DP putting cheese on every single meal I make!

[Chembe]

I really like to cook. I spend probably at least an hour every night making something for tea.

Maybe I'm just over reacting, but my dp puts grated cheddar or double gloucester (depending what's in the house) on every single meal I make. The only exception is curry...

Now I understand that a bit of grated cheese is nice on some things, fajitas, spag bol maybe but I've made two cheesy pasta dishes this week and he's put cheese on them too and it's just really got on my nerves! First was macaroni then tonight I made a tomato and mascarpone sauce, which he said tasted lovely, then takes a couple handfuls of cheese to put on top. Every dinner time he stands and grates cheese to put on the table. ! We've been together 7.5 years so this isn't new but I just want to know if I'm being unreasonable in finding it so frustrating. I find it quite offensive to be honest that none of my meals are palatable without a handful of grated cheese! This turned into a bit of a womble

That’s not weird at all. I always put cheese in pasta. Doesn’t matter what the sauce is.

It's his food for heavens sake. He obviously likes cheese so just let him crack on. My dad puts hot pepper sauce on everything and I mean everything. He's perfectly entitled to adjust it to his taste.

theres never such a thing as too much cheese

What’s the issue?

His an adult, if he likes cheese, wants to put cheese on his meal why can’t he? It’s his food he can add what the hell he likes to it

Also you can never have too much cheese 🧀

You really don’t need a mumsnet post with your sad face about this

Why wouldn't meals have cheese added to them? Many things are great with cheese.

Does he do it for Sunday lunch/ Chinese / foods that don't logically go with cheese?

I think you're making the mistake of taking it as a personal criticism

Sorry but yep I'm with dp, you can never have enough cheese.

There’s no such thing as too much cheese
I really wouldn’t get upset about this. It’s not a comment on your cooking, it’s just his personal preference, like adding sugar to your coffee or salt on your chips.

For what it’s worth, macaroni cheese with grated cheddar on top is my ultimate comfort food.

Yabu you can never have enough cheese

Totally legit to put cheese on the dishes You mentioned.

YABU.

Totally.

Sorry.

Everything is better topped with grated cheese, especially any kind of pasta dish!! Haven't tried it on curry but am now definitely going to!!

Hi, my name is Nottheduchess and I too am a cheesaholic. It is no criticism of your food but just the need for a cheese dish with a side of extra cheese. Is it the cost of the cheese? Or is he very obese? If no then you should just let him be and gorge himself on the delicious milky cheesy cheseness that is cheese, all hail cheese

YABU. He's not trying to say he doesn't like your food.
Would you be this upset if he put black pepper on everything??

Well now I want cheese...

'A bit of a womble'? Are you taking my name in vain OP?

I dont understand the concept of too much cheese. It's up there with left over wine

Okay, I'm totally unreasonable! Point taken I showed DP the post and he is feeling quite chuffed. For the record I've never stopped him having cheese and I don't moan about it.. to his face anyway. I shall stop taking offence!

My GD used to smother all his food cooked by GM in Brown sauce because she was an awful cook...

So I can see why you think that

Is the issue that you have spent time and effort creating the perfect dish and then he 'adds' to it without realising you had the flavours already perfectly balanced? If so my DH does this. We've had words. He also adds bread and butter to EVERY meal whether it goes or not. I feel your pain OP.

It’s loaded with saturated fat and hormones, not good to OD on the stuff!!

Sorry but YABU. Cheese is delicious and he is an adult. I’m sure it’s no reflection on your cooking.

Plus, he should try adding it to curry as it’s a revelation!

He is bu for not putting cheese on curry, so good!

I know what you mean OP - it's the thoughtless habit of it that would make me feel annoyed.

It really bothers me when people add salt without tasting their food - how do they know how much to add?

I suppose I associate it with school dinners - there seemed to be a phase where everyone started adding salt and pepper to seem "grown up". As a result I always find it a bit childish :)

Does he put cheese on a roast dinner? A casserole? Toad in the hole? I would find cheese on those kind of dinners pretty weird.

I love to cook too, and spend a lot of time & thought & effort on our meals. If he grated some cheese to smother on any meal I made (other than spaghetti or jacket potato) I would not cook for him again. It’s rude, changes the tone of the dish & is so childish. Much like adding ketchup or smothering in hot sauce or seasoning. But I am part French and we take our meals seriously!

Mainly I think it's a daft thing to do - a way of making everything taste the same.

If someone is underweight and trying to gain a few pounds, then it makes sense. Or if somebody has been doing hard manual work so needs more calories than the cook who's been doing something sedentary.

Cheese tastes better at the end of a meal - with crackers, grapes, celery. Then you can enjoy it properly.