To think I should pay 1/3?

[stickeritup]

Travelling with my cousin and his wife to another cousin’s wedding in a different part of the country. They have one child, who’s also coming. I don’t have any.

We’re hiring a car because neither of us has a big enough one. The cost is £120. I assumed we’d pay £40 each for the three adults. Cousin has text saying ‘so that’s £60 each’, meaning £60 for me and £60 between him and his wife.

I don’t think this is right. AIBU? I know it’s only £20 but it happens all the time when some couples assume that they count as ‘one’.

You pay 1/3.

Only an utter CF would expect you to pay 1/2 to subsidise them.

Like the CFs who don't buy you a drink when you're in a round, because they're with their partner and they bought a round.

C-grabby-Fs!

I'd be happy with 50/50 to be honest. If they hired a car for themselves they would all go together not hire a car each.

That's definitely the right decision, OP

After all, it's not just the journey up you have to consider - if you were to then have the trip from hell in the back of the car with a 1yo, you have no choice but to repeat the experience in the opposite direction too. The sheer prospect of that might well sour your experience of the entire weddin.

What about 50/50 and he picks up the bill for the fuel and drives

I'm with you op 3 adults, each benefiting so £40 each

I would take your own car and let them take theirs or hire one.

Missing the point of the thread but I drove from the North West to Inverness earlier this year and (aside from the busy motorway around Glasgow) once you are past around M6 J36/Lakes its a lovely drive with some stunning scenery so I think you'll enjoy going at your own pace and taking it all in (and without singing about the Wheels on the Bus!)

Love your response

OP I see you're probably going to avoid & that sounds like the best outcome for you and probably also the relationship.

Some people just can't get their heads around the idea that a single person, a couple and a family (of whatever size and configuration) aren't not all 'one unit'. Sometimes it's not worth the grief.

I generally try to avoid shared long journeys unless it's really close family. I've given lifts to friends and tbh I've had better outcomes all round when it's my car, I'm setting the rules and everyone knows whats what upfront. More than two adults equally sharing a hire has always been a nightmare IME. Add a grouchy toddler and it could get quite unpleasant.

If they hired a car for themselves they would all go together not hire a car each.

However if the total cost for that car was £120, it would still work out at £60 per person as there are two adults in the couple.
They just happen to share finances so to them it's the same money.

But if you then add a single person to the group and it becomes 3 adults, why is it then £60 for the single person and £30 for each adult in the couple?

Couple entitlement...

Pay half but then don't pay for any fuel?

Car hire plus petrol for 1 car vs. petrol only for 2 cars.

Petrol for 2 cars has to be cheaper.

Honestly - put this in context. If something were to happen to your cousin/family - how would you feel about it, realising you've been privately or publically quibbling over £20? Life is short, and you never know what it might bring. Enjoy the wedding!

Well played OP!

Honestly - put this in context. If something were to happen to your cousin/family

What if something were to happen to OP? How would cousin/wife feel about fleecing her for £10 each?

I am someone who has travelled from the NW of England to the Highlands of Scotland a lot. From SW England is going to be FAR more than a 9 hour journey - more like 11 or 12 hours on a good run and with a kiddy that small? 😂😂😂😂👌🏻 Good luck. We travelled with our son who was between 6 and 10 and it was bad enough, and he’s a great traveller. Personally I think 1:3 is absolutely fair. Anything else is a piss take. But IMHO you’d be better driving yourself OP.

@VioletCharlotte - agree with you plus it will make a point. 2 incomes v 1 income. I think they are being grabby, especially as you will probably have to share the back seat with their child

North West to Inverness is at least 7 hours in the middle of the night. Add on the South West and it's another 5 hours.

@stickeritup Op have they replied ? 😂 I find this thread hilarious, takes me back to when I was 16 and my DS and her family said I could go on holiday with them (to a villa) they wanted my parents to pay half the villa even though they were 2 adults and 3 kids... safe to say I didn't go!

If I was your DC id happily pay for the full car just to get the shared driving when you have a baby!

Toddlers aren't that bad, shove peppa pig on and feed them snack they are fine 😁 never had a problem with DD doing 4 hour straight journeys x

Oh goodness- never mind the cost, I couldn’t face the thought of that car journey!

Totally off topic, but how tiny are your cars that you don't have one to seat 4 people?! grinor just how much luggage is being taken?

Now all you need to do is create a banging playlist for the journey!

I love a long drive though so I'd be very pleased to drive on my own

Inxs - "baby don't cry"

I think 50:50 too. They wouldn’t have to pay for more than one car would they?

They sound like CF! Has he replied?