why is it ok for you to accept drinks from men you don’t know but not for your DH to buy a woman one?

Surely you know yabu?

But you openly admit to accepting drinks from strange men on nights out? YADBVVU. He bought them drinks but still came home to you.

I wouldnt like this. I think yabu for accepting drinks, but he is more U for buying them. Sometimes accepting just feels polite depending on the situation but offering a strange group of women drinks is quite flirtatious and those women would have probably seen it as him coming onto them/flirting with them.

I guess if it's his company it's not quite stealing. But it's still using money from the business to impress women. Where would that money be going otherwise? And why is he trying to impress other women on a night out? It would really annoy me. Then again I wouldn't be accepting drinks from strangers either.

FFS why has this thread been posted.
He buys, you get bought drinks and accept them ?.
You are both in the wrong.
Get the picture ?.

I wouldn't like it. I don't really go on nights out drinking anymore but back when I did, the men buying me drinks always thought it was a sign I was interested if I accepted and would then try and flirt with me. It was never just buying a drink and sitting elsewhere, they would always want to join me and my friend.

Jesus christ everyone needs to calm down! It's a drink! And op is s hypocrite. End of

Total hypocrite.

HTH.

That does sound hypocritical

Presumably you think it's okay to accept drinks from strange men because it's not you initiating the flirting. You always thought your DH was better than these men, but now you've found out he isn't. I don't suppose it matters in the grand scheme of things, but I can see how it's faintly disappointing.

You’re mad

Jesus christ everyone needs to calm down! It's a drink! And op is s hypocrite. End of

Looks like you’re the only one who isn’t calm here

Men only buy drinks for women for one reason. Because they want to shag them.

By you accepting a drink off a random man, you are showing your interest back.

You both sound like pricks tbh.

Definitely hypocritical OP!

Would you be mad if your DH did this?

I wouldn’t bat an eye but that’s because I trust my DH. I know he has bought guys he’s met on a night out drinks too. It’s about intention!