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DP putting cheese on every single meal I make!

138 replies

Chembe · 03/10/2019 17:47

I really like to cook. I spend probably at least an hour every night making something for tea.

Maybe I'm just over reacting, but my dp puts grated cheddar or double gloucester (depending what's in the house) on every single meal I make. The only exception is curry...

Now I understand that a bit of grated cheese is nice on some things, fajitas, spag bol maybe but I've made two cheesy pasta dishes this week and he's put cheese on them too and it's just really got on my nerves! First was macaroni then tonight I made a tomato and mascarpone sauce, which he said tasted lovely, then takes a couple handfuls of cheese to put on top. Every dinner time he stands and grates cheese to put on the table. ! We've been together 7.5 years so this isn't new but I just want to know if I'm being unreasonable in finding it so frustrating. I find it quite offensive to be honest that none of my meals are palatable without a handful of grated cheese! Sad This turned into a bit of a womble Blush

OP posts:
DustyMaiden · 03/10/2019 17:49

Any meal is improved with cheese, waistlines not so much.

Scarydinosaurs · 03/10/2019 17:49

That sounds like a very easy way to add calories to a meal. Is he very slim and needs more calories in his dinner? When I was trying to gain weight I’d add cheese or cream cheese to my meals.

DonnaDarko · 03/10/2019 17:51

You can never have too much cheese

TheEmojiFormerlyKnownAsPrince · 03/10/2019 17:51

Mmmmm cheese on cheese. I love cheese. Can’t have enough imo.

Are you being a tad controlling?

Grumpbum123 · 03/10/2019 17:51

Nothing is made inedible without cheese I don’t see your problem!

Grumpbum123 · 03/10/2019 17:51

With cheese god dammit

onanothertrain · 03/10/2019 17:51

I add cheese to lots of things and would certainly add it to the two things you've mentioned.

Vulpine · 03/10/2019 17:51

Why does it matter? Its not an insult. My dh has been known to get a little irritated when i season food he's cooked. Its a tad controlling to suggest how others should eat their food.

Leftielefterson · 03/10/2019 17:52

Sorry OP I’m siding with your DP here, there’s no such thing as too much cheese.

thisisthetime · 03/10/2019 17:53

Can’t help but my dh adds really hot chilli sauce to all the meals I cook! As if to disguise the flavour but he says he loves my dinners and he just likes chilli. I get your annoyance!

RiddleMeThis2018 · 03/10/2019 17:53

A friend’s DH puts chilli sauce on everything she cooks. Drives her insane. YANBU.

Stayawayfromitsmouth · 03/10/2019 17:53

Does he put cheese on a Sunday roast or a stir fry? Is it actually every meal or are most of your dishes cheese based anyway?

Kyvia · 03/10/2019 17:53

I much prefer pretty much any kind of pasta with grated cheese on top!

I do know what you mean, my DP always puts soy sauce on pasta dishes I cook without even tasting them first, it bugs the hell out of me, BUT he’s not meaning it as a specific comment on my cooking. He just likes that and he’s the one eating it. I have learned to be less sensitive about it and not take it personally.

ABoxersMum · 03/10/2019 17:54

My OH puts red or brown sauce on almost everything. Frustrating but I’ve learnt to ignore it

CanISpeakToYourManager · 03/10/2019 17:54

See, my DP did put cheese on curry.

I think my cooking wasn't very nice. He does it now.

ArnoldWhatshisknickers · 03/10/2019 17:54

Totally unreasonable I'm afraid.

There's no such thing as too much cheese.

DeadDoorpost · 03/10/2019 17:54

DH likes to add extra seasonings. I don't find it offensive, he just likes to taste things stronger than me.

Your DH may just like cheese way too much. But if hes telling you he likes the food you've made, I wouldn't worry.

Saying that, DH did make a comment about my lack of enough cheese in the first lasagne I made for us after we got married. He took a bite and said "this isn't as cheesy as my mum's lasagne". I told him he could move back home if he wanted her lasagne. He's not made a comment since, but I do add more cheese....

Fere · 03/10/2019 17:54

if he needs more calories and portions are small this may be the reason.

Is he slim?

HeckyPeck · 03/10/2019 17:55

HIBU not to add cheese to curry. It’s delicious!

Earthandsky · 03/10/2019 17:55

Well if he’s been doing it for 7 years I think it’s time you got used to it and don’t take it personally.

embarassednewname · 03/10/2019 17:55

I add cheese to almost everything. It is not a criticism of your cooking. The man likes cheese. That's it. He's a grown man, if he wants cheese, he should be able to have cheese.

NearlyGranny · 03/10/2019 17:55

My DH does this with Tabasco sauce. I just shrug these days but I used to feel mildly offended by it. I thought my cooking was being judged bland.

Now I understand his taste buds are all burned out and he needs Tabasco to taste anything. 😆

You could hide the cheese?

LauraPalmersBodybag · 03/10/2019 17:56

Completely reasonable to put cheese on top of pretty much all pasta...though wouldn’t Parmesan be nicer?

Agree with @stayaway would he put it on something weird like fish or a stir fry?

OnlyTheTitOfTheIceberg · 03/10/2019 17:56

I have Parmesan on every pasta dish I eat, regardless if there's cheese in the sauce already. No reflection on anyone else's cooking, I just adore Parmesan and ultimately they're my taste buds.

icannotremember · 03/10/2019 17:57

Cheese makes everything better though!

You've reminded me of a friend DH used to have. When it was his wife's turn to cook, she would complain bitterly that he always added ketchup or something similar to the meal she gave him, and that she thought it was rude. I remember thinking then that she was BU, it would be like complaining that someone added salt or pepper to a meal.

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