Obviously no woman should feel obligated that she has to accept having visitors, however many women are still vulnerable after having their babies and feel obliged to accept it as to not cause conflict even when they have every right to say no.
Some poster said something about not understanding why someone would have family wait weeks and that it was about a power struggle. That’s not the case for some of us.
Yes, the second time we made a two week rule, but when you both recall how you felt the first time around having guests, you try not to make the same mistake twice. My mum lives in the States and she didn’t mind us wanting to have the time to ourselves with a new baby and 2 yo. She booked a flight four weeks from my due date in case I went over (I did by 4 days) and stayed with us afterwards for 10 days. It was great because, we weren’t stuck in the house and took the boys out and went different places.
We then drove up to my in-laws when he was a month old so all of my husband’s side (parents, siblings, aunts and uncles, nieces and nephews ) could meet him and they all were able to have a cuddle, take pictures, and such which was better with him older because he was quite alert and giving hints of smiles.
If my husband’s parents felt jilted by it, they would have had to take it up with their son. Even though we agreed to it, it was his idea of no visitors for two weeks. He spent most of his paternity leave in the hospital with me and barely any time with us alone before his parents turned up the first time around. He admitted feeling horrible having to leave me with them to go to work knowing I wasn’t comfortable and was allowing it all to make his parents happy.